Dear Manifest..., thanks for your very insightful posting. You are right about Taureans, my Cancer bf points the blaming others & not being accountable to me.Your ex Taurean gf must be SOME woman-- unforgettable.

Thanks Mooninsag for your insights. We share the same rising and moon. My sun and Venus are in Taurus, Mars in Gemini.

I am involved with a Cancer male, 7/6 bd. He put me through a big test on Saturday, luckily I realized what he was doing. I'm learning to REALLY listen to what he is telling me. Love is definitely conditional with my Cancer.

He asked me last night if & how I know that he really loves me (it's taken me years and leaving him twice to realize this). Anyway, we haven't given up on each other.

Thanks for your concern sexygem. He is very traditonal and he helps me often. Don't worry , I do stand up to him. I will work on getting more of my needs met. I too, can be inconsiderate and very self centered.

I can be just as abusive when provoked. He cried last night about the way that we hurt each other. What will it take for us to transform into compassionate partners/lifemates? I really do need to change think that our relationship can be the catalyst.

I once wrote a poem entitled "Oassis" about what you mentioned in the dry well. I think that I am a well/fountain that never dries up. The source replenishes itself the more that I give. I can also replenish the source. The Source is abundant as well and replenishes me.

I'm learning spanish. I wish that I could emulate the beautiful warmness of my Latino culture evident in some expressions; maybe it's the influence of their spirituality. Anyway, it's in my blood:)

!que te vaya bien! (I wish you well!)

Thanks for your input Waterman79. Yes, you are very deep and intuitive. Cancers can be very destructive when they don't feel wanted and used. You totally give of yourselves and are very nurturing and caring through it all, even if it's not readily apparent. Very complex, yet simple if you can unlock the key to your heart and soul. Good analogy about the water's surface.

Better to forgive what happened in the past, that includes forgetting, lol. Be here now. Happy Dio de los Muertos!

sexygem, I still get angry--it just doesn't pay anymore. We need to discuss problems in a calm manner to get the results that we want. We frequently use humor to resove conflict. I'm learning to treat him as my best friend, with honor.

Fortunately, we don't avoid conflict; and, I'm just beginning to fathom how sensitive these wondeful creatures are. I don't want to push him over the edge into some dark abyss where I can't reach him. And, I don't want to get bent out of shape. I'm learning to express my feelings and needs in a mature and dignified manner, not like a child. He has very high expectations of me and I don't want to let him down. Cancers ARE very practical about whom they marry and they want harmony and to be understood by their mate. Besides, I'm becoming a better Being in the process.

Happy for you highprincess. Communication is key, my guy NEEDS me to talk to him. He does tell me what he needs, listening is another story;).

How romantic, hiprincess--you deserve it! Yes, they do know when they've gone to far and are willing to make amends.

Mine just called with an offer for a dinner date/pizza/movie/window shopping for clothes. He told me how much he appreciates all that I do for him--he's demanding, though he thinks that it's normal. I will pick one or two due to a strict budget bc I'm not working yet. I don't really feel like going out tonight; but, the next time I fell like it, I'm going to ask him to take me out! He was on his knees this morning while talking to me, a gesture that I no longer take for granted or ignore because I feel resentful. They are very romantic when we treat them the way that they want to be treated. I must always remember to deescalate and keep my equilibrium or I will look and feel like an old hag, lol, wouldn't need a Holloween costume...

Dear Hermit, you know that if your girl wasn't committed that you would see it in her eyes. No faking love wih you guys, and why should she when she forgives you time and again for your antics?

Some girls just care clueless, lol. Just ask her if shes' missing ya, or whatever you want to know. Or, I just tell HIM what I want to hear him tell me, i.e, "I Love you", etc...", We all get insecure, your vulnerability make us melt bc we know that we can reassure you and lay all your fears to rest. I read somewhere yesterday that that makes us feel powerful, in a good way:)

Thanks for the advice, HIP. I'm learning to stay out of his way when he gets moody & not get hooked into the drama. I don't need to jump on the bandwagon, lol. Lord knows that I get crazy, too. I'm learning to be in the NOW, re: author, EcKhart Tolle.

Taurenngirl, I'm 52 in chronological age; but, still a Taurrean. I'm getting better with my understanding & compassion:)