You didn't ask for this, but here's an interpretation for your reading. Some interpretations might sound harsh, and my goal is not to be mean or negative, just trying to be honest so that ideally things work out for the two of you. See if any of this sounds accurate:
His feelings: happy
What he thinks of you: refined
Factors keeping you apart: the past, kids, immaturity
Best approach to take to the situation: a good shoulder to cry on, listen empathetically
What is hidden about him: guilty conscience
Type of relationship he wants with you: to help one another out
Best approach to take to the situation: Be brave. Take a stand. Stand up for yourself. Don't let others walk all over you.