I want to say that discovering what the word “ soul Mate” would be somewhat difficult to defy. Unless you felt that feeling and knew the word when it’s staring at your face. Imagine going on with your daily lives for years and feeling incomplete. That gnawing feeling that something is missing but you set that thought aside for years and yet it stays in dormant with in you that feeling of void, incompleteness. You thought you had it figured out once you married and raised a family and proclaim that you lead a fulfilling life and it was great. Great spouse, wonderful job, wonderful home and life. Yes it could very well be the ideal life. The very least, you did your best and the hard work paid off.
Every woman believes in that fairy tale story of the white picket fence, the kids , the knight and shining armored suited up knight ( your husband) and financially secured lifestyle. Those things are great for any woman. It’s a perfect dream but at what price are we willing to sacrifice to have all those things?
When asked what I wanted in life. I came up with one compound word….Soul Mate . I found the word to be of a great significance to me, because I had been married more than three times and I hadn’t really found that one man that could really make me happy. I realized now that there is no perfect man and no perfect woman. I am also willing to settle for a not so perfect man but what I want is a soul mate included in my wish list. I can ask God for this wishful item but really specifically, it’s all up to me what I am willing to settle for and not regret my life time choice.
I wanted a man that would complete me. A man that can allow me to dress up for him at my pace ( and don’t rush me) and walk out hand in hand together. This man could be my
Mirror image of myself and knows my likes and dislikes in life. Humorous, easy going, courteous, kind, neat and clean from his car to his space at the bathroom counter top. My soul mate would be an excellent listener because I would hate to repeat myself again to him. He would be sharing my sorrows and genuinely express concern for me as I would for him. He would have to be willing to try anything new or life’s experiences, because I too, am anxious to learn about everything there is that life has to offer. This person can not afford to be afraid to tell me what’s bothering him and be willing to sit down with me and explain himself to me so we can solve the problem together.
My ideal soul mate would have to be intuitive with perfect timing, to know when it is the right time to bring laughter into our conversation, because I detest depressing news that has no brighter side to the story. He would need to be a great dancer to celebrate our mornings and nights together. He doesn’t have to be a superb dancer, but know that it’s the key factor to win my heart. He would know that I enjoy a good dance with him, a great candle light dinner at home, as oppose to a quickie dinner going thru the drive inn window at McDonalds. The man would remember all birthdays, anniversaries and if he forgot once or twice, that he would know as my soul mate, that I would forgive him as he would forgive me too.
This soul mate would join me with my friends at dinner parties standing tall and make me feel that I am the most important woman to him rather than the other women whose boobs would spill out of their evening gowns and try to steal him from me. He should be able to carry a strong conversation on any topic ejected to him and laugh on key when my friends tell stupid jokes that even I don’t think is funny. This handsome man would know how much I love him and feel secure in knowing that I want no one else except him and that it isn’t particular necessary to like my friends, but know that these friends are a product of who I am. He would be courteous and come to my aid when a drunken man becomes loud and begins to annoy me .He should open the door for me when ever I seek passage into a bldg or car. He would have sailed with Christopher Columbus to the end of the world and be content to set his sail with me as to not desire no other but me.
The knight in shining armor would always and carefully manage his bills on time and not be afraid to tell me to slow down my spending. He would only to say that because he’d only be concern for our financial future and care me for forever.
Mr. Right would frequently surprise me with a rose or two to remind me that he is still infatuated with my beauty and charms. My soul mate would be sensitive and tender yet not be ashamed to show emotions of tear or despair to me. He would l know that his “soul mate “ would embrace his emotions and be there to console him always. I would then know that my soul mate has a loving, caring heart to carry such burdens and share it with me. My soul mate would always say he loves me just the way I, even though he knows that I feel like a Good year Blimp and bloated while carrying his first born child. He would not be afraid to step up to the plate and help to deliver our child if the doctor is running a bit behind.
This man of my dreams would put balance in my life where before I had none. He would cook for me as I would do the dishes. I would sew for him as he would volunteer to iron with out a notice. Should I become sick, he would cure me as I would bend over backwards for my soul mate to cure him also. He would never be extremely jealous but express a spice of jealousy, so that I may know that the fire and spark of love is still flaming for me as I will always feel for him. That kind of a man would never set aside the “honey do list “, rather tend to it as soon as possible, as I know that he has needs that I must tend to him too. Because he is the mirror image of me, he will join me at the park on a spontaneous, bright sunny day with a picnic basket and kiss me long and hard until sundown.
He would honor, respect, and defend me, weather I am wrong or not, because we are of one as one soul mate will ever be. And should he questions me , he would not shame me in public but would be man enough to know that I too, would respect , honor and defend him, if he should challenge my decision, in private.
I will know he is my soul mate in a crowded arena . I can feel that he exists but can’t find me. I will not have given up hope that he too , is still looking for me. I will know what he looks like the moment I hear his heart beat rapidly in my perimeter. He will know that I am near when I begin to pant heavily at the mere fragrance of his cologne. If it may be in an restaurant or an elevator , I would know who he is by the scent he leaves behind. I will know if he is my soul mate , if his smile captures my heart and my days ahead are of nothing but memories of our last moment together.
Having to explore long and hard for the true definition of the word Soul Mate goes beyond the explanations of the words boyfriend and girlfriend, because soul mate to me, has a more meaningful definition. It is profound, not vague, it has more clarity and yet it feels like the relationship was harvested years before our birth. It feels comfortable, with out uttering another word, the other knows exactly what the other is saying, we even amazed ourselves that there is no need to speak of our past because we had experienced them together somewhere or somehow. We were either reincarnated or played in the same sandbox as children, but yet lived apart. We dreamt or felt the void for many years and searched for a more meaningful relationship globally. We knew that the other was out there but the searching almost becoming quiet tiring.
I would like to believe that my soul mate will not give up finding me, just as a little girl believing in Cinderella, I believe in soul mates. He’s irreplaceable and there is no one like him to measure up to. His unique mannerism sets him apart from the others. One look into his eyes would automatically command me to comply and surrender. His lips touching mine would set aflame to my body .His kisses would stir up trouble for me as it ignites the very fiber of my hormones and I would be compelled to answer to his sexual demands. His touching my body would mean an invitation to more of the same and since I am his soul mate, I would know when he needs me the most at any given time .With him, I know I shouldn’t feel awkward, but felt that ease in the breeze .That feeling that I am home in his arms and having to want no one else except him. I will know that I found that man when words like, “ I love You” ,isn’t enough but words like,” You complete me” says everything in its entirety. I will know that my soul mate is in front of me if he takes my breathe away with the mere mentioning of my name. I will know that my soul mate is not far if his voice still summons me to seek him out through out time and space.
I have always felt somewhat naked. I am saying this because I have opened myself to many men in my past. I have wanted to believe in this fairy tale word soul mate for so long. I have been tricked many times thinking that he was the one but to find out he was an imposter.
Yes ladies., I found the last sout mate. .Awesome , he is relentless mmmm correct. an imposter.No, ladies , he does all that for me as well as i recepicate. He's unique , rare and a preasious gem. I gasp to think that he was really waiting for me to come along. Thank you God for this gift. I wouldnt trade or abuse this gift for the world.!