I have ridiculously strong feelings for my boss. I have worked for him for 4 years and find that my feelings have grown stronger during the years. We are both single, the same age, and click on a lot of levels. I have never expressed this because there is a company policy that forbids our having a personal relationship. He is too ethical to ever cross that line, and so am I. But, nevertheless, I find myself thinking about him all the time. Now, I am going to work in another division and so he won't be my boss anymore and I'm free to tell him how I feel. But I'm afraid to know if he feels the same way. If he doesn't I have to let go of this dream of him. It makes me wonder - is the dream more important to me than the reality? How do I know? Do I risk making him uncomfortable and ruining what could be a continuing friendship to find out? Do I risk the dream for whatever reality is?
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Love or obsession?
I have been recently told that my job of four years has been eliminated and that my last day is May 1. I have been applying for jobs almost daily since I learned this but had no calls at all until recently. I have interviewed with this one company twice this week and expect that they will make an offer next week. Problem is - I don't want the job. I can't shake the feeling that it just isn't the right place for me. Also, I would be traveling for weeks at a time without coming home. While I have traveled for work in the past and enjoyed it, the thought of being gone for such long blocks of time is no longer appealing to me. Although the salary is adequate, I feel like I would be working to support a life I don't even get to live. I have no debt and very few expenses and I really believe that I could live on my severence and unemployment for awhile without starving. In fact, I was beginning to look forward to the prospect of some time away from the whole corporate thing. Am I crazy, in a job market as awful as it has been lately, to turn down the only prospect I have had? I have this overwhelming feeling that I need to trust my instincts on this one, yet the practical side of me keeps cautioning that I need to just suck it up and take the job. Thoughts anyone?
RE: Moving on help - I really need it.......
Why haven't you heard from him in two weeks? Is it a misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up? Or is he just emotionally distant and unavailable? You said he has made your life happier and more fulfilled but yet you are alone and miserable. I have been exactly where you are right now and thought I would never get past the love and need I had for my "soulmate." But one day I realized that most of what I felt for him and about him was based on an unrealistic idealized version of who this man really was. I know how hard it can be to let go of a dream but you have to ask yourself - is he enriching your life or diminishing it?