Hello everyone...

I found this forum as I am a Leo woman dating a Scorpio man and have been looking for understanding for months about our relationship. I am super thankful for this forum. It has been, by far, the most helpful to me in terms of better understanding him.

I just wanted to thank all the Scorpios (especially the men) for commenting and sharing so much insight. Before reading this, I felt like a crazy person dealing with a lot of stuff in our relationship...but at least now I have some idea of where he is coming from.

Few things; I def agree that Scorpios hide things very well. He and I have been dating long distance, and I have been doing almost all the travel back and forth for us to see each other 2 times a month. He is the perfect host when I am there...he pays for everything, opens doors, we attend church together, etc. Though we had challenges, I thought it was mostly because we were just being possessive of each other and just working through better understanding each other.

Well...when I was there last time, I went through his phone and found where he had been texting other women...one woman is easily 16 older than me...and about 10 years older than him...They dated before we met but he claimed that he didn't want to be with her because he wanted kids and she couldn't give him any. I didnt want to assume anything from a few texts, so I texted a few of them back from his phone to get the story on what was really going on....and why they seemed so upset.

The older lady was ULTRA PISSED...claiming that he promised they would get back together if he and I didnt work out. She knew me by name. Another girl was someone he met through Facebook...the other two..coworkers...one of which he asked to come by the house and "cuddle" with him.

Reading those texts, it was a lot like so much of the stuff I am reading on this forum...and the things so many women are dealing with from Scorpio men.

Of course, I was hurt. I let him have it because I felt like I never even looked at another guy (though I am 1200 miles away) and never lied or hide anything from him. I do all kinds of nice things for him...special gifts, romantic dinners, using all my vacation time/work time to work from his office so we are physically in the same space when I am in town...He even told me once that "I made him feel like a man". I replied "Because you deserve nothing but the best...and I love you".

I was also hurt because he has never dodged my texts or ever been wishy washy with me. I think from the beginning I knew I wanted to be with and just loved on him super intense and never let up...His ringtone has always been Adele's "Make you Feel my Love"....I had never dated a Scorpio before so I had no idea what I was getting into...lol

Fast forward...I havent been speaking to him much but he calls/texts everyday...asking if we are going to be "okay".

I would love to hear from the group, WTF? He said he was just communicating with them because it "entertained" him. I am lost...because he is 35 years old. I was hurt the first week, but its week #2 and could easily not talk to him if I just let another few weeks go by with little to no contact....

I care so much about him as a person, but I also am not a rookie so I know how to remove myself from a hurtful situation..even if it damn near kills me emotionally...I just hide in my work until its safe to come out and play...

I know this may sound twisted, but I actually care a lot about his emotional well being and want nothing but the very best life has to offer for him. Reading all these posts, I can feel his hurt and recall seeing the verge of tears in his eyes more than a few times in our relationship when we have had a major disagreement and he thought he was going to lose me. At the time, I just thought he would say anything to keep me because some guys are wonderful liars....

I am open to hearing from others..hopefully I gave enough insight because I really want to hear a balanced opinion. I am just trying to better understand him so I make the right decision for the both of us...because I see so much love in him..and I want to match his love...and be the perfect woman for him...

MB