redgemini: don't you feel like giving up or walking away? Someone please explain how they stay on the rollercoaster that is Gemini? I gave up after a few months...I maintain it could have been great but didn't think it would ever come to be, like the greatness would be just out of reach, forever.

Lashes:

This, this, this: "how much he scares me, because I have never reacted to any man like this before, and I just can't get a read on where he is at or what he is thinking."

Scary it mirrors my situation. I think it is infatuation for me. A puzzle I need to solve or something but I can not get him out of my head & being the Cap that I am, I protected myself. I found a reason to walk away. The last time we saw each other ( before the marriage), he had just started seeing this woman & said it was not serious and he was all over me. I knew how he felt but I told myself, this is how he felt AT THAT MOMENT. Once I walked out the door, it would be back to evasiveness and game playing, the dizzying dance. I almost regret picking the fight with him but now I think he must have been engaged or more serious than he let on to be married less than a year after we had our last encounter.

Gems are experts it seems at making you feel like the sun, earth & moon at the moment. I maintain that as much as I think we would have been great together, I would have experienced equal amounts of heartache. I am tough on the outside but I wound easily and it takes a long time to get over things. I just walk away. I told him I regret ever confiding in him because I do. It isnt like me to open up that much to someone in such a flash but there was something about him...

I wish you luck. Just keep your Cap wits and sense of reason about ya. That being said, if he called me today, I would meet him just so I could look into his eyes. Caps sometimes use our heads way too much & not our hearts. The moments with my Gem made me feel so special & warm and it sounds the same for you, just enjoy your time together.

Also @lashes05:

I doubt you got the signals wrong. I swear I thought the exact same thing when I was in the middle of my Gem drama. I ran my story by a friend and asked the same thing/did I misread him, etc.

This friend is honest and open with me and I relayed it as it happened and she said : NO, you did ot misread him and as much as I WANT to think I did just so I can have an answer to why things went splat, I know that isnt the case. I did not misread him and it does not seem like you misread your Gem either. We just got to see each twin I guess.

@lashes05

As a Cap, few people really astound me but this Gem guy has stayed with me for over a year now. We were around each other for years and I always felt him checking me out and trying to engage me in conversation but I never gave him much thought until one day it all went BAM, to this day I can not explain why or how.

There was such intensity between us but he ran away. He said he would have called me to explain about the new gf but he " was never good with things like that". I did not bother to ask him what he meant bc he'd offered that he had no serious gf when he invited me over. I think he was just pissed I didnt come running the night he asked me over and decided to play head game bc he knew I was interested. All we did was talk & embrace & stare ( deep intense eye locks) no sex but it was intimate as heck but then all gone in a flash.

I had a long term relationship with an Aries and think he is apiece of work with his refusal to explain and lies but man oh man this Gem...I have a feeling we will see each other again and while I wont try to start anything since he is how he is and now married but I will corner him and get an answer. There needs to be a thread on how to make a Gemini tell the truth, I bet it hasn't been done yet, or is as complicated as splitting the atom. They seem to be professional liars.

About the "cold-hearted "comments: Sad but true and its how Caps get labeled and I know I am often but with this guy I tried to remain open for some reason, wanted to let him in and he blew it...

A friend once told me she thought Gems were attracted to Caps bc we seem so grounded

( earth signs and whatnot); I was like whatever it is, it was slow and then sudden and eventho brief was a force, it hit me hard. For days after seeing him ,I still felt his embrace and his stares as cornball as it sounds.

Do you plan to see your Gem again anytime soon?

I am hopelessly attracted to a Gemini male ( I am a Cap female) but had to end things before they took off really, I just could not take the mixed signals. I like the dance as much as anyone but it was dizzying. We shared great chemistry, the way he looked at me & locked eyes but...

I've known him for years and knew he was attracted to me but it was not until one day that we both felt "it". We spent time talking, discussing sports, books and flirting and eye-locking. He invited me over, I could not make it. I called to reschedule and never heard from him again. We have a professional relationship of sorts ( we do not work together) and when I saw him again he was all over me..hugging, staring and embraced me as I left. This was all after telling me he was now seeing someone in between the time he asked me over and the time we saw each other ( it was like 2 mos).

I called him the next day & said good bye/"friends". Really, I picked a fight to end it because I wanted to make sure I left no opening. My attraction to him was strong but I was not going to get in the middle of anything plus he never explained his behavior for not calling. I just didn't know what he wanted from me. He made it clear he had no serious gf when we spoke but 2 mos later he was involved yet was all over me.

I decided to not see him again but our paths crossed in the office about 2 mos ago. I heard he just married the woman he was seeing after less than a year of dating and eventho he & I had nothing really, I was shocked and hurt. No clue to this day way he acted as he did, we could not talk about it for some reason but I tried, he shut down & disappeared. He seemed to lack emotion, depth and the ability to communicate despite owning his own biz and being a grown man--he is 37.

And as a Cap, I have to say this If a Cap tells you that you are cold and lack emotion then that is telling because as Caps that is usually the rap we get.

This Gem was a piece of work and I am relieved to be off the roller coaster but deep down will always feel for hom & feel that we would have had something great...just a feeling I got but that is that.