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RE: "In Love" vs. Love. Thoughts?
If humans knew the answer to your question, we'd have saved ourselves a great deal of heartache over the centuries. I guess for myself, I think there's levels beyond the either-or of love/in-love. I mean, I have experienced simply loving someone, putting their needs above my own, caring deeply about their good. I have also experienced the hormonal lust that is often classified as "in love" in our culture, the passion, the craving for the other's presence. I think the thing that many of us hunger for, though, is a melding of those two conditions. We want to feel passionate and, well, hot, about our SO, but we also want the caring and sharing. The myth (fairy tale, hopeful ideal, you call it) of romantic love tells us - at least in the West - that we can have it all, & that if we can't have it all, then what we have isn't really worth much. We have to learn that love, in any of its forms, really is worth it, whether long or short term, even if it isn't the ideal. Yah, I wandered pretty far afield on that one...
Short version: Yes, there is a difference. Sometimes one becomes the other and sometimes the two never touch.
Sigh. If this answer is as clear as mud, remember that first sentence?