Thank you for the responses. All are sincerely appreciated.
Actually, I did meet up with him, with no expectation other than some potential apology and a 'let's be friends' discussion however, he took me to the beach - I didn't push him to speak about anything... I love the ocean and was simply enjoying myself. He decided to talk about what caused him to react to things the way he did (full responsibility and acknowledgement) - completely honest and open and stated that during this week apart he realized that he's been alone for so long that he's ill-equipped to handle a relationship yet wants to work for this. He apologized profusely and was explaining that he was in fact afraid, he didn't want to break up and basically - with surprising openness - stated that if I were to accept this and was willing to give this another shot, he wants to be with me, no bs.
I laid my cards on the table: terms, etc - I'm not an option, doormat, time-filler or crutch for a lonely heart- I'm a woman, who requires honesty, respect and commtment. He held my hands, looked me in the eyes and promised me that he wants to remain 100% committed to working on his issues (mostly the military brainwashing and how they shut him down; his fear of being hurt again once he fully invests, etc), making me his priority and then asked me to come to dinner at his mother's house. I accepted, had a great time - he was open, close and very happy/relieved. You can't fake the look of nervousness or fear he was wearing.
His mother and brother both spoke to him and he told them that he's definitely falling for me and did regret his actions. He promised (he always says "no promises", jokingly) to remain committed, to never run again should I bring any issues to light and also, again, expressed deep regret and acknowledged his actions, why they were wrong, etc. HE did this - with no prompting on my part.
We'll see where this goes but as far as my intuition goes, he IS sincere, committed and willing to do this.
Fingers crossed!