Please need advice!
Okay story goes.. I met this cancer guy over tinder.. we been talking for over 6 months.. at first I rejected him.. he chased then I kinda started liking him we met up had long talks then we slept together and it was amazing.. the. He told me found someone else they opened up to eachother and he fell hard he said he’s never loved someone like her.. a few weeks later she went back to her husband
He msgd me he matches me on tinder again we started seeing eachother again and he was so nice he told me he loves me a few times and then took it back everything was going great.. after that he wanted to cook for me start properly we saw eachother and it was amazing.. and she came back again having problems with her husband
We ended it again he told me that he couldn’t be with me he was worried if she was single he would leave me to be with her..
She went back to her husband he was sad all over again and we started seeing eachother again.
I became needy he backed off I couldn’t trust him he started talking to other girls lying I could see right through it then she came back again we ended it again and
3 weeks later he said they are done forever too much has passed and happened and they are done
We went out for drinks he was so happy wanted to see me again I told him I met someone and that he was nice and all I wanted to just be friends..
We kissed and the weekend after that I had a weak moment we had sex and I felt guilty and ended it with the other guy I told him and he kinda went funny!
I said the guy wanted to go on a date again and re kindle which he did and I told him I wasn’t sure if I was going to go and he told me to go because he would feel guilty if I didn’t he didn’t want me to wonder what if!
I said I went but didn’t go, I told him we should be friends and no sex nothing but I meant it as in get to know eachother better first without the whole intimacy
He said you are right we should just be friends no expectations be there for eachother and just friends not expect anything more than friends ever there will never be anything more
Then he told me he doesn’t like me more than a friend doesn’t see anything more with me than that never has.. even tho he told me he did before, ( this was a day after I said we should be friends he didn’t say anything to that) straight after I said I went on the date and it was a disaster
The day I said I was going on the date he said he was in my area for work I said want to meet up he said where are you I said I was at home, he told me has to go back to work he doesn’t have time
I think I hurt his feelings by going so I told him I didn’t go but he said his mind is made up
He has refused to see me since ignores my msgs still talks but he’s cold
And me being and idiot I kept pushing and being jealous and insecure... he said he isn’t talking to other girls nothing romantically anyway no one he has interest on dating and will take time for him to find someone..
So now I don’t know what to do is it done forever should I move on?
I think I need to just take some time and not contact him for a while I don’t know if he really doesn’t like me!
The weekend he picked me up he took care of me ordered dinner for me was super sweet and caring he did show he likes me more!
I’m so confused please help