get out. get out now. it never gets better, and the trust is gone. A sag needs honesty. You are worth more than this!!!! He's holding you back, and YOU are holding you back. It hurts, I know, but you can't just live your life around pity for other unfortunate souls. Pity and true love are not the same thing. Save your love for someone who deserves it, including you! God helps those who help themselves, and it's time to clear your head and see the situation for what it really is.
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RE: Feeling not so lost,,still need advice
RE: What do you think about a gemini man sagittarius relationship?
My gut feeling is that you will get tired of the games, and lose patience with him caging his replies. If you already know that he's hiding something, you need to let go. This may not be what you want to hear, but as a Sag, you probably value honesty above just about anything else, and if he's not completely forthright with you, you will end up feeling betrayed and upset. Things are moving too fast for you right now...you need to breathe and center yourself...be completely comfortable with your own life before you bring someone else into it. I'm a Sag too, and have both dated and been engaged to a Gemini, and perhaps my own experiences have colored my response. Yes, they are intelligent, funny, and clown around a lot, but I got tired of never being able to have a serious conversation about the big things. He's likely a great date, but not the perfect mate.
RE: Aires man/scorpio woman, what do you think?
Above all else I think that it's important to have somebody you can really talk to, and that you feel comfortable to be yourself around. If you spend too much time worrying about what he thinks, you might forget what YOU think! If that's not a problem, then ok. The tempers thing? Well, that is something you have to consider in any relationship, particularly if one or both of you have had any emotional trauma in the past (like who hasn't!). I wish I had asked myself this question when I was younger and my hormones got in the way of good sense: if either of us had a disability that prevented us from having relations, would I still want to be married to this guy?
What does he have, aside from a cute smile, a wink, and a smart alec comment that makes you giggle? Just know that you will spend a lot more time thinking about your relationship than he will, whether that's good or bad!
RE: Guys please help, read, and comment.
You're over thinking this. You sound like you're really young and have a whole lot more life to live before you're ready to settle down. Who cares where he's coming from? He's playing head games, so don't let yourself be the victim. Leave them both behind and focus on getting your own life together first. You'll never be happy with anybody else unless you're happy with yourself first.
RE: Time to Clear My Mind . . .
You deserve MUCH better treatment than this. Just let go, and if I were you, I'd try not to communicate with him at all, just tell him you have somebody important in your life now (you!). I agree with Desire's response...sounds like he wants his cake and eat it "two"....keep your self respect, lady. Don't make a move ANYWHERE unless you have a real good reason that'll make YOU happy, for example, new, better, more exciting job, better lifestyle, NOT to be a temporary fulfillment for somebody else's fantasy. YOU should be your own first priority!
RE: Hard time letting go
It's really hard not to go to extremes when replying to a situation like this. It's true...he had to cut you off because you posed a perceived threat to his marriage. Fact #1: his wife does not feel secure. Fact #2: Guys like this can't be "just friends" no matter how hard they try. Fact #3: He misses the relationship he was forced to abort, so that's why he's talking to somebody else. The fact that she's not the "nicest person" you know fools him into thinking it'll be easier not to let that friendship get between him and his wife. Fact #4: His marriage is already in trouble.
Fact #5: Don't take it personally, but he's co-dependent. Count your blessings and run like hell.
I know he seems nice, but even if you ended up together, you'd be the wife that didn't understand him and he'd still be talking to somebody else, because there's too much at stake for him emotionally to be truly honest and open with his main squeeze!