I am a Libra women (10/14/64), married to a Scorpio man (11/4/60) for the last 16 years we've been together & oh what a trip it has been. Allowing his freedom was the number one issue he had before we got married after dating for 7 years. I truly had to convince this man that he could continue doing all that he did before we met, before he trusted me, then committed. He is still somewhat secretive, but all in all, he's come a long way from when we first starting dating. Trust & freedom to me seem to be Scorpio's biggest issues, but we both knew from our first date that we were made for each other. I divorced a Leo, ugh! Dated a Cancer for a long time, we are still really good friends. I seem to be most compatible to the Scorpio - oh & the sex is out of this world. Times have been up & down with my Scorpio man, he is faithful, but has an obsession for other women & porn. I now understand by reading all these posts that my Scorpio man needs a lot of respect to be able to respect someone, and now I'm beginning to see why he has such a hard time with my kids from a previous marriage (Picses, Taurus & Scorpio). We still have a long way to go, but I am willing & trying hard to understand this man, so we can live happily ever after.

FixedScorp1107, great to hear from a Scorpio, my daughter is a Scorpio as well. You do need your freedom, and space to be alone. My husband (Scorpio) is a fisherman, hunter & in a band, these are all true escapisms for him. He's been with my children for the most part of their lives, he does not hide his emotions about them. In my eyes, my children take away time I could be spending on or with him. Of course we can all be selfish, self-centered, but in his case I think it is most extreme. I have never met or been with someone that will not bend or budge, set in his ways. So question, if I give him the freedom that he needs, the escape from the world, as much love as I can possibly put out, and everything imaginable so that his life is easy - what would you recommend or suggest to have some type of mutual understanding when it comes to the children? Mind you, my children are 20, 18 & 17 years old, and we've been together for 16. Wondering if their is a recitfiable solution to this whole matter in a Scorpio's eyes? Or is this something that you cannot comment on because you are female?

I have been married to a Scorpio man for 10 years now, been together for a total of 16 years. I am a Libra & 44 years old. This man is very self-centered, has no patients with anyone or anything & seems to be unable to handle being around children/teenagers, even his own. His main center of focus is himself & he is also very cheap. Our biggest struggle through this relationship has been his secrets, or not outright giving me information that is important, and him not being able to accept my children. He does have a roving eye, and has an issue with porn, but he is faithful in our relationship. I would say the best quality that I find in this man, is that he loves deeply & allows me freedom. After 16 years I can honestly say that all other aspects of his personality will never change, it's just who he is & I've challenged myself to learn to accept him for him, not for who I want him to be, because he allows this for me.

Scorpio's are truly a challenge, and if you like challenges I recommend you find yourself a Scorpio today, lol - jokingly of course!

Keep waiting patiently, as I did. It's like all the fad now about seeing the ending or future of what you'd like to happen, you make "it" the outcome.

Whenever my kids would tell me all the horrible things that their father said about me, I would just brush it off, remind them that they know who I am, how much I love them & change the subject to happy thoughts. It wasn't always easy to do believe me, but I know who I am - my ex just took every bad situation that ever happened in my life & used it to his advantage against me. The problem with that is, all the doing in my life that he used against me was how I was raised, not by my doing at all, it was just a life circumstance that I was born into. My ex (not by my doing or our children) have not spoken with my son in 5 years, my oldest daughter in 2 years, and my youngest daughter since August of 2008, all because they have contact with me. Some people just never grow up & til this day I still prayer that he comes to terms with his life & hopefully establishes a relationship with our children. I just became a grandma for the first time in June of 2008, what a shame that he has to miss out on such a special opportunity.

Nor could I, me & my ex cannot even be in the same room together. I never did bad mouth my ex either, although he use to in front of my kids about me. Now my kids live with me, they got old enough to know the differences & they cannot believe some of the things he use to say. The adage, "what goes around comes around!" I am also in my mid 40's!

Whatever happens in life, just makes us stronger! Did you ever hear that saying? It does, I am proof, stronger to make us better apt to deal with life's harsh realitites. Keep the good thoughts, live in the moment, cherish what you have - life could always be worse. You do have your kids, and a mother that is willing to take you in until your life turns around. Family & loving support will carry you through these times. You are still young, as I was when this all happened to me, but now I have to say because I kept those thoughts of what I wanted to happen in the future, those things eventually came to me. I now live in the country in a beautiful victorian home, with my children, 2 dogs on 10 acres. My husband & I also own a business! I grew up on the streets of Detroit with an alcoholic abusive father, with only my 2 older brothers & sister raising me - life could have ended up so much worse for me. I always knew this wasn't the life for me & because of these thoughts & having faith in myself & in God - skies the limit baby! I just can't wait to see what the future holds for me because my thoughts have only excelled. If something bad happens along the way, I just use that as a stepping stone & get my life back on track. I have faith in you! Oh get them girl!

I look at it as if it was meant to be. Be positive knowing that something better is out there for you. The past is the past, so let it stay there & get on with your life.

I had 3 children at the age of 28, just divorced, had to use credit cards to stay afloat, then one day I got a notice from the court stating that my ex wanted custody. I went to court & ended up losing custody to my 3 babies. In Michigan the court system can be so cruel!

I too am a good person & life doesn't always turn out as we expect.

I fought my ex in court for the last 16 years trying to gain custody with no avail. In 2005 I finally got my son at 15 years old, and just this past August 2008 my daughter 17 years old. Just after my divorce I met a wonderful man, someone I can call a soul mate, if you will. We have been together for 16 years now & have a wonderful life with my children.

I always kept the attitude that this was a life lesson & I always had faith that life has a way of working itself out - we just have to kept that faith & know that God has bigger plans for us.

I hope this helps & I pray that life works out for you as it did for me, but in shorter time of course!

Hi Everyone! I am new to this forum, but not new to this site. I am very fascinated what everyone had to say about being a Libra. I am a Libra also. I am 45 years old & don't know much about astrology, but love to learn more. I am mostly a spiritual seeker, wanting nothing more then to obtain knowledge about God/Universe & of course myself & the people around me. Unfortunately, I am not sure who I am. I was born on October 14, 1964 in a not so stable unbringing, which I feel has a lot of weight of who we are later in life. My question would be which gives more pull? I can't necessarily say that I am balanced, having 3 teenage children, a husband & 2 dogs (joke). To me I feel one minute I am up, and the next down. I do love people, especially teenage children & a special love for animals, especially dogs. My husband is a Scorpio & like someone else posted, it's like a roller coaster ride. My son is a Taurus, my oldest daughter a Pisces, and my youngest another Scorpio. I do feel a need to have many people in my life, I am very social. I use to work in sales for 8 years, and now I am currently working with my husband at a family owned printing company, but it is not for me, after 11 years but for some time now I am just realizing this. I do know that I am a very jealous person when it comes to my husband, but not sure if this is due to my upbringing. All I know, life is very challenging for me. I am a avid book reader on spirituality, always strive to be a better person! I wish I had more to tell you, but at this point in my life, I am in a bit of a rut. What does looking through Rose Colored glases mean anyway. I have been told this many times in my life, especially most recently & that I wear my heart sleeve. I do also keep things inside until I explode. I have a hard time asking for help, or for anything & it seems that I am a very much a giver!

Well that's my story - glad to share on this site with you!

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