Posts made by nnina

This is not a good sign my dear!!! I know the fact that when guys have something in mind or their heads are engaged in something they withdraw a little bit... but we all know that when there is a will there is a way. I think if he is deeply in love with you, he 'll go out of his way, he'll put in all the overtime in the world to answer your calls, he'll want to please, he'll try to cheer u up when u r down and he will enjoy every moment bec u r the person he values most...my advice to u to reignite his interest is to start to cool off.. cut off your calls to 20-30 percent.. do as the old saying "u don't miss the water till the well runs dry" I'm not saying that he doesn't love u he might be but obviously he has taken u for granted and is treating you with disrespect.. and please do not blame him or mention the subject let him wander why u hv changed and why did u become scarce.. just keep yourself busy and out of reach and don't explain why...and reverse the situation by keeping him on his toes!!! try this for a couple of weeks believe me it works like magic just be brave and show him that u r strong...

Seperated for two years now...having problems getting my divorce (working on it)...and love a married man... so stupid don't u think? lived abroad with my ex-husband for 11 miserable years..living in a place I never liked and with a man I never loved ..totally different in personality than me and 12 years elder than me... unpatient..nervous..greedy..selfish...insane!!! people see me "thanks god" successful, pretty and so out going.. have so many friends and loved from everybody... they see me smiling all the time and they don't know how sad and frustrated I am!!! when I came back after working abroad after seperation I decided that I want to live the way I want.. I want to do the things I never had the chance to do when I was a teenager or after I got married... I started going out and I met a lovely person so outgoing... kind.. loving.. charming.. interesting.. (but extremely jealous & possessive) and gave me the life I have always been dreaming about..unfortunately.. never cared about whether he is married or not because simply I got into this relationship to have fun (which is not really me I'm the serious type).. enjoy my time and forget about my problems..and what made this relationship to go on was that this man has so many problems with his wife...he is escaping from an extremely unhappy life known to everybody close to his family...the problem of him not leaving his family is that he himself was raised up with his father seperated from his mother and he doesn't want to bring up his kids the same way he was brought up... and he believes that kids should be with their mothers and he can't give up his kids!!! he is a good man...now after we have been together for a year and a half.. I started to be more realistic...to see that this is the worst situation that could happen to anybody... I am deeply in love with this man and I know that he loves me too... I feel lonely most of the time because he spending most of his time with his family... I feel bad about steeling him from his wife... I feel bad for myself because I deserve a more stable life away from problems..also that I always have to be second..because I know that I am not giving myself a chance to meet anyone (and there are others more serious and ready for a serious commitment).. tried to end up this relationship several times but just can't...I clearly see the dead end but can't leave! actually I'm trying to leave but don't know how? should I stay or should I go? they say true love never comes except once in a life time...so confused );

obviously u r stuck in this relationship because of your lack of confidence... it's the fear of the unknown...simply fear of change... unfortunatly the only way to get over this is through another new relationship!!! wake up remove the dust that blinds you and covers you... if you are unhappy just move and don't look back... this is freedom for not freedom from... freedom to find a new you.. freedom to enjoy life and make the best of it... freedom to discove what you really are and what you really like... freedom to happiness... be strong and don't waist your time... I'll add my thread and you will know that I am in a similar (even worse!) situation and actually I wrote this instead of writing it to myself!!!!