Hi,

I messed up with a friend and wondered if all was going to be ok. I was convinced I saw them up to no good and told them but they say it wasn't them. I'm now completely confused as I was so certain it was them. Was I right or wrong? I have apologised to them since, believing what they say but I am still confused. I was so sure I was right. All I can do is take what the person says as the truth and hope they accept my apology. Help?

This is the worst, I sympathise. I've experienced this too, with men I have been involved with in the past who have since married and then come back into my life for whatever reason. Very hard to deny feelings that are still there if there is unfinished business. Even with no unfinished business if you have a history with someone there can still be feelings there. Far harder to fight that sort of affair off than it is to enter a new relationship with a new man open eyed knowing he is already married. I think women who do that must on some level feel they don't deserve a man of their own or perhaps they just don't want the commitment, I don't know. But yeah, them being married AFTER you have fallen for them or have a history with them - that's hard! Something I've experienced a few times but thankfully neither of us have ever acted upon the feelings!

He was right about him being an Air sign as well. Though he said Libra, and your guy is Aquarius, he got the quality right.

My advice on this, if you don't mind my suggestions, is to try and take a step back, protect your heart and take it slow. This relationship looks like it will be a rocky ride at least for the forseeable future. I'm basing that on what you have said in your posts and good old fashioned common sense more than psychic insight here. Though my intuition is playing a role of course! Something I have learned over the years with matters of the heart is as soon as you are feeling bad in a relationship of any kind, ask yourself what you can do for you in this situation to keep yourself protected, regardless of the outcome.

(From here I kind of went into a weird trancelike typing state where the words just flowed, it might be coming from spirit so take from it what you will! I have no idea if it is relevant to you or not but if it is then great!!) Your emotional welfare is your first priority; do not sacrifice yourself for him. (Do you tend to do this more than most for men?) Relationships are challenging yes but it shouldn't be draining your energy completely. When you find yourself hurting and thinking of him more than you should, obsessing about him, when you feel distracted and worried - take back your power and try to be as cerebral as you can. Have faith, be positive nad most of all know that the universe is taking care of you and all will be well in the end.

Yikes! Where did that come from? LOL!

PiscesPanties xxx

AuntBuck I think that the psychic reader had a point about the karmic debt - he clearly has ties to this woman so strong that they are pulling him away from you & what I think would be a great relationship for you both but you will drive yourself crazy trying to figure out the whys and wherefores of this. I totally understand about the connection you have, I too have experienced near telepathy with close ones. That shows that you have great potential for the future, you have a real bond!

I see relationships as a timing and evolution thing. Relationships that end or do not work out are not unsuccessful, they have just done what they needed to do and we are not the same person afterwards that we were before. If that person returns/the relationship starts up again then there is more to be done.

In essence I believe that with relationships with others, we must 'go with what is'

We all have karmic pulls and unfinished business and these things, though they often cause chaos, are as much a part of our lifepath as the good times are. I have Muslim friends and there is an interesting aspect to their belief system which kind of acknowledges the force of 'karma' and unfinished business in our lives. They believe that all human urges and actions, even the most negative like infidelity, are sanctioned by Allah. Note that for them Allah is not a single being called God in our Christian sense - Allah is the overall energy that makes up the universe, the higher force. So we are all Allah, the flower on your doorstep is Allah, your pet cat is Allah.

Basically what they are trying to say (I think!) is that everything does happen for a reason and sometimes we are inexplicably pulled to courses of action despite our attempts to prevent it.

What I suggest now is go with what is as far as this man is concerned and ask your innerself where you need to go from here, what is best for you. Where is your heart pulling you? Where is your unfinished business or where are the souls you need to seek out right now?

If the psychic reader is right about this man loving you and coming back, he will come back when it is time. When whatever needs to be accomplished with this ex of his has been accomplished. How many of us have had to fulfil a responsibililty/be at work but at the same time have been wistfully looking over our shoulder or at the clock at what we plan to do once we've met our obligation. This I feel is where this man might be at the moment. He has a spiritual responsibility to fulfill with this woman but once its done, he's outta there!

Bear in mind this could take a while. It could even be in a future life that he finds you again lol!

Go with what is right now, let this man go with love and let him know that the door is open for him when he is ready. In the meantime, you must go on with your own path and fulfill your own karma.

Love & Light xxx

This relationship you have sounds beauitiful and so very promising but right now it could be bad timing. I feel that you both have issues to work through concerning your exes, not just your friend but you as well. I think some more time taken just to be friends and reconnect with yourselves first and foremost would be a better idea. Definitely the capricorn woman sounds wrong for him just as you found your husband to be wrong for you and there is certainly potential for the future in this relationship.

But I do think that wounds are still raw on both sides and there are lots of issues to work through, lots of things to be straightened out first. Timing is everything with relationships, put your wishes out to the universe and then stay strong and take each day as it comes, don't hold your breath waiting for this relationship but enjoy what it is at the moment. Anything else will come in time, this is a strange world we live in, things can change in an instant!

Just my twopennorth, hope that helps somehow,

Another Pisces! xx

For those women contemplating or who are actually in a relationship with a married man? Girlfriends come on, get a grip of yourselves! There are millions of cute single men out there so why have the crumbs when you can have the whole cake? Like I said - why share? =D

I think turtledust's reply was brilliant and probably the most accurate. Funny too lol!

Marriage is not black and white and sometimes I wonder how I feel about it at all. I'm 30 and single but marriage seems to bring out the worst in people and seems to be all about ownership and possession, of a persons soul, mind and body as well as material things. I hate the way married people get all precious about it and their 'best friend' and 'special connection' even if they are a complete asshole! 9 times out of 10 they can't stand the sight of each other lol and are often only staying together for many of the reasons outlined by turtlesdust and others. And the way they gang up on you - you're not just disagreeing with one person, you find yourself disagreeing with the two of them even if their spouse is totally in the wrong, because they're defending them out of some weird sense of blind married loyalty. Their spouse could try to murder you with a flipping pickaxe and half of them would probably still back them up lol!

All pretty scary from that perspective and just a tad unhealthy - to tie yourself obssessively to one person for the rest of your life =O One person at a time yes - any more than that, too stressful and one clearly has too much time on their hands - but marriage just seems so final, it's like 'RIP You mate' !!

I don't know, I was brought up Catholic and to believe in marriage but as I get older I'm getting more critical of it and wonder whether it does more harm than good to the human spirit ultimately- for everybody, unmarried included. I'm beginning to understand just why the phrase 'smug marrieds' was coined lol!

I don't believe in infidelity but only because there are plenty of single men out there and I don't see why I should share =D

I've been going through a crazy time the past couple of years to be honest, though things are starting to improve now. I don't know if there's anything astrological going on, possible though x

Hello fellow fishies! I was born 9th March 1979 and yep I'm one of those people who gets on spookily well with Scorpios lol! My rising sign is Scorpio and my moon sign is Leo. In my life, Geminis can be tough, as can some Taureans and Aquarians.

I'm a typical Piscean - mystical, dreamy, imaginative, softhearted to a fault (had to learn to toughen up over the years) artistic, musical etc.

Good to meet you all