A woman I'm in love with-and told her so has jumped into a relationship with a guy she somewhat knows. she told me she didn't have time for a relationship and hates men. Days later this happens. The guy lives with a female friend of hers. The guy 2 years ago was arrested for domestic violence-one of 9 times he's been in court. A friend of both of ours says-"she's never had a good decent guy in her life-you scared her". FYI-we still talk daily, so she can't be totally mad at me. I fear for her safety-I'm seeking advice.

A woman I'm in love with-and told her so has jumped into a relationship with a guy she somewhat knows. she told me she didn't have time for a relationship and hates men. Days later this happens. The guy lives with a female friend of hers. The guy 2 years ago was arrested for domestic violence-one of 9 times he's been in court. A friend of both of ours says-"she's never had a good decent guy in her life-you scared her". FYI-we still talk daily, so she can't be totally mad at me. I fear for her safety-I'm seeking advice.

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His mind is on his divorce-he's not thinking about your or anyone else right. Most divorces are nasty, with both feeling hurt by the other. Some what to 'show them what they really want'. I've been there, gone thru that.
If you still have feelings for him, hang in there. He may change.
I'm involved with a woman who has been "crapped on by every man" she ever known. Then I enter the picture. I show her kindness-which surprised her, I listen to her when she needs someone to vent to. I offer advice ONLY under the condition as 'on the outside looking in.' Her and I spend more and more time together. She calls me when she's troubled by something-we'll talk for hours.

Bottom line-try to be his friend first. Love will arrive-but on loves time.

Good luck.