I've been trying to understand his chart. Lol!
I'm so confused! Ha!
Perhaps you could advise me?
Technically it's over, however my heart is still with him.
There's no question the issue is within myself. I know he's lied, been out with other women.
(2 weeks ago he pulled a shirt out of the sheets of his bed and asked if it was mine? Its been months since I had been in his bed, it was a xl see-threw number that diffinietly not mine)
He drinks to the point of forgetting the simplest of things. Urinates on himself, a real prize!
My point being, he lies, cheats and drinks! This I have proof of.
The probable is me, not him!
Cancer man has this way of pulling you in and then punishing you.
Sorta like a person who calls a dog to come and then hits the dog.
Cancer Aquarius relationship.
Actual proof of lies and deception.
When he looked in the eyes, I would of believed in Santa.
I saw for myself what he was writing to other women.
What he was telling other women about me. I was planning a life
together, he was telling 1 woman that "he didn't give us more then 2 years"!
So glad I didn't get into a Cell phone contract with him, like he wanted! (Funny thing! He did, with his ex girlfriend, ended up buying her a 400 phone)
Another woman commented on a picture of a lighter he posted on his "famous" facebook page.
Due to Cancer man not having a drivers licence, he enlisted the assistance of an elderly neighbor to drive him to the post office, IN A SNOW STORM!, Cancer man was desperate to mail the "said" lighter to his new Facebook doll! That was Christmas 2009. My "So Called" man sends a lighter to a woman. Sadly, Cancer man couldn't send me anything more then a card?
I've got a laundry list of Red Flags!!!
Am I the stupid 1?
Voc, can you read my mind? My situation or should I say, my Cancer man's (over 3 years) behavior
is very similar to your Cancer man.
When I was a very young woman, I was madly in love with my Cancer man, perhaps a crush is the best description? I never spoke to him back then, he worked at a club my friends and I would hang out at. My Cancer man was the totally hot bar tender at this place. Every girl wanted him and he did sample everything. Fast forward 25 years, I run into him at an event to celebrate this "club". I hadn't thought twice about him in all those years however when I see him, I walked up to him and introduce myself and explained that he served me as a minor and I might still owe him a tip? lol!
There are no words to describe the incredible magic we both felt that night. My cancer man found me in a crowd of over 400 people and took me to another part of the venue to buy me a drink and chat a bit.
Cancer man went to use the bathroom and I thought it best to split. I was there with friends who were concerned where I was.
That was November 2008. I spent endless hours on line trying to find him. Classmates? was how I finally was able to email him. OMG! The day I got his return email!!!! Wow!!!
The beginning was overwhelming, heart stopping, loving, caring. I had little bruises on my arm from pinching myself!
Cancer man lived in another state, he's hearts desire was to move back to our home town. His family is here and everything he loves. Cancer man would come back to town every 6 weeks to see me. All expenses paid by "moi". Cancer man has a little issue with the bottle and a DWI usually causes lots of problems.
Cutting to the chase, I went completely out of my way to help him sell his house (out of state) I lined up job interviews in our town. Had resumes made for him and sent them to company's in our area. Sent money and gifts regularly because of the legal problems he had.
Also, I have a small business that I decided to sell so that Cancer man and I could buy a house together. Start a life together. That's what we both wanted, each-other.
When we were together, the love was sickening, everyone could see it. Like, kids!
Our share of problems is an understatement! I always had the since that I was missing something, like a joke you don't understand but still laugh and then ask a friend later what it meant.
Cancer man moves back to town and settles in comfortably with his elderly mother. Turns her garage into a forte where all his buddies come over, drink beer and listen to music. BTW, Cancer man is 54 years old.
As I mentioned, I own a small business as well as the property. My life is constant with things that need to be done to the property and Cancer man has always been right there for me if any kind of maintenance needed to be done. My business is also computerized, we were there one afternoon, Cancer man was using the computer to check is email and facebook. No big deal.
Upton returning to work Monday, my assistant asks who "Cancer Man" at yahoo.com is, my assistant doesn't know anything about him, she show's me that Cancer man had left is email and Facebook page open on our main computer! LOL! I knew he loved me even though we'd had issues. Lot's of issues. I read his email and Facebook messages thinking he had confessed his love of me to one of his friends, selfish I know. I needed to hear him confess to his friends that I was the best thing that happened to him. That his love for me was like nothing else he'd experienced.
What I read still breaks my heart, a year 1/2 later! Not only did he not confess his love for me, he was sending gifts to women with the money I had given him, making dates with "so-call" friends of mine. Essentially every woman he's ever been with (sexually and romantically) he's still involved with. Never have I felt such pain, such emotional abandonment!
So I've been reading about Cancer men as well. I sucked up the heart ache, the name calling, the abuse, Valentines Day 2009 is when we became intimate for the first time, Valentines Day 2011 I got beat up. As Cancer man explains, I was yelling in his face! Guess that deserves an "ass whooping"?
A few weeks later he weaseled his way back into my life. As I was leaving the Vet's office, I had just sat with my 14 year old lab as the vet put him to sleep. I had to get back to work, Cancer man was texting something and I basically told him "not know"! In a few short words, I told him about the dog and next thing you know..... He's back!!!!!
Cancer man's paranoia got the best of him about 6 months ago. He had 2 Facebook pages? 1 profile being himself and the other was a stupid name "Redneck Rob" (it's ironic because I helped him set up his Facebook page when he lived out of town. He's a complete and utter Facebook whore. I'm disguised)
A mutual friend told me of the Redneck profile. At this point, our relationship was over, again. One night I decide to check out Rednecks profile, he had change the profile name to mine!!!!!!
With the word (Wacko) in the middle. WTF????? My head blew off!!!
Cancer man and I have the some computer geek, who I phoned immediately! While on the phone with computer geek, I realize the only way to change the name is change the password!
AND I DID!
Figuring I was already in trouble, I might as well check out what Redneck has been up to. Once again, the messages to women, some... complete strangers. Some former friends of mine, he alienated most of my friends but he was still chatting em up on Facebook.
Silly Cancer Man!!!! didn't realize that his 2 accounts were linked so I was able to access his "actual" Facebook page and it was the same! He blew me off on his birthday, little did I know, he was in boxing a girlfriend from 30 years ago and they talked all night on the phone.
And why did I spend time with him this past Sunday? He's called me horrible names, he's let his friends message me saying mean things about my genitals. He's humiliated me to everyone, left me in restaurants by myself, having to get a ride home.
Cancer man refers to me as phyco/crazy? I must be, as I read this, who treats a person with such disrespect? Who sticks around for it?