Hi everyone.

Katie nice to see you post here. I know you are reading this thread but when you don't post it doesn't feel like you are around. Tell us what happens with the dating sight. I don't want to give up, I need to get my "All men are a-holes" thought out of my mind. Just because 5 guys were a-holes..maybe there are 2 or 3 more guys left on this island that aren't...not like I have a huge pool to chose from here..maybe I will join an international dating site.

You are still seeing your crab? He's in your group of friends so I guess you can't avoid it. What happened to the cappy?

Taurus-I think the guys I met were just jerks, one was married, 2 disappeared after the first date, no follow up, one had a girlfriend and the other guy was probably married too, I mean he said "I really enjoy talking to you" we discover we had so much in common and then his next move was not to ask me out but invite me to "see the view from his room" at 1 am? I don't think they don't think I am willing to leave this island..I didn't get that far with any of them, I think their only intention was something else.

I would definitely relocate for love..in fact that would be a good excuse to leave. I want to leave, this place is too small. I am just here for my family. When my Aries X wanted to marry me, my mother put pressure on me not to because I lived in Brazil but I was very young then, now I can say "This may be my last chance"..I've missed my chance to have children (my own at least) but I still want to find love.

Your crab doesn't like Christmas? Well, there's got to be a reason and you know how crabs are emotional and hold on to hurt. I have bad memories of Christmas too, I was 6 years old on Christmas eve one year when my great grandmother passed away and my mother yelled at me for ot praying for her and being more interested in my presents. She wanted to cancel Christmas. I was only 6 but I remember this so clearly, about feeling guilty for having presents and being happy when my grandmother had passed away...

Crabs seem to be a bit eccentric..yours hates xmas, katie's won't tell anyone his birthday, mine..well he's a whole weird species on his own.

My crab is driving me crazy again. Just when I dedide again to let him go, he calls and tell me he misses me and wants me to go meet him again. When I said I couldn't, he said he is going to ask for a week off in January to come see me..arggh!! He was so sweet on the phone it didn't even sound like him..he said he sent me more packages, this time by airmail..He is trying to reel me back in..I swear he must be psychic, he seems to feel when I am pulling away and comes back to pull me back in. I hate limbo!!

Where's moon?

Hi kel, how's Aries?

SV-I'll check FB.

So is everyone freezing in winter? Here it is just slightly cooler, but still 27 C or 80-82 F. Poor crab froze his buns off in Beijing where it was -11 C or 12 F. Must be hard travel through so many places with different temperatures.

hi everyone, I'm still alive. I had the flu for awhile..

I am going through a stage where I am just really fed up with men again..last time I went through this I gave up and didn't date for 11 years....all the guys I met online and went out with or chatted with turned out to be jerks..or disappeared...they must have left the island or hiding in a cave, this place is so small..I found out the scorp I was chatting with for 2 months was marrried....I meet a guy in person a couple weeks ago, he was a marine biologist visiting from Hawaii, said he came here quite often. I have a background in marine biology and I even worked with a legendary famous marine biologist from Hawaii and he was shocked I knew him, etc I thought we hit it off, but instead of asking me for my number or asking me out, the jerk asks me to go up to his room!! Probably also married and wants a fling!! When i was younger I had a problem with 99% of the men I meet only interested in se*X with me but I thought at this age i wouldn't have this problem any more...

I give up...

As for crab he's not sending me a ton of crabmail like he used to but he asked me if I would go meet him again, in his crab like sideways way of course. ..I give up on him too, because it's forever limbo with him, as Moon saids...I was hoping to meet another guy I would at least like enough to go out with regularly so it would be easier to let go of crab or get my mind off of him but I'm not meeting anyone worth my time..

Hope everyone is doing ok. I haven't checked FB in a long time..

Hi everyone

I've been back since last Friday but I think I picked up some bug on the plane and I've been sick...feeling really yucky...

Where has everyone been? Not too many pages since I last logged on..not like the old days when it jumped about 20 pages in one night, lol. Has Katie disappeared? I don't go on FB at all so hard to keep up that way...

SV-happy belated birthday. sounds like you had a good time with GEM. So what happedned to Pisces? Is he completely off your list now? You've decided on Gem?

Kel-what's this Venus retrograge thing you are talking about? How does it affect us?

Taurus-I've read the last few pages and it seems like you are sort of on a roller coaster with your emotions. You're on a high a few pages back because J loves you and then you are having some problems....what is up?

Lolpet and adventure welcome back.

Cusp, I still need to catch up on what's up with you..

Moon-miss you!! You also haven't been around much..

My situation, well, nothing new since I saw crab, he seemed to have really missed me and expressed it with his affections rather than words..but he wasn't there long..he's back in Manila again now, this time for 3 days because a flight got cancelled..he sent me an email saying "I'll be in Manila three days with no one to kiss argghh!" by now I know this is crabean for "I'll be in Manila without you to kiss"

Right now I'm feeling ok about crab, I really don't think things will progress and I've accepted that. I can't force someone into a relationship they are not ready for. but I'm also frustrated with all the other guys I had met online the last few months..maybe it's the retro I'm into a "men are jerks" stage...Out of all of them crab seems to be the least of the jerks..

1. Romanian Gem-I found out he had a girlfriend and sent her flowers before I left. I had heard nothing from him for 2 weeks, then the night I got back I was on line and he messaged me and asked me what I was doing, we chatted, and he asked me if I wanted to come over because his roommate had gone to the Philippines and he was alone. A-hole obviously wanted a booty call..I didn't tell him I found out about the gf and flowers but I turned him down and he blocked me from messenger a few days later...jerk!!

2. Pisces guy I had been coresponding with for about 3 weeks, seemed nice very communicative so it seemed, we had exchanged long emails even while I was in Manila, etc. I went out with him, he wanted me to sleep with him, I refused, no more communication..jerk!!

3. Scorp-Haven't met him yet because he went to the US on business, then I went to Manila, then he went to Japan, but we emailed during this time. I told him I was sick and he made some lewd sexual comment like I needed sex to make me feel better. Really pis**sed me off. Another male friend of mine had also made a similar comment. What is up with men? I am feeling miserable, coughing, my nose running eyes watering stuff full of phlegm and they think I want se*x?

So I'm a bit upset with men right now...why bother?

I'm on an island called Bohol in the Philippines. I went diving today and there was another diver, and we went to pick him up on another island. he looked alot like crab when I first met him when he was 19. This guy was Jordanian, and he was 18! The height, smile, everything..it brought flashbacks..kinda creepy...

Taurus-yeah, the Romanian guy was a jerk. he was beeing all romantic sending me songs. One of the songs he sent me was posted on FB by his girlfriend!!!

I think if it was the me of 6 months ago I would be melting over crab's behavior..but just because he was all lovely dovey now doesn't mean he would stay this way..so I'm just letting it go as a good time with no expectations..I asked him if he was coming to see me if he gets vacation. he didn't say "yes I am coming to see you" He said "I want to take Continental airlines next time, Philippine airlines takes too long.." side step, so typical of crab!!! Kel-why can't he just say yes, I want to come see you?

kel-he only left this morning. I was very busy afterwards meeting up with another friend, etc so I haven't had time to process it. I'm not letting it affect me too much. I had a nice time with him, but I think I was more aloof to him and that seemed to make him even more affectionate.

Taurus, I'll explain later..but in a nutshell, I found out that the Romanian Gemini has a girlfriend in Romania and he must have felt guilty and that's why he hasn't gotten in touch, because I cyber stalked him on FB and found out he sent his girlfriend in Romania a huge bouquet of flowers after our last date. I read all the comments on her wall and everyone is commenting how sweet he is and she wrote "True love"..if she only knew this guy was trying to get into my pants the day before he sent those flowers!! I'm glad I didn't now..

Crab came and left..he was soooo affectionate this time, he usually just kisses me on the cheek when we meet but this time he picked me up (I'm 4'10 and he is 6'1) and hugged me hard and kissed me..I remained aloof...I tried to talk to him about things but he's such a crab he side-stepped the whole time and changed the subject or twisted the conversation...it's obvious that he missed me but he won't say it.. super super affectionate..he's getting out of his depression but I don't think he knows what he wants yet..

men are pigs...

I'm in Manila. Crab's flight is delayed at least 2 hrs...I think I'll just go to sleep and see him tommorrow..

Crab is trying to win back my heart with Catupiry...that's such a cancer thing, trying to reel me back in with Brazilian cheese I haven't eaten in about 7 years...