Why is who focusing on me? The reader who gave me the reading??
As for the other comments, I totally agree with those comments. That's how I view love.
But, that's why I'm confused about what my ex and this woman he is with view as love. How can she be telling him that she is in love with him and always has been and vice versa? She didn't leave her husband for him 10 years ago so how in love with him can she be? She says it's b/c of the kids who are teenagers. Well, to me, you are doing more harm to your children by sneaking around and betraying and lying to their father, your husband. It seems she views it as love b/c of the fact that she is willing to risk that and see him, my ex BF, on the sly and that somehow that risk is something you only take when you're madly in love.
And as for him, I don't get how he can say he's in love with her when 10 years ago, she was one of 3 women he was seeing. They never did traditional dating things b/c she was married. Yes, he ended our relationship so that he could be with her but how can he even really be with her when she's not truly available?
It's like people I know that claim to be in love with someone that they've never even met in person. To me, that is impossible. How can you love someone when you don't spend signficant time with them, when you haven't seen them or been with them through tough times and good. When you don't know their family or their friends. Don't see those interactions which often tell you a lot about a person.
But that reader made it seem like I'm the one who doesn't know what love is.