Hey Willow,

I'm glad my comments were helpful--you're right, sometimes we just need a different perspctive! I hope everything is going well with you, and I return the virtual hug!

Hi Willow! Well, I'm not a man, but it's been my experience that not all men look at pornography. It is also my experience that most men do. I myself, and other women I know also enjoy a peek now and then. Now, of course, the matter of exploitation is an important one. But rest assured, there exist sexually explicit material that is not exploitative. I gather that you already know this, tho. Maybe the reason your guy kept it secret is because he was simply afraid you might react badly....sometimes it can feel like if a guy wants to look at porn, it means that the real lady next to him in bed might not live up to some kind of expectation as to looks or performance. This may be a concern of his. And for some folks (male or female) porn is just a fantasy, and sometimes (myself included) they want to keep it to themselves. If porn is replacing real interaction with a real person, however, that's a problem. It sounds like the two of you are talking about it...that's great! It might take him some time to come around to the idea of sharing the viewing with you...just stay positive and as open as you can.

Hello everyone! Well this looks like a very fun and informative forum....I'm looking forward to 'getting my post on'. I've been fascinated by the Tarot since childhood, but never delved in until about 6 or 7 years ago. I first picked up a Marseilles deck because I loved the artwork and the 'oldness' of it, but found it difficult to read, as there is pretty much no symbolism on the minors....so I got me a good ol' Universal Waite, and that is still my deck of choice. Got some very helpful books, started throwin' down, and have been enjoying Tarot very much. I once got a reading from a Gypsy gentleman who was a displaced person from New Orleans....very eerily accurate as to events in my life. Talk to you soon!