Posts made by purplemaeve

I would have to concur with you July 8 is an awesome Birthday. I was born in 77 what year were you born in?

EveBeltane, lol about some cancers being out of touch. This is true, as it is true for most other signs too. Being the intuitive Cancer, that I am. You probably can tell in some of my earlier posts that I detest cancers or anyone no matter what the sign they are who cannot take control of there own lives and are so involved in what others think and do to them that they have what my Mother calls( a Taurus through and through) her version of PMS which is (poor me syndrome) and while yes all cancers have there mood swings if they know themselves well enough they know that there are times when being around people just isn't good for them at the moment. and will use there retreat mechanism when need be.

myviewpoint, you took the words right out of my mouth. I am a cancer female and while I can be very out going at times and as flighty as I may seem to others sometimes. I am very serious about what I am passionate for. A strong cancer does need to have space I think that is why my husband and I get along so well together because some of the things that might break up a marriage for people actually seem to strengthen ours. We have been together for 11 years married for 6 this May. Though we tease that the count is wrong because he is in the military and goes away for sometimes months at a time. This does not bother me and when asked if I worry about him I say yes for his safety as anyone would. But some don't seem to get that I don't worry about him meeting someone else or even just hooking up with a one night stand. I trust him and why shouldn't I he has never done anything to break that trust. and even though there are times when I dearly miss him while he is gone I do enjoy the independents that him not being here all the time brings. Just as much as I enjoy the time that we do get to spend together.

My advice for anyone entering into a romantic relationship with a cancer male or female is take it slow. Remember we may be hard on the outside but we're all mush on the inside. Most of us value a good friendship above anything else. Be patient as it is a virtue and if you can wait it out your cancer will give you the world and be there for you through thick and thin no matter what. Above all space is the key to our happiness we can love being around people just as much as we love our down time as this is when we think and process all the emotions to all the moods we have. I truly believe that most people seem to think cancarians are a lot more complex then we really are. including some cancers themselves. But usually we can be quite strait forward people who have little time to play games. Its just easier sometimes for us to retreat then to try and explain our complex emotions to others. But don't worry eventually if we like you and see that you are a trust worthy person we will come back to you and usually more vibrant then before. So don't take our retreat as a sign of we don't love you or don't like you. Because believe me if a cancer doesn't want anything to do with you he or she will most likely come right out and tell you.

Everybodyhopes, If you want some advice from another Cancarian 7/8 who has been with a Scorpion soldier 11/5 for well going on 10 years 6 of them married. If you truly have feelings for him take it slow he is being a true Scorpio with being very charming at times then being cold and distant. Plus the whole thing of him having been in Iraq he is probably having some issue's with that. Whether it be PTSD or just normalizing back into a non military society it can be a hard transition I know I've been through the latter with hubby. It's hard no matter what sign you are. So like I said if you truly have feelings for him take it slow, don't try and be his savior, But give him the attention he needs. I've found the best way to deal with my scorpio is to love Passionately but not obsessively don't hold him to tight. Keep communications open with him as he will talk when he is ready. Be honest with him no matter what and trust him because if he is as into you as he says he is then he will defend you to the death. Remember your both water babies, so your both emotionally charged he can be as deep as you, he just shows it differently. (One of the reasons I think both signs get a bad rap sometimes) but that's a different discussion.

If on the other hand your not into him the same way let him know that too in as kind a way as you can, as Scorpio's are not ones that seem to take rejections well unless they are the ones who are doing it and have a tendency of retaliating. But if you do it right and before it goes to far you may find a fierce friend for life.

No matter what though Take it Slow and be patient.

No matter what anyone says I love my Scorpio he keeps me on my toes.

well Put Yemaya , That's what I was trying to convey a little in my last post. That for a cancer Grounding and Shielding can go a long way. Though you don't have to be Wiccan or Pagan to learn how to do it though I know the intro Wicca books sometimes have some easy practical exercises that can help a person learn how to do these things. I don't want to get into some religious battle here because I respect all peoples paths and everyone has a different one, I'm just saying for reference reasons that you can find some relatively easy concepts on how to to ground and shield in them. That use nothing but your own energy and imagination. plus they are pretty easy to get, as any Boarders or Barns and Noble type book store will have a dozens of these books. But like I was saying anyone can do this. Example; I have a friend who though isn't a cancer is very intuitive and very much an empathic she is also very Catholic she uses the images of the cross and Jesus to help her ground and shield. Just like your belief system and spiritual path grounding and shielding can be a very personal thing. But once learned can also be a life saver for many cancarians who seem to wear there hearts on there sleeves. I know that since I've learned how to do this it has not only helped me start to enjoy my life and myself better but the talents I do have come shining through not all the emotions and feelings that I was picking up from others. It also made it a lot easier to listen to my gut feelings and not try and save every sad sack and needy person out there. Not that it will solve all your problems or is a quick fix and it does take some practice to get it right. but learning how to ground and shield can at least help you deal with some of your daily issues especially if you are sensitive to picking up on others, in what I would call a better way, or at least it has me.

Nos,

that is exactly what I was saying. It seems that many cancers are empathic as I know I am too. I had to learn how to shield and block negative energies not that I don't ever let them in or put my guard down as I am not a harsh person. But I have had to learn how to block so I could at least live with some sanity in my life and not get bowled over by others and there problems. I feel that many cancers have to teach themselves how to be a little selfish as we give ourselves away to easily and sometimes don't hold back anything for ourselves which drain and plague us to the point where we are unhappy or in situations that we can no longer control.

I wanted to thank all you Gemini's for your input. I'm not a Gemini I'm a Cancer but am 30 weeks pregnant which unless I am way late or way early will make my daughter a Gemini. I am a little nervous as the only two Gemini's I know are my older brother and while I love him I have never understood him and even when I have tried he seems to push me away. He was very violent growing up and has been in trouble his whole life. The other Gemini I know is a female and was my roommate for awhile. We got along pretty well as long as it was us doing fun things. She did sometimes get on my nerves, mainly because she would take almost everything and didn't seem to realize that while our other roomy and I didn't mind sharing things it is always nice to share back. She would do things like eat all the food in the Apt. then use her money to go have fun and not replace the food she had eaten. Expecting me and our other roommate to always buy the groceries and other household items. On the rare occasion she did buy something she would get mad if we but looked at. To me she just seemed a bit selfish in doing these things but if you tried to talk to her about it she would try and play the boohoo card it got old fast and was the main reason when I left on vacation one week to come back to her not living with us anymore the other roomy had kicked her out.

this was several years ago and I still talk to both of these ladies the other roomy and her don't talk at all. So anyway this has made me nervous about having a Gemini Child. I can usually see the good in most people and can see the good in my brother and my friend but it seems like you Gem's can be very manipulative and selfish at time too or at least that has been my experience. If you have any advice for raising a Gemini child I'd like to hear it.

Thanks Artisan it took me a minute to figure that one out, but I got it.

Have a good St. Patricks Day

mountnlarl and others who seem to want to be the Cancarian victim I'm annoyed at the tone this thread has gone. I as a cancer plead for you to start using your hard crab shells and pincers. I know I am a bit of a youngen to some of you as I'm only in my early 30's but I have traveled down a very twisted rough road in my life and have tried to learn with every twist and bump I've taken.

While yes I still sometimes let things bother me and can be very emotional and moody at time I have learned to surf the tide as the moon changes and take refuge in both the shallow and deep tides of my life. No one can tell you how to do this, but you. I know I can't, I learned a lot through trial and error but I do know that as a cancer I need my me time just as much as I need my social time. During the me time I focus on bettering myself and building my defenses not self pity and neglect. I know this sounds harsh but though you may have been a victim you don't have to be a victim as a cancer you know this. Think of the ways you can use your hard exterior and pincers to defend yourselves. the way I know that many of you have defended and protected your children and loved ones. It's not selfish it's self preservation.

I hope no one has taken any offense to this but after reading some of the latest threads I felt something or some advise needed to be given.

I do hope those of you who have posted and need help, get some. Life is to short to be miserable, take advantage of your inner crab and enjoy the tides of life.

hey look in the blogs a link to celebrate St. Patrick will lead you to the Secret codes of the Celts and your pot of gold.

Hope everyone has a good day.

I'm in total agreement with shybubba, as a cancer I have sometimes felt like I let people take advantage of my generosity but as I've gotten older I have come to a point of knowing when enough is enough and making sure that my good deeds don't go unwarranted. I don't bend over backwards for just anyone but will go out of the way for someone who I know and is part of my inner circle. (though like shybubba, I do have a soft spot for children and will treat almost any of them like they were my own)

hello, yes I am a cancer through and through, birth date is 7/8/77. can be as moody as they come and I shift just as the tide does. I for some odd reason to be attracted to Scorpio's and while most don't seem to get along with these people I seem to be able to. Don't know why growing up both an Aunt and my Grandfather who are both Scorpio's are still two of my most favorite family members and am still close to both of them. I also ended up marrying one and several of my good friends are Scorpio's. I have yet to figure this out but hey I'm good with it they seem to all be good people and love them all dearly. My marriage is great we have been together for 10 years, married 6 of those. While it is not a conventional marriage it works for us and have been happy thus far. I think part of this is that we can almost read each other before we talk and as our passions in life are similar and both being water signs we both run deep.

Oddly enough I don't have any cancer friends and the Taurus's in my life go one of two ways I either truly love them and want to spend time with them or I don't like them at all and we just rub each other the wrong way.

As for me I love adventure and travel and think of myself as a pretty out going person but I have times when I could just as easily stay in curled up with a good book or movie on TV, I do protect myself from others by showing a hard exterior shell and protect the ones I care about the same way and will fight till the end for someone or something I believe in So I have been labeled as a pretty tough cookie but the people I let through that shell which aren't many know how soft and mushy I really am inside and see how easily I can be hurt.

I am thankful for all of the good people in my life who on a daily bases renew my faith in humanity, whether they know it or not. From my husband who gets up every morning and cleans the kitchen, to the woman at the store who let me borrow her snow scraper to clean my car off, or the little girl in my neighborhood who I see walk to the play ground with a grocery sack, so that she can pick up garbage alongside the rd. and in the park. I know these are all little things but I'm thankful for all of them and many other things that people may feel are trivial because they are small things. But these are the things that make all of our world a better place and I am thankful for that.