If anyone would like to give me a reading I would be really thankful....I would like to know what the next 12 months will bring & what is my life purpose?
Thankyou & God bless
Well Jake is thinking about us moving in together. He mentioned moving in with me in a round about way after I offered to help him straighten out his house etc & i ,said I was ok with it but my house is far too small when we have all the kids together. I have noticed a lot of changes in him hes letting me see who he really is good & bad as if hes testing my love, again? Im not really deterred, I continue to talk openly with him even though he feels uncomfortable about it at first he does open up, a little at a time. He seems very down about his life at the moment as hes not happy with work & the business isnt moving along as he'd hoped. I think he would like my help & support but doesnt want to ask? He is so scared of becoming vulnerable & feeling not good enough? If I continue with my support & love will he gain confidence & have the type of relationship he told me he wants, best friends & lovers?
How am I the dejected loser, We have both toed & froed?
I dont feel like a loser, I feel strong.
If I stay with him I will be disappointed?
A regretful transition? By becoming submissive & losing myself?
Why is he worth the effort?
Why did he come back to me? Why does he hold on to me all night while we sleep?
His Mother & I were chatting about the house hes renting, its horrible & dilapadated, his lease is up at the end of March& theyre asking for an increase in rent & its honestly not worth it, is he considering us moving in together then?
Is it possible for us to have a happy relationship? What can I do to have happiness with him?
Ok I wont bring it up again? I did say to him prior to finding the receipt that we dont have to talk about who or what weve been upto romantically since weve been apart as it only makes us feel uncomfortable. I told him I had dated but didnt give any details.
I want him to want me, should I just let him initiate contact? Be less available to him?
When he asked me what I expect from him I said (all via text) "Im in love with you, can you do it. Ive had a lot of time to think & no longer fear commitment" He replied "You almost had that, can I come & see you?" So he did but didnt want to talk about any of it but just said he wants us to start over new. Which I agreed to. I dont want to come across as NEEDY, by assisting him with the kids & helping around the house etc (he was working & I wasnt & this is just part of my nature to help) does he look at this as me being Needy so Unattractive? Have I done too much too soon? Am I looking like a fool to him?
Hans, I dont understand "Because he has established a solid family line as the patriarch of a wide network of family members" Jake did get back in touch since your last reply & questioned me regarding what I expect from him (via text) I told him that I love him & that Ive overcome many fears etc. We spent the weekend together including the kids his friends & Mum & had a great time. Today I was tidying up around his place and found an empty plastic bag w a receipt from a Lingerie store initially I was shocked but decided that as it was prior to us getting back together I had to get over it. When he came home I asked him about it & he was surprised & at first he accused me of snooping, which is 100% wrong. We didnt argue & we talked about it carefully, he assured me hes not seeing anyone else but me.However, I feel a little creeped out & feel a little vulnerable but maintained a smile & confidence when I eventually left him tonight. When I got home my minds wandering & im see sawing. Can you advise me on how to deal with this? Do I need to worry?
Hello Hans, its me again lol,
Recently I decided to connect with different people & Ive been going out & having lots of fun & found new friendships. Ive been feeling great!
I bumped into a guy that ive chatted to on & off for about 3 years, he asked me on a date & had a wonderful time. I lost my Son 9yrs ago (he was 5yo) & Geoff startled me when he revealed that his Nephew died the same way in the same year in a suburb near me. To me it was an OMG moment, serendipity? Geoff & I get along like a house on fire, he asked if Id like to go out again & I said I would as Im intrigued & genuinely like him, however, I dont feel "attracted" to him. I was startled when he tried to kiss me & didnt really reciprocate? I definitley would like to be his friend will he accept my friendship only at this stage? He initiates contact & I reply, I dont want to lead him on how do I manage this? Why do I feel as if Jake is close, still with me?
Ive recently been chatting to a guy that I met on line approx 3yrs ago. We had never met & chatted on Facebook occasionally. He came across to me as a bit superficial which was a turn off. Last weekend friends asked me out to a Bar & I was thinking that this guy (Geoff) might be there as he had mentioned he sometimes went there. We wolked in & went straight to the bar & low & behold there was Geoff, I was surprised to see him but sort of had the feeling he would be there. I said hello, he didnt recognise me, I told him who I was & we chatted for a few minutes & then went with my friends to other side of the bar/club telling him that we'd chat again later on. I chatted & danced with my friends etc he came over to me a few times & when he was leaving he said he was going to take me out on a date, I said ok & to get in touch via Fbook so we could make plans. We had a wonderful time, we were very comfortable with each other & conversation was easy. I lost my son 9yrs ago, he was 5yo & was hit by a truck whilst on his bike he cautiously bought this up as hed seen something about it on FB (was my sons anniversary 7th January) he said that his Nephew 10yo had died the same way 9yrs ago in a suburb near mine. I was blown away, how strange that after 3yrs just chatting on line every now & then would find each other & that we'd been through the same trauma? Unfortunatel I dont feel attracted to him only platonically at the moment. He asked to see me again, I said that I would like to Im hoping that the attraction will grow? He seems pretty smitten & Ticks most of the boxes. Geoff 10 March 65
Now I was trying to read the cards for myself "Relationship Potential" spread for Geoff & me & Jake & me.
1. Is He the Guy for Me?
2. Is commitment possible with this person?
3. Influences standing in the way?
4. Influences in favour?
5. What the querant can do to be ready for this person to be in their life?
6. What does thas person need to do to be part of the querants life?
7. Will the querant be happy with this person in her life for the long term?
Cards for Geoff:
2. 3 Cups
3. The Lovers
4. Page Pentacles
5. Knight of Pentacles
6. 5 Swords
7. 10 Wands & 4 Cups
Cards for Jake:
1. King Cups
2. The sun
3. 4 Swords
4. 4 Cups
7. Queen Swords & 9 Cups
If you would, can you please give me your opinion on these? My Head is saying I should give Geoff a go but my heart is saying Jake.
I havent been too focussed on Jake recently Ive been keeping very busy & having fun, but had some quiet time hense.
Love & blessings
ps. you mentioned in your last reading that I would receive news very soon was this the contact Geoff made to prior to us meeting out of the blue?