I went through the exact thing, he would talk about his ex-wife too. He also had over protective parents, so again, all about his past carrying the baggage into the present day.
Just like you I am strong, confident and honest and because of his insecurities, he could not handle that. He disappeared on me, still no explanation 1 year later. He did how ever get married 3 months ago to a younger woman with very low self esteem. If you read the different passive aggressive threads, men go for women like that because they want the control, these types of women are easy to control, everything is on these men's terms, it's safe for them in their closed up world.
It was sad the way he ended things with me, he misses out on having someone who would have treated him with honesty and respect. (I was really good to him). I know I can't handle someone with this behavior, it's just not healthy. I have 2 children and they also don't deserve to have someone like this in their lives. He did me a huge favor by walking away, it hurt bad at the time, but I am in such a better place now, it took many months to heal and to finally find the answers as to why all this happened, I got my closure.
I was shocked to see one site on passive aggressive behavior, where people were married for 30 and 40 years and put up with this type of person. Now days, we are more aware, this is the good thing about internet, you can google anything and find answers. These women settled for their passive aggressive men and have said how miserable they were. Thats the part of DON"T SETTLE FOR ANYONE! I have to mention that there are many women that are passive aggressive too, it goes both ways.
capgirl7, You will definitely find a good man, you see, this guy was a spiritual test for you, you will know when the right man comes along, you won't be chasing your tail trying to figure him out, it will be the way it should be, simple. (relationships are work, but not mentally draining).
All the best to you