Serious 7,

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. I am hesitant bc of the can of worms that it might open up, that is why I put this on here hoping that I guess I could get a short cut and have peace of mind. He does dream things, he dreams of his trains bc I heard him talk about them in his sleep. I just want to know what to tell him when he is older . And Yeah, I am afraid the guy I care about will get hurt. This child looks nothing like the father on the birth certificate, or the other kids or family members in that family. He does not have any personality traits of them either. I have had some doubts about it being guy b bc I remember the night in question and in all the years I had been w him, I never got pregnant before, but looks wise and personality wise he resembles more like guy b. So I am still confused about what to do at this point. I don't want to hurt guy b but he wanted to know. And I am scared of facing the fact that it could be the man on the birth certificate bc that family has alot of issues, and it would be a blessing if it was not his kid bc I dont know how I will explain all of their mess to him when he is older and him be ok. Someone close to me meditated on the issue that has abilities and said it came out 70 percent odds that it was guy b and 30 percent the other guy. Those arent great odds. Yes , my son is close to my own issue and this child does stir up things that need to be worked on. Interesting about louisianna. I really dont know.

Dear serious7,

I have 2 issues that need resolving, and I hope u can help me. One is that my biological father that I never met and I share a special date, his death date of may 25, 1996. I want to find where he is buried, and find his mom berniece, but I dont know her last name. I am crying in my heart lately, bc I found out he had an awful life and wonder if he is around me or not and I am stuck in my search. The second issue sounds cliche, and I hope you don't judge me but it is the issue of paternity of my son born april 15, 2007. My gut tells me the name on the birth certificate is not the actual biological parent and that he belongs to the man I have been involved with on and off for several years. Am I right before I go through this upheaval and get a test done for nothing? The parent on the birth certificate was abusive emotionally, physically, and spirituality and it was a messed up situation that I wish I could erase, and that is all I am going to say about it. Can u help me, please?

Thank you for responding. I just wish I knew where he was buried so I could pay my respects or talk to my biological grandmom just once and find out the good things about him, maybe have a picture. I am left with a big hole and bc of other events I am really feeling it right now.

I am dealing with an issue about my deceased biological father that I never met. I know one side of the story, which is from my mom and I need the issues put to rest bc the experience is needed for dealing with a current issue related to another being. I am not mad at him for not being apart of my life. Through what I can find in the courts, he suffered and it makes me sad. I know he died may 25, 1996 and they found him by the river. The date of his death I share in common w him in an important way, which is not a coincidence and makes me think he looks over me. Can anyone pick up anything about him, and please let me know where he is buried at, or what his mother's name is so I can contact her? I just would like to find out the good things about this man, and would like a picture of him bc they threw out the only picture of his existence on me when I was little. I want to know where I came from . I don't know exactly how he died, or if he ever thought about me and regretted not being there or not. I need concrete answers, and asking my mother is not going to get me anywhere bc she is still angry at him after all these years, and it will upset her. His dob was november 27, 1953. I have reformatted my question.

In fifth grade, I found out that the man who I thought was my father, was not my actual biological father. Even though he did not conceive me, he will always be my dad and I love him. I saw a picture growing up of him , that they threw out on me later. My mom doesnt like to talk about him to much. He gave up his rights to me willingly, and when he saw me with my mom in rite aid, he ran away. I know from her I might have a half sister out there, I dont know if that is fact or fiction and would like to know. I know from court records, he was a sick man dealing with the disease of alcoholism. I never got to meet him, he died may 25 1996. I have his eyes and art talent. I have no idea where he is buried, and I don't know how to contact his mom. I don't think he was a horrible person, and I wish I knew more about him, and did he ever think of me at all, and regret not being apart of my life? Some how, I think he watches over me bc his death anniversary, is the same date as a very important anniversary of mine, one that changed my whole life regarding something we have in common. I just found this out this week. I feel like a part of me is missing, So if any one can pick up anything at all about him, I would grately appreciate it. His name is Dennis Eugene Garland , dob november 27, 1953. Thanks. I'd like to know good or bad. I just really need closure.