I would love a reading if you could find the time and/or energy. I am at a serious crossroad and really do not know where to go. My birthdate is 9/3/1965. Should I leave my husband of almost 18 years? I
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RE: The heart of a Virgo man
I did think about the fact of the wife finding the messages.....that does happen.
As a Virgo, I stay conflicted with emotions all the time. I want to be with this other person more than anything. I would be happier ....or would I? I have played every scene in my mind in every direction. That is what Virgos are good for. We hash out and rehash every detail, everything from that certain look you gave to your body language when you said it. I absorb everything and analyze. What makes this so bad is I use my own perspective, not yours. So I can turn a look you gave into something that wasn't meant to be. I never want to hurt another person's feelings. I go out of my way to make sure I don't. I am a master at avoidance, procrastination. Being mushy is very hard for me. Saying I love you is difficult, because I feel it should hold something to it, not just said flippantly. I can be romantic, but it is not all the time. If I love you, I will try to make everything easier for you. Tell me you are having a problem with something and I will try to fix it. I am too much a realist to be overly romantic. I -want- to be romantic, but it is not rational so what do I do, but avoid.
I am hoping some of this has made sense to you Virgo lovers out there. I know this is a female Virgo prospective, but maybe some of it will still ring true for the male Virgos.
RE: The heart of a Virgo man
Your emotions are not ridiculous. What you have gone through was not ridiculous. Do not beat yourself up over this. Do not make this your fault. Please....hold your head high, raise that chin up, dry those tears. Wait....cry it all out first than dry them.
I had posted a while back that I am a married Virgo woman who meet a married Virgo man online. We ended our friendship a few weeks ago and yes, he has called me a few times. It was so difficult not to call him. He calls to check in on me. I miss him terribly. Like Jen has said before, the voice is so comforting. Funny thing he tells me that about my voice.
As a Virgo, I have to say that the reason I do not leave my husband is that "it is wrong". Does that make sense? I am driven my society's idea of what is the right thing to do. I am over analytical to a major fault. I can be cold and indifferent when I want what I want. I think the reason they do not answer is they are mad about some preconcieved thoughts. Since we analyze EVERYTHING, we tend to create scenerios that, of course, can be negative.
I will think some more about Virgos and how messed up thoughts and post in a little.
RE: The heart of a Virgo man
This forum caught my eye when I saw "The heart of a Virgo man". Where do I start? I am a married Virgo woman who stays in my marriage of 17 years for my child. My husband is a Libra and he is a good man. I met a man on the internet over a year ago. Guess what? He is a Virgo.
We started chatting about our lives and got to know each other. He too is in a marriage he was unhappy in, staying for his kids. Before long we exchanged phone numbers. We talked daily, every morning, texting during the day, every evening. He told me "why didn't I find you sooner? you are my soul mate". He continued to tell me tidbits like that here and there. My heart soared. I was growing closer and closer to him to. We talked about when the kids (his and mine) are grown, that we'd leave our spouses and be with each other for the rest of our lives. We would talk about our spouses, spewing our unhappiness about every damn thing. Finally I had a huge arguement with my husband, wanting to end it right then. I talked with my Virgo and he was shocked that I had spoken up the way I had. So he had a similar talk with his wife. While my relationship with my husband still is rocky, the talk made his marriage stronger. His wife begged him not to leave and that she would change. Virgo called me and thanked me for giving him the courage to speak up. He wants to be friends. This man that said he loved me and that we are soul mates wants to be friends. It has been a few weeks now that I haven't spoke with him (my decision). I miss him horribly.
After reading alot of responses here on this post, I have realized alot of things about myself. I do want alot of attention. I have been searching for who I am suppose to be all my life. It bugs me that alot of people have a passion and follow it. What is my passion? I would love to find it. I am picky, fault finding, seemingly cold. I am very analytical (too much I'm told). I try to figure out every little comment, looking for the meaning between the lines. I want to be right in all I do. I hate mistakes, mine or others. (Irony, I know, if I was "right", why would I be having an affair?) Scared....perfect word....Virgos are scared of the unknown.
To help you with your Virgo man, he might really mean that he will leave when the time comes. Will I leave when my daughter graduates? I say I will right now. Time makes emotions ebb and flow. Will I fall back into love with my husband? Virgos are planners. Any going off course bugs us. We want predictability. I think you are doing the right thing with dating others and not keeping yourself for him.
Part of me wants to tell you to tell him that you are fully committed and see what happens. Tell him that you will wait, tell him about plans of the "new business" that the two of you can create. Start planning and share the details with him. If he helps you formulate the plan, he is there for you. Had my Virgo told me he was leaving his wife and it was over right now, I would have gone to him, not waiting for my daughter to grow up.
There is so much more I can say, but I need to refocus elsewhere. My heart is hurting just talking about this. I really wish you the best.