Hey all! I know this is my first post and it's a doozy, but I can't, for the life of me, figure out what this guy is playing at and it's annoying the hell out of me.
A little back story: We met last year while I was already in a relationship. We chatted all the time, had great conversation, and seemed to click on the friend level. By the way, I'm a Virgo and he's a Cancer. When the relationship dissolved he started coming on to me hot and heavy, texting every day, calling me, etc. I was cautious at first because I was still hurting from my past relationship and didn't want to rush into anything. I asked him, before we were intimate, if he wanted to be just friends with benefits or my rebound, to which he replied "no."
After we were intimate, things changed and it was no more text messages, no more nothing. After a week, I pretty much sent him an email stating that I felt used and had no desire to speak to him again. He knew I didn't just share my body with anyone and to go from constant communication to nothing was messed up to me. He responded back angrily via voicemail about how busy he had been and how I shouldn't have freaked out over him not talking to me for a week. He then told me that he thought I liked him more than he liked me and with that I told him to bugger off then and have a good life. Ever since then he'd sporadically send me messages asking me how I was doing etc, until I finally stopped talking to him in December of 09.
After I stopped initiating contact, he starts initiating it with me. I ask him why does he keep talking to me when I obviously don't try to talk to him and he says "because I like talking to you." to which I normally just laugh or say something sarcastic. He's always trying to get me to come see him, or he'll say he'll be in my area and I should come out.
He has a nickname he uses for me and said I needed to find the one for him that makes him "melt." After I told him "well I guess asshole and bastard are out." it turns out he wants me to call him what I called him when I actually liked him as a person (and yes, I did tell him that I only called him that because I liked him as a person back then, which implies that I think he is scum now.)
I'm going to be honest. I'm still very much attracted to him. We had a rapport with each other that was amazing, and we always seemed to be on the same page- but the crap he pulled back then still sits with me, and I don't trust him as far as I can throw him and the fact that I insult him to his face as often as I do, it makes me realize I'm playing a game too. He'll tell me about other girls he's pumped and dumped and I'm like "why are you telling me this? I don't show interest in your anymore and we don't need to have conversations about this..."
I guess I said all of this to say; what are we doing? Why won't he just leave me alone? I didn't talk to him for roughly two months and then out of nowhere it's as if he's completely forgotten our history with each other. In a way, I hate his guts, but in another way, I'm head over heels for him and say mean things to remind myself of why he's garbage.
I'm confused and I want to let this lie, but now that he's back "around", I find myself turning my lip up in disgust and getting turned on at the same time. UGH! HELP! LMAO!