Luna11987 - glad to have been able to help!

Nanette

qkt6063, Please let me know how this works out. You are in my thoughts and prayers that things go the way they are suppose to for the good of both of you.

Nanette

qkt6063 - I believe at this time, he is deep in thought about whether he wants to live with or without you entirely, right now you are in his life where he needs you to be and if you push him, he might just move on for good. He is also taking your heart into consideration, knowing your feelings for him, and he doesn't want you to hurt. He needs time to think and be sure of what it is he wants to do.

Hope this helps, let me know

Nanette

Luna1987 - First off let me tell you THere were 3 Major Arcan cards, which are big deals in where they pop up. The Star in the 5th position tells me this was an important part in resolving your past. The moon in the 8th position tells me that the outside environment in unknown or secretive to you, you aren't sure of it. and Strength in the 9th position tells me that you really want to endure and keep control over your instincts in matters of the heart.

You have 4 people cards - tells a bit about either you, your interest, or friends and family.

You hve 4 cup cards here - emotion

You have 2 sword cards here - thinking

You have 1 pentacles card here - practicality

you have 0 wands cards - action; spirit

This tells me that right now you are more into the emotions right now, kind of giddy. You are thinking a bit, using your head a little and your goals are practical.

however, I think you are afraid to make a move, (lack of action).

Ok, here we go: Heart of the matter: 3 of cups - This has to do with celebrations, feeling successful, or lucky. There is merriment. So the heart of the matter is feeling like this relationship is worth celebrating.

Reinforcing factor - He is a good, kind, sensitive, reliable person; but tends to be moody.

3. What crowns you - 2 of Pentacles - you want a balanced; harmonious relationship that fits into your life.

4. Past influences - 3 of swords - Past hurts that left you in tears and torn inside; didn't think you would survive the hurt.

5. The past resolved - The Star - Big breakthrough. You came out of that dispair and found yourself along with a good dose of self-recognition: yes, my feelings do matter and I am worth more than he lead me to believe, and you found some peace.

6. Immediate future comes in with the page of cups who brings sweetness, gentleness; kindness, a dreamy romantic feeling sweeps over you.

7. Your psychological state now: Knight of Cups finds you warm emotionally, flirty, sensitive and social.

8. Outside influences - The Moon- The realm of the unknown - afraid of deception, how you will adapt, how you look, how he looks, how you both look together or are viewed as a couple. People around you are unsure at this point.

Hopes, fears, key factors: Strength: The fortitude to to keep control over your instincts, not to be overcome by pure emotions, use discretion.

10. Possible outcome: Page of swords - A declaration will be made - speak your truth.

Hope this helps, let me know

Nanette

qkt6063 - I also think he is trying to give you time to reconcile the fact that things have changed. Be happy that he still cares enough about your feelings to consider them. He is giving you time to deal with the emotions involved.

Nanette

Luna11987 - let me put this together for you on the table. I will have an answer for you in a bit.

Nanette

qkt6063, I think at this point you should follow his lead. He is trying to take it SLOW. I think what is on his mind is putting the past behind him. Don't crowd him, turn things around be being a friend more than an interest right now. Do things you like doing together: The movies, read the same book, that's alot of fun cause you can read it at the same time, sometimes over the phone, and ooh and aah over certain parts and laugh! It doesn't always have to be romance, go do the things you both like doing, enjoy those moments together and it will show him the side of you he is missing. SLOW and EASY, if you want him back. I think there is a chance if you don't crowd, push or expect to much at first and let your relationship ease into what it is to be. I don't see anyone else important at this time; but that doesn't mean he won't find someone he would like to ask out. He needs time. So do you.

Hope this helps, let me know please.

Nanette

moonwomanme - You don't have to call him on a daily or weekly basis, just once every two weeks or even once a month, just to let him know you are there for him, no need to talk about what went wrong or how much you still love him, just let him know you are there for him, if he chooses. A sounding board, to keep him from being lonely, to just being a friend at this point. You won't seem like a crazy ex, just a concerned ex, who wants to remain friends, and if that leads to a better relationship, then so be it. I wouldn't hound him about your feelings and your old relationship, just build a new one with him, void of the old one - no bringing up past hurts, unless he feels a need to get past them, or you can just keep telling him, the old is gone, already done, you are ready to move forward. You have more insight now, having gone through it once already with him. You know what wasn't working and what was. The first step, if this is truly what you want is to start out nice and slow, and you can't start anything without contact. Let him know if you must that you will always love him, because you once shared a life, that love will be with you always - leave it at that and rebuild, but remember what didn't work. Most long lasting and getting back together relationships are created from friendship first, work with the things you like about him and what you know he likes about you. From friendship comes a bond, and you can move forward in that bond to create the love you both want and need.

Hope this helps; let me know

Nanette

qkt6063, The cards say there is bitterness involved here. I believe you both are letting too many things interfere. Your relationship should be one of teamwork, where you both help the other fulfill your desires. If you can turn your relationship with the Cancer around to be what you both need, then it will be a successful one. If not then it will become starcrossed lovers, meeting for a time, but not enduring. The choice is always yours, implement change, if it doesn't seem to make things better, move on.

By the way, you are coming to an end of a cycle next year, and he just started his second year into a cycle. Do you feel he has outgrown you? Is there a way to talk about what you both think a relationship should be about and how you both see the future, children, finances, daily living, who does what? If you understand where the other one stands on issues of living and what and how that is to be done, you might see the answer much clearer.

Hope this helps, let me know please.

Nanette

qkt6063, I will look into this and have a response for you tomorrow.

Have a good evening,

Nanette