anyone else want to take a stab at a reading?
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RE: Can anyone do a reading for me?
Thanks for your response. My unhappiness w/ my marriage goes much deeper than the fading of the usual happy-go-lucky honey moon phase. He deceived me when we married. I did not know who he really was. I've slowly found out over 5 years and tried to accept the decptions. There are more than deceptions. He is extremely controling and emotionally abusive. There are times when I'm so confused I start to believe the vile stuff that comes out of his mouth. I am not a flighty person. I don't give up without trying over and over and over but how long can one person try? It takes two to make a relationship work and the last I checked I'm just one person.
I don't want my fantasy man to leave his wife for me. I don't want to BE with him. I just want to stop obsession over him. I can see the reality of where the feelings are coming from - from a place of disatisfaction but I just can't seem to make them go away. I have not acted on them nor do I plan on acting on them. The only thing that really gets me to snap out of my obsession is to remember that he has a very sweet and caring wife.
I thank you for your advice and its the type of advice I'd give any of my friends in such situations. While I don't think I'm "special". I do think my situation is a little more than the marriage has lost its luster and gotten to comfortable. If anything its uncomfortable enough to make me want to jump out of my skin.
Can anyone do a reading for me?
So - I've been married for 5 years. I do not love my husband. I've recently fallen in love with another married man. I've tried to fight my attraction to this man. I've argued with myself. Told myself its not for any real reason its simply because I'm lonely and looking for someone to be interested in but I can't make the attraction go away. Its faded somewhat compared to its initial intensity but I stil can't seem to shake it. There are times that I feel this other man has mutal feelings and then there are times when I think its all in my head because I want him to have mutual feelings. So far our relationship has been VERY innocent and I plan to keep it that way because I don't feel comfortable being attracted to a married man while I'm married!! I do not think my own marriage will last much longer but I still don't feel right.
What is really going on with me? Why am I fixating on men I can't have? Before this I have a pattern of fixating on men who were especially bad for me. Will I ever have a healthy relationship? and what will it take?