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Hi FortySix2,

I'm a female Pisces experiencing a similar dilemma with a Virgo guy. We've never dated, just always been close friends. My situation seems to be a bit more complicated than yours, so I won't go into detail, but I'll give you my perspective just in case it helps.

We are very comfortable with each other and seem to balance each other out fairly nicely. My feelings for him are always lingering, but I haven't brought them up. I don't want to risk the amazing friendship we have, plus I don't want to be rejected. I feel like he's always waiting for me to make a move, but at the same time, I'm waiting for him to make one as well. He sees/ talks to other girls which leads me to believe that he doesn't have feelings for me. But at the same time, we could be so good together, so I don't know how he can't see it.

Unfortunately, the Captain's explanations seem to fit for me. I think I tend to see him in a very romanticized light... I see what I want to see, not what's actually there. But this is something I've been aware of and I still can't seem to stay away ha.

My advice for you is to tell her how you feel. Maybe she's thinking the same thing and is just too scared to say it. And if she doesn't feel the same way, at least you have closure and can move on. Isn't it funny that when you try to give someone else advice, you always end up telling yourself what you need to do? haha

I'm not sure if I was any help, but I'd be happy to talk more.

Good luck

I have never met a guy with the same birthday as me, but my best girl friend and I have the same birthday, including the same year. We are very very similar- it's kind of crazy!

Hey everyone,

Sorry no replies, I was out of town for the weekend and have been trying to get my life back to normal. Everything has been really chaotic. Trying to find an apartment, pay the bills, etc. I'm going to catch up as soon as I can, hopefully even later tonight! Hope everyone is doing well!

As for me... haven't spoken to the Scorp in over a month. BUT... a former Crab flame has been contacting me a lot lately. I guess there WAS a good reason for me joining this thread hahaha. I never thought that we would even be friends again because he moved to another town and we hardly ever talk... we kind of drifted apart. But around the time of the first eclipse he started texting me out of the blue. And then this week we've texted twice. A few days ago we were talking about how we both wanted to travel and go on a road trip. He went to a concert the next night so I texted him the day after, asking how it went. We ended up talking about our falling out, and he admitted that he had been an asshole and a fool. I didn't deny that statement haha but I also said I'd love to start over. It's long story of course... but it's been two years since there was anything between us. Reading the recent posts about the insecurities of crabs and their use of jealousy... it all makes sense now.

Not to mention my horoscope earlier this week told me to pay attention to my dreams because they are trying to tell me something. And the night before I had dreamt that one of my former roommates/ good girl friends were in a huge fight and I was sobbing, very disappointed and angry with her! I couldn't figure out what it meant because I rarely ever had any issues with this friend except when she really hurt my feelings by becoming good friends with my Crab (she kind of replaced me I guess you could say haha). But the crazy thing is, the following night, he apologized to me. Maybe my dream was a warning, but his apology was completely unexpected.

Looking back on it now, I guess maybe he was just trying to make me jealous by hanging out with my friend. I just thought he didn't like me because he couldn't make up his mind either... friend, lover, enemy... I felt threatened and that his feelings weren't there so I moved along. He finally apologized, and I suggested a fresh start now that we've both done some growing up. Wish me luck?!

Oh and PS~ I still feel weird from the eclipse... big life changes ahead!

Hey everyone! I realize that my responses might be a little irrelevant now, but I'm going to post them anyway and then I'll post an update for me. Hope everyone is having a great week

Moon-

About the law of attraction~ I'm definitely a believer. I'm sure that you did attract those things. And that's amazing!! How exciting for you! I'm sorry I haven't kept up very well lately, but did you meet your goal?

Kel~

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And then I get mad and upset and I feel like everything is about Aries, for instance, I wanted to talk to hima nd open up to him about an epiphany I had about the future of my house flipping business and the future of my friendship with my Aqua-ex. So I started to talk about it, something I said reminded Aries about something that happened to him. So he butted in, told his story and then that story reminded him of another story and then 10 minutes later, he's run his mouth and we're completely off topic. I patiently wait until he's done and then refinish telling my epiphany...I mean it shouldn't really bother me, but I really took it personally that he couldn't shut up for 5 minutes and let me tell him something important

I hate that about aries! I never get a chance to get a word in because they always have a much better and more exciting story to tell! Haha I do love them, but I know the feeling! Sometimes I think you have to literally tell them to stop talking and to listen to you. Sometimes they get carried away haha

(Copy - Paste) "I've read that about Cancer males...we're really flirty with everyone because we're so insecure...I don't know if this is the same thing though...I dunno...anyone?"

From what I've noticed, Cancer males are usually very flirtatious. I wasn't aware of the insecurity though! I think everyone is insecure in their own way... especially when there are feelings involved. I'm sorry Kel, I don't know how you couldn't be looking great right now, with all of the work you've been doing! Just try to stay positive and remember that Aries does care about you and find you attractive. Attention from other guys (i.e. Scorp/ Taurus/ Libra ;)) will only make you more confused about your feelings for Aries. SEE KEL? You have a 1/3 of the Zodiac who would love to be with you. I'm proud of you for stopping yourself from texting them. I agree with SV, I say use this time away from Aries to sort your thoughts. Looks like you're already working on it though

SV~

I love the online diary idea. I tried to start writing in mine for 30 minutes every day, but I never have time! How often do you write?

About the reading (I know I'm late.. sorry!) Try not to take it to heart. Obsessing over it will only make them come true. Choose to ignore it

Here's a copy/ paste: so, the restaurant owner, my good friend, has told me once again that I need to start being nicer to people in general. I told him that it seems like it's only him and his crew(which includes cancer boy) that think that I'm "mean". Everyone of my other friends gets along with me just fine and loves me the way that I am.

That's funny that you should mention this, because I used to work with a Crab who would always tell people (even in front of me) that I was actually a b)tch even though everyone else thought I was sweet! It annoyed the hell out of me. He probably has worn off on the owner, unfortunately. Maybe he's just threatened because the owner is friends with both of you, and he wants to look better? I'm not sure. Either way... very frustrating!!

Hi all! I haven't caught up yet but I wanted to stop by and say hello. Is anyone else feeling incredibly weird today? I feel like there is something really weird about this day. Must be the eclipse. I'm definitely feeling it in other areas of my life. What about everyone else?

Sorry I haven't been on at all... my internet got shut off at home because my roommates didn't pay the bill. Last time I paid the whole thing and they never paid me back, so I'm going to wait for someone else to pay this time ha. I haven't been able to blog or catch up on here at all!! So annoying.

As for the Keratin treatments, they are expensive but certainly worth it. I'm the manager of a salon and we've been doing them for about 6 months or so. I haven't gotten one because I like working with the natural texture of my hair but I've seen some great results on co-workers and clients. Also, have you ladies heard about Morrocanoil products? Their oil treatment is the most amazing thing I've ever tried. And the smell is amazinggg There's my beauty rave for the month haha. But if anyone has questions, I'd love to help.

I need to do some serious life organizing and blogging today. I'm feeling the need for a fresh start right now. Need to find an apartment and clean the house. ahh... lol. Hope everyone is doing great!

And Kel~ Happy Birthday!! I hope it was great!!

Hi everyone!! I'm really behind too. The sun finally came out!! I would love a days of our lives update too Here's a few random thoughts from the last few pages-

Moon~ I'm also really great at "falling on the seat of my pants" if my shoes are too high. I'm always afraid of that!! Haha

Katie~ I loved your list of the things you've learned. All very impressive lessons... ones I'm slowllyyy learning myself And I'm also having a hard time with my summer reading. I've started about 4 books already! I want to read them all, then I don't end up finishing them!!

X-tine~ Have fun! So jealous you are at the beach! We have hardly gotten any sunshine yet this summer!!

Kel~ No I don't mind you asking at all! I'd say my biggest problem with my dad is that he is really flaky and only seems to think about himself... which isn't always a bad thing, but I always put others needs in front of my own. So I have a tendency to expect others to do the same thing, but I don't know if that's reasonable haha. For example, he promised to help me move into the dorms my freshman year of college but then went to Vegas instead and bought me a Tiffanys necklace to make up for it.... but it didn't work ha. Other than that we get along really well. I don't really know any other Aries men. I have a few close female relatives and girl friends that are Aries though. I read somewhere that an Aries never really belongs to you, they belong to the world. I guess that seems to play true in my experiences Now that I'm older it's a lot easier for me to see the good in my dad...when I was younger I didn't quite see the whole picture. Have you noticed these things with your aries??

happy birthday moon!! hope it's amazing

SV~ Thanks! I'm trying to take care of myself but I'm really starting to miss real food haha

Moon~ I'm craving chocolate so bad right now haha. funny you said that! Maybe I'll have to get a chocolate milkshake?;) Yes sounds like your ex did give you some food for thought. Yikes... but really... don't they ALL wait until it's too late to tell us how they feel? Lol at least thats how it always seems to work for me I also tend to be attracted to the impossible situations and the most complicated men. What sign is your ex again? I don't think I know much of his story

Xtine~

Something similar happened to me once when I was really young... probably 4th grade. I told my dad I wanted to wake up for school at 5:15AM (no idea why lol) and of course he said no. But somehow I managed to roll off my bunk bed (the top one) and sprain one of my fingers.. right at 5:15AM. So I got what I wanted... in a totally bizarre way haha. I never thought of that as the law of attraction but yeah...otherwise it was a strange coincidence

Kel~

I used to exercise a lot when I was in high school and participated in a lot of sports (love volleyball!!) but lost the interest (and the time!) while I was in college. Now that I've graduated and have more free time I definitely want to start running! I think it will help me stay grounded and I could definitely use the endorphins!

I'm excited that you signed up for the daily love! let me know what you think! I'm going to check out Zappos now. I have problems shopping online because I get easily distracted lol. But I'm going to give it a shot. Also, my dad is an Aries. I might be able to help you with some of your concerns? I haven't kept up too much lately though so you might have to give me a re-cap. I'd be more than happy to help though!

As for me, I'm doing okay. I got all four of my wisdom teeth removed yesterday so I'm in a lot of pain. Pretty much just slept and got sick all day yesterday. I'm recovering at my mom's house because I live out of town. I'm ready to be back at my own house! Feeling much better today, but really lonely for some reason. Just one of those days I guess!! And my mom's internet is about dial-up speed and she doesn't have wireless access so I didn't get to catch up as much as I wanted to. But I'm still here!!

I'll be back at my house tomorrow night and don't have to work again until Saturday so I'm excited about that! just bummed that my break from work had to be to get my wisdom teeth out and not to do something exciting, but maybe next time haha.

Moon~

I'm sorry but I got a good chuckle out of your story about the mystery car. That totally sounds like something I would do so don't feel bad!! And I say you go to the reunion and show off your sexy self;) and congrats on deleting scorps mail. I bet that was HARD!! I think the teeth whitening as a reward is a good idea. Gives you something to work towards!

Kel~

Love the new running shoes! I was just thinking that I was going to make my goal this next week to get some new tennis shoes so that I can be motivated to start working out. Did you order them from Nike's website? Or do you have any suggestions as to where I could find some good deals? I know exactly what you mean about losing self confidence and feeling bad about life when you're down on yourself. I get the same way. I am untouchable when I am in tune with myself and my emotions and have confidence in my abilities. If someone or something unexpectedly knocks me down, I suddenly feel lost. And it takes me a while to get back to that place. I'm going through that right now. I don't know if it's just a crab thing, I've been through the same thing... but the funny thing is, I had that epiphany last eciplse (in January) that's kind of crazy!! I've been trying to teach my loved ones the importance of self love, but I think it's something we all have to learn on our own. Unfortunately, it seems to be a lesson I'm going to have to learn more than once haha. I'm so happy for you though. Doesn't the world seem to hold so many more possibilities?!

BEAUTIFUL flowers by the way!!

OH and about the positive affirmations... I LOVE those! In fact I get this email every morning from thedailylove.com and it seriously helps me start my day on a positive note. A lot of the times they have to do with what I'm going through at the moment also, which really helps. You all should check it out (or follow them on Twitter) they are so helpful! Kel I have a strong belief in the law of attraction. I haven't seen the Secret or read the book, but I've always had that outlook. You don't sound ridiculous at all to me

SV~

I'm having a lonely day also. I'm sorry just know you aren't alone!! try some affirmations to bring positive energy. I believe they help!

Flow & Katie~ thanks for checking in!! and hi to everyone else

Flow: Although you may seem harsh sometimes, I have to admit that it's probably just what we need to hear. I love the community built around this forum and we should be able to be honest with each other. I've noticed that my closest friends won't even be that honest with me sometimes because they don't want to hurt my feelings. I just want you to know that I appreciate your honesty! Thanks for sharing your insight. I hope you make a reappearance soon! I hope that things are looking up for you

Sorry for being out of touch lately!! I've had family in town and employees flaking out on me the past week so I've had to work extra and do a little too much entertaining. I haven't been able to keep up well enough on everyones stories so I will have to check in again soon. I am doing well though! I'm getting my wisdom teeth out on Tuesday so I'm a little nervous about that. At least I'll have some time to rest I guess!!

As for my Scorp, still haven't heard from him but still get the feeling that he will be back. I deleted his number from my phone so that it won't be as easy for me to talk to him. but I've also done a lot of thinking and I don't think I could involve myself with him again. The mind games and heartache are too much for my sensitive soul!

Hugs to everyone! Enjoy the weekend and don't worry too much about the eclipse (although it's been on my mind a lot as well!!)

Moon~ I love dxp too lol. I always read the posts on there. I love your post on page 40 by the way. Very good advice for any of us dealing with Scorps!

I am not watching soccer either, don't feel bad. It's just not my thing I guess. But it's hard for anything to hold my attention lol. When I'm watching TV I'm always reading or online at the same time.

What are your creative outlets? I have several that I use to deal with my sensitivity also, so I'm curious

Stranger~ Hi! I don't think we've really "met" haha. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone in your Scorp dealings! I can really relate to a lot of the things you are posting. I think this one sums it up:

"have never been in a relationship this intense, this passionate, this confusing, volatile, hot, cold, deep, transforming... i really did open up to that man like i have never done before with anyone.i n my heart i know i cannot regret that, as painful as the feelings i have now are. i will keep working on me, and maybe one day i will have the courage to REALLY open up."

Hang in there! I have the same philosophy... just working on myself and hoping he comes around..sooner than later..

Kel~ I hope you have fun camping!! That sounds amazing right now. I loved the scorp update... let him squirm;) Oh and I love the zoo!! I've always wanted to go on a date there! Well I went on one but it didn't turn out well lmao. Maybe next time. I love the idea of it I guess:)

Xtine~ How was the night on the town? I hope you enjoyed your night!

Birdiebee, Katie, Lolpet, Flow, SV, Lua, Adventure, Luazinha (and anyone else I might have missed) I hope you all are having great weekends. So many posts lately lol. I love it!

Xtine~

I went through the same thing with my scorp once upon a time haha. He moved out of state for the summer and when he came back we started hanging out again. Except it was like we went back to being just friends. We would hang out and he would stay the night at my house, but sleep on the couch.. he basically just made me think that he only wanted to be friends. But still confided in me and told me things that very few people knew. I guess that's how our relationship was left before, just open ended. I kind of had the impression that he didn't know what he wanted.

I think that you are doing the right thing by taking it slow. Otherwise it's really easy to be distracted by the physical aspect of your relationship and forget that there's a reason you broke up in the first place. It seems to me that he is just observing you. You said you wanted to take it slow, so try to be patient!! Trust that things will work out, just let them develop naturally! (Much harder to say than do haha) Hope that helped:)

Xtine~

Things are going pretty well for me I guess. Had time to do some thinking today while I was cleaning, so I'm feeling alright. I called my scorp to invite him to my graduation party. Left him a message but never heard back and he missed the party. Kind of bummed about it, but I didn't expect him to come anyway. So I'm still waiting to see if I will hear from him... looking doubtful now!

Did you have a good weekend? Hope things are still going well for you Thanks for checking in!

Moon~ just read your questions. It sounds to me that it is real. I think that he has tested you enough to know that he can trust you and now is showing you the side of him that he was afraid to show you before. I think that he will still want you because you were the one who was always there. I tend to be too idealistic though haha... I don't know what to tell you! I would say just follow your heart and your intuition. Protect yourself but understand that he is trusting you by opening up, and may expect you to do the same. Good luck!!

moon~

ahh! I can see that happening, I know exactly what you mean... I swear all of my relationships end that way. It's almost like all of the mystery goes away and there's nothing left for you to search for. I'm so sorry!

As for me, I'm not sure which pages I posted on. But my situation was similar to Xtines, but I still haven't heard from my scorp. I had a graduation party yesterday and I called him to invite him but never heard from him, so... no new developments there. I rarely see him and never run into him... getting the impression that maybe he's just not interested. He usually doesn't miss the big things, like birthdays, so I was surprised that he didn't even tell me congratulations. I'm confused haha but I guess all I can do is wait.

Flow~

Thanks for the honest response. I read it and gave myself a couple of days to think about what you said. At first I was upset and defensive, but then I realized that you made some very valid points. I was doing my share of rejecting as well. I played an equal role in the situation and I have to take responsibility for that. I will just have to wait and see if he decides to come back and I will have to prove myself to him then. Thanks for shedding some insight on the situation for me, even if it is hard to hear!

xtine~

I was just catching up on the posts but from what I've read so far it sounds like you finally got the response you were looking for in regards to your scorp! I'm so happy that it worked out for you. It sounds like you have some clarity, which is always nice! Definitely keep us updated

Lolpet~ I don't have any specific plans yet! I will have a degree in History but to do any teaching or anything I will have to go back to school. I'm going to take a year to just work and do some soul searching to see what road I want to take next. I love history but I really want to write a book! Maybe about history, but I really don't know to be honest. I've just started to really get to know myself and I'm finding new interests every day! I want to do something creative, just don't quite have a concrete direction right now. Thank you for asking