Hey Everybody, I was wondering if anybody out there could give me a reading? Last year, I went through a break-up that has left me sullen and empty. The break-up didnt need to happen for there was no fighting, cheating, mistrust, or abuse in any shape way or form. One day it just ended. I am a Cancer, 6-25-1982, and she is an Aquarius, 1-31-89, which according to everything I have read is a hopeless road. According to alot of the blog's on this site, being a cancerian male is hopeless in itself. I miss her with all of my soul but in fear of rejection, our distance has left us without communication for almost 5 months now. She talks and hangs out with my friends that she met through me, but I unfortunately get nothing now. I know that she is happier without me, and knowing that it is selfish of me, that really hurts. Before our relationship, I was one of the happiest and most confident people around, however as things transpired, I have grown to abhor myself...unable to even look at myself in the mirror. I have never felt so low and am just looking for a little insight, I would greatly appreciate it.
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RE: Advice needed on how to deal with a cancerian male!
This is all very hard for me. XXLConfused Libra, I truly believe the man you are dealing with is not in the mode of finding someone special. As a cancerian male, it feels to me like he is playing the field, if he truly has a cocky nature around you, he is trying to ignore the aspects inside of cancerians that are hopelessly romantic, he is trying to be a "ladies man" and pull you in by pushing you away. I will tell you that a cancerian male in this zone is not going to give you what you want, he is trying to get what he wants and that is his only concern. Honestly though, after reading all of these posts, I have lost a lot of my cancerian pride. We are rediculous, almost hopeless at times. We know not what we do, we just want it to be amazing. There is no secret to us, no way of working with it, it is what it is, and dont ask us, becuase we dont have any idea either. We react to every miniscule second of life, and we dont know why. Im just praying that someday, Ill be able to find someone who can put up with my insanity, and that I will also be able to make them truly happy.
RE: To move on or No to move on.....
Kmuse...honestly I dont know. I have thought long and hard about it, and Im not sure. It is definitely fear, it is uncertainty. Also, I feel that Cancers arent the only ones that do this. It happened to me by an Aquarius. Sometimes we have to let go of the things that are horoscopical and realize that some people just dont know how to open up and say what they truly mean. We beat around the bush, and we run away, but regardless of the sign, if a man is not accepting the fact that you adore him, and wont reciprocate it, then there is another man out there that will. My Aquarian love ran and I ve had to come and accept that. I am a good man, Cancer or no. I give my love and if she doesnt want it, I cant force her to, or trick her into it. Like Captain said, if they want you, they want you. You seem like a very passionate and loving person KMuse, why not find someone to make you feel the way you feel about them?
RE: Will The One You Want Ever Love You?
This one is a toughie for me. Captain, this is a great article. It rings so incredibly true, it hurts a little bit. As a small child, I watched "The Princess Bride" and I believed in "True Love". As a man was tossed down a large hill, he screamed "Asssss Youuuuuu Wiiiiiiiiiisssssshhhh!" For me, whenever I have said "I love you", I have always meant, "When you need me, I will do whatever is necessary to make your life better." As my life continues, I lose this feeling a little more each day, and as Leonessa said, what I really need to do is love myself. I have no definite point to this letter except that, I still believe in love. Whatever it may mean to each of the 6 billion people on this earth. I believe in it, more than anything else.
RE: Can I get a Cancer Man back by being friends
I agree. please dont blame yourself. I am a Cancer man, and I am tough on the people around me. I am also very tough on myself. You need to figure out what is wrong with your Cancer man, there is something in his life he is not happy with. You are not responsible for that. What he is searching for is someone to slap him and tell him what he needs to change. If you want him to fix himself, he will do it. If you coddle him, he will take everything you have. We are rediculous I know, you just have to force us to realize it. Also, Cancer men cant be friends. If you reach our soft center, we cant let you be a simple part of our lives. If You are in that zone, please realize how much sway you have in his life. We need direction. If you give him that, he will appreciate you. Firm, strong, convicted.....do it.
RE: To move on or No to move on.....
Once again, I thank you all for your kind words, and your words of wisdom. I am a lost soul right now. I have always had pride in my passion, and for the first time in my life, I have felt fear. I know that Aquarians are turned away by extremely heavy emotions, and therefore, I have done my best to keep them at bay. I am not afraid of commitment, I will give everything I have to find love. What I am afraid of, and as Im sure you all have seen on this website, is that I am a Cancer, and we are difficult to deal with, even to ourselves. I will show her my passion, I just hope I have enough time to do it correctly. My nature is to run away, pull a houdini and dissappear. However, something inside me, wont let me run from her, and I acknowledge that. Chances are that I will get hurt, but I believe in what you all have said...if I dont put it out there....how will I know? Thank you all once again. I appreciate all that you have said.
RE: After reading all these CANCER posts....should STEER CLEAR from THEM??
Wow, a lot of stuff going on here. Ok. I am a Cancerian male, to the fullest. I agree with all that is said. Yes, we are nutjobs. We are a pain in the neck at times. We get enveloped and consumed by any moment that has a magical feeling to it. It is all very hard to explain, but I will tell you its not fun for me either. In one sense I have so much pride in my passion and my ability to make any little moment an amazing experience, but just as I can make something nice be amazing, I can make something unfriendly into a large ordeal. This drives the other signs crazy and in one sense I get down on myself for being the way I am, but I also get mad at others for making me feel weird about it.
I will say to the ladies strugglig with a Cancer male. Be blunt and rough with him. We have hard outer shells and light blows dont hurt us, but if you get to the inside, we are wusses. You will know if your Cancer man truly loves you if you can put him in his place, make him realize his errors, and he doesnt lash back. If he lashes back, he doesnt respect you. If he gets quiet and somber and disappears for a little....he will come back with even more loveand respect than he had before.
I never know when Im playing mind games. I dont think a lot of people do. I dated an Aquarius woman for two years and let me tell you, it was test of everything I had not to be confused all the time. We all have our things, but dont give up on us Cancers. As weird as we are, we know it, and sometimes need you to point it out, and if you can handle us firmly, we will give you everything we have.....
RE: To move on or No to move on.....
Thank you very much everyone! You have helped me out a lot. I know what I need to do, its "how" I do it that Im fearful of. My heart, intuition, and understanding of her tell me that we both need to do things for ourselves right now and maybe, just maybe it wil work out later. It might not as well. It is just so difficult for me to hold back the desire to unleash upon her how much I love and miss her. Especially, when she pops by and says hello every two days. She knows how I feel, I have expressed it before. I have too much passion for a strictly platonic relationship, and my ego will not allow me to discuss other relationships with her. I know she knows this. I told her I would be "waiting at the bus stop", metaphorically speaking, and meanwhile my main concern is becoming the best man I can be so that if a re-uniting of souls does occur, I will be ready. Thank you all again.
To move on or No to move on.....
I am your typical male Cancerian in every sense. I have been in a relationship with an Aquarian female for the past two and a half years. We both knew our relationship would be tested due to the basic compatibility of our twosigns, yet still managed to have a wonderful loving relationship. However, times got tough, and without going into specifics, our relationship ended. No fighting, no broken trust, no distaste for the other persons. It just dissappeared. Suddenly and without words. I have worked past my grief and knowing my wonderful little Aquarian assumed that she had decided she was done, and that she was not going to come back. There is nothing to saythat she will come back, but she keeps starting minute conversations with me about basic day to day life. They are becoming more and more frequent in nature but always ends with me saying the last word. I have heard that when an Aquarian woman moves on, she does so with a conviction that is unrivaled in the other signs, and therefore have not prodded her with my Cancerian desire to lay emotions on the table and express my undying love. Its just that her constant re-connecting makes me feel there is still something there. What do I do? Do I throw out my cancerian nature and accept that this is just her being my friend, or do I follow that internal feeling and continue in hoping that if I let her adventure into the world as she wants to, she will gladly come into my world again?