Hello all! I need some advice! I'm a Gemini woman and super attracted to this cancer guy! It's such a complicated situation, I want to run! We met by chance back in February. This guy was like a magnet...I mean he really drew me close. It was an immediate attraction! I have never felt so close to anyone. We are the same age, birthdays are a few weeks apart. We have soooo much in common, except the way we express emotion! I was married to an Aries for 13 years and separated last year. My cancer guy has been divorced for 2 years with 2 daughters. I knew him for about a month before he took me to his house to meet his daughters.
Our relationship seemed to be escalating, we were spending more and more time together. In early June..he started getting distant. During a conversation one night, we started talking about our relationship. That night he pretty much made it clear that we were only friends and that he never promised me anything. I was devastated. He seemed surprised that i wanted more. In the beginning he stated his main focus was raising his daughters and he wasn't looking to settle down. I agreed with him, because i thought that is what he wanted. A week later, I called his phone and a woman answered! Long story short, they new each other since high school, dated a few times, his mother wanted him to marry her...he ran into her at the store one day and they started talking. In her words, they decided to get married and be together forever. In his words, he was rushed into it because his mother wanted it. She moved in with him. I kept talking to him as a friend. I realized that our relationship suffered a serious lack of communication as far as how we felt about each other. After she came into the picture, we talked a lot and became even closer. I stopped being intimate with him, but realized we were good friends and have so much in common, so i didn't want to lose our friendship. We are able to see each other often because of his work schedule.
Now..he is telling me that he rushed into this but it's hard for him to get out of his situation. His family knows her family and his daughters are close to her, etc etc. He basically offered me half of him! He says I try to make him "mushy" and he doesn't express his feelings. I have to know how he is feeling...he says i analyze him too much! His actions do show that he has feelings for me. If i read between the lines...little things do slip out. He has told me on more than one occasion that he has never been so close to a woman, as he is to me. I just don't get it....if he wanted me then why rush into a relationship the way he did. He swears that he thought I didn't want to settle down and if he would have known , he would have done things differently. He knows he hurt me, and he has apologized with tears in his eyes.
I wonder why I'm so attracted to him...it is unlike anything I have ever experienced. I refuse to be the mistress, so I wonder what could possibly become of this situation. I will always want more than a friendship with him...yet I find it so hard to let go.