Happy New Year. I'd dearly love your insights on where things are (and are going) for my Scorpio BF (Oct 28/52) and me (Apr 26/68). We've been together almost 1 1/2 years and have been in love most of that time...he talks about moving in together and that I'm his sweetheart & the love of his life, but then backs away and seems disinterested - as if his feelings have changed or at least reduced. My attempt to talk to him about my concerns in this area are unsuccessful - he gets angry & says I'm emotionally insecure and needy. Any help you can provide is much appreciated. I love him, and I believe he loves me, but I'm concerned there's a problem affecting us in a negative way.
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RE: Would anyone like a reading?
Would really appreciate a reading on this...
I've been dating my Scorpio BF for just under 1 1/2 years. Mostly good, some ups & downs that are mostly growing pains but he "pledged his love in a big way" (his words) to me on our anniversary in September and has told me that he sees me as his "end of life partner" (he's 57 and divorced), and says I'm the love of his life, his sweetheart, etc. I could use more affection more regularly from him but it's not his way and this challenges me, but I'm learning to deal with it - when he is in that frame of mind, he's wonderful but if he doesn 't feel like being affectionate or loving, he just isn't. He has told me many times that I need to "hold on to the core (good) stuff that he's told me" during those periods when he's out of sorts or not acting like I'm his life, even though he says I am. I should note that, other than occasionally saying he loves me, he hasn't expressed THAT level of love/affection in a months.
This past weekend, he was supposed to come out to my place (we only see each other on weekends b/c we live 1 hour apart), but had to work unexpectedly. He was only going to work a half day and then come out - we had dinner plans at the home of friends - but around noon he rather coldly informed me that he probably wouldn't be coming because he was going to have to put in a full day. My response (that it was up to him) must have somewhat conveyed my disappointment because he got angry at me for giving him "that attitude". A later call went better, but he was still pretty unaffectionate and not very warm, particularly since changing the plan means we now won't see each other until next weekend.
This morning he called and I gently told him that I really missed him last night - he figured it was because I was the odd one out (in a room of other couples) - I told him that it was actually because I had wanted him to be with me, not just because I was alone per se. I added that I was also sad/disappointed because now we wouldn't see each other for another week. His response was a lighthearted, "Oh well, that's OK. Absence makes the heart grow fonder" and then changed the subject. I couldn't shake the feeling that something is all of a sudden terribly wrong, despite the fact that he was quite affectionate (calling me sweetheart and love of my life, and talking about wanting to get a downpayment on a house for him, me and my son as recently as this past Wednesday). I know he's been feeling anxious about a lot of things and he's admitted this, even though he can't really articulate what he's anxious about or why, exactly. He called again later this morning just for mundane things but ended by calling me "sweetie".
I'm confused and concerned. He's 57 and born October 28, 1952 (Scorpio) and I'm 41 and born April 26, 1968 (Taurus) if that's helpful. I need to know if his feelings and level of commitment and interest in this relationship are as strong as they were before, particularly since my attempts to ask him have not been terribly successful.
Any assistance is much appreciated and if there's anything I can offer you (reading, numerology, etc.) I'd be glad to.
RE: Would You Like a Reading?
Many thanks for this very kind offer. I would appreciate your insight on my situation. My BF of 14 months is a true Scorpio - loving and affectionate one day (or week) and distant/cool the next (usually backing away a bit out of fear of losing control, I'm sure). Anyway, He frequently refers to "future plans" - i.e., "We should start looking for land/a house together" but his interest in this comes & goes - if I mention it myself, his response is non-commital, even though he brought it up in the first place! I'm wondering if we have a concrete future together (and by that I'm thinking specifically of buying a home & living together, and/or marriage)? He's 57 and a Scorpio (10/28/52) and I'm 41 and a Taurus (04/26/68) if that helps.
Look forward to hearing your response! Have a wonderful day -