To Vic013: First of all, I mean no disrespect to you by saying that you were very easy for him from the start! That automatically sets up a precedence for disrespect. This man does NOT respect you! Whether you have sex or not, you are an escape hatch for him so he does not have to deal with the ups and downs that's typical in any marriage! I have been married to 2 Virgos, and know their personalities extremely well. My 2nd one did not start out being a liar, but certainly ended up being one!
You have got to be strong and start respecting yourself because he certainly won't! If I were you, I would tell him that, until he files for divorce from his wife and can present you with the signed papers from both parties, you will have nothing more to do with him, and stick to your guns on this. Don't call or text him and don't reply to his! Try this, and I will bet you millions you will never hear from him again! No matter what he tells you, he still loves his wife very much, no matter how much he claims he's not happy. That's why the chicken **** won't file for divorce himself! The problem is that he is not happy with HIMSELF! And remember .... even if you are able to get him away from his marriage, if he's cheating on his wife now, it's only a matter of time before he cheats on you too.