I am thankful that I have a job, my family and friends. I'm thankful for everything that I have right now because I do know I could be much worse off.

I am also thankful for organizations like Tarot.com and many others that are willing to give others a helping hand.

Thanks Mille!

My mother is a Gemini and my father is an Aries. Needless to say emotional waters don't flow in themas deeply as they do with me. Where I would've said in the past that I didn't get the coddling and emotional nurishment I needed from them, especially my mother, they couldn't help themselves. I also know that I gave them a run for their money too.

I know that there is a reason for me being a Cancer, for me being on Earth, etc. I just wish I could get a little hint as to what it is for. I wouldn't mind doing a "It's a Wonderful Life" episode just to see what it is I have contributed.

red - I just wonder if it's a phase that we Cancers are all going through. I feel like hiding in my shell much more frequently, but I'm afraid of being permanently alone. "Knock on wood", I've been feeling better lately but I feel like it's fragile. I don't feel secure.

Yes, I do think that it "sucks to be a Cancer" some of the time, but I'm proud of the fact that I have endless empathy (except for myself) and I do have feelings. I just wish that they weren't so damn strong. I wish that I could stick up for myself more instead of sucking it up and waiting until I explode. I wish that I had more self confidence and I would be able to project it more. However, if someone I care about is being bullied, abused watch out! Why can't I do that for myself???

I'm a Cancer that was married to a Cancer man. He was a Momma's boy but handsome, attractive - I fell for him immediately too.

At this point I'd run too. Start doing other things to try and get your mind off of him. Don't call him and have him stop calling you too. Telling you that you can have "half" of him should have the bells and whistles blaring. You'll never have him completely and you deserve more than that.

Buesky - that was beautiful. The biggest thing for Cancers is to have someone that understands them and their needs and are PATIENT. Actually, I think that Sagitarians are great for getting Cancers out of their shell and enjoying life. They all have wonderful positive energy. The biggest problem is that Sagitarians are like the Energizer bunny and Cancers need to be recharged frequently. I've had many friends and a few crushes on Sags.

reada1 - unless the man wants to commit, it's probably not going to happen. Being a Cancer, it's probably easier for him to hide behind the text messages and communicating that way than doing it face to face. You probably feel that deep connection because of having the three emotional water signs prominent in your chart. I honestly think that after a year of not being together, you should start to consider branching out.

To be honest, I sometimes think that being a Cancer is a curse. I hate feeling moody, I can't defend myself worth a damn with a snappy comeback - I'm like a shock absorber. I take it and withdraw even more. I'm afraid that what I may say back will come out sounding stupid or that I'll hurt that person's feelings.

Ulle - you received some great advice up there. I think Cancers have TOO MANY feelings that they don't know what to do with them or the feelings make them feel immobilized. Show that you care, BE THERE for him. That will mean a lot as well.

I believe too that some, like jeani do have the ability to accept themselves and enjoy their "Cancerness". For me, part of it is probably the depression speaking. Depression is bad enough but I think being a Cancer and having depression is almost like getting a double dose of the negatives from the sign.

quote: "and more importantly to learn the tools to forgive myself for any of my shortcomings (from my whole life) that I had/have and to heal myself... I became more focused on the beauty of me... and I'm still a work in progress but my self-appreciation..."

That's the one thing that I constantly forget to do for myself.

Everything that you said makes perfect sense. I'm glad that you've found a good "recipe" for your peace of mind. I too have taken a lower paying job with less stress and it is the best thing for me.

Thank you for sharing your incite.

I keep thinking about those same reasons, Ello, as to why people are leaving my life now, or why I'm probably leaving them and other changes. The universe or God does have it's own plan for me and I know that these are changes that will bring me to the next "level". As Cancers, none of us like change, but I do know that changes I have gone through in the past have always worked out for the better. I guess I just need to know that what I am doing now is the right thing or should I reach out more? Is my depression causing me to withdraw more, or is it that I am growing apart from some people and that is the new journey?

I would also like to add that I do believe that the changes that are occuring in my life are positive. In retrospect, any change that has occur has always been for the better. As some others have said, I do feel a new self awareness coming on, mostly that I am not the only one that has family, friend, job issues. I've always known that, but never truly felt it inside before. I would look at other people's lives and wonder why they have what they have and I don't, what am I doing wrong, etc? Not true. We're all struggling to make sense of life and day to day issues.

Being a female, July 17 Crab in my mid 40's, "the change" is occuring. I don't know if it's a signal to the end of the changes that have been going on over the past several years, but to be honest, the "other" changes that I'm noticing aren't any different than what I have experienced over the past several - and they all have been significant.

I had been on the verge of being laid off two years ago and found a new job that I like better but for lower pay. My mother had a car accident 3 years ago 3 days before Christmas and then a brain anerysm the following November, right after I started my new job. Fortunately, she is alright but it did instill a sense of mortality and upheaval. I feel like I am losing touch with my friends from my old job and I know it happens all the time. I had to put two cats down in August due to illness and old age. I've gained two new nephews in the past 2 years and a rowdy puppy.

I long for a sense of stability, but with the economic crisis, I know that won't happen for a long while, so change and upheaval will still be there. I'm hoping that what's left of my savings and 401K and IRA's will still be around as well, as well as my job. All I feel is that this economic crisis and new Presidency will be probably the most significant one in my lifetime. I'm anxious and excited at the same time - not a good combo for a Cancer.