PLEASE TO ALL OF YOU.... I have been through this for the past seven years, We have not even been married for 3 years yet. (July 19th) PLEASE DO ALL OF YOURSELF A FAVOR...GET RID OF HIM IMMEDIATELY. I have been exactly in all of your shoes. I have know him for over 23 years. The only reason he wanted me was because he couldn't. When he got me he destroyed my life and god knows it hurts. He took over $ 50,000 from me and never helped me take of the bills that we had. CANCER MEN ARE ONLY USERS. Great in bed, had laughs you know, but in the long run they are the most self centered, self absorbed and selfish human beings that take up space on this earth. I loved this man with my heart and soul and when I had to start confronting him on these issues, he ran like hell. He completely destroyed who I was and my entire life. DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU. God knows I love the hell out of him, but that was not or will never be enough. IT'S THERE WAY, OR NO WAY, NO COMPROMISING WHATSOEVER!!! Trust me please, do not chase after these men, they are not worth it in the long run. I played the game before we married, thinking he would change, Guess what, no cigar!!!!! IT HURTS SO BAD AND PLEASE THINK MORE OF YOURSELF THAT TRYING TO LIVE THE LIFE THAT HE WANTS YOU TO LIVE. YOU WILL ONLY LOOSE YOURSELF LIKE I DID. MY LIFE DOESN'T EVEN FEEL LIKE MINE, I DON'T CARE ABOUT ANYTHING ANYMORE. AND THIS IS RIGHT????? NO....LEAVE HIM AND FIND A COMPLETELY BETTER PERSON PLEASE. I hope that someday I find someone who is a good person. Don't let the handsome 6'2" funny, romantic man fool you, because he will. DO NOT END UP LIKE ME...PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No matter how much you want to call him, don't. This is Cancer's ways. The more you leave him alone, the more he will want to call you. Like I said in all the years I have know him. He would leave and then come back on his own. And at that time I did exactly that, then I married him. Well... we are back in the same place that we were before we were married. YES, GOD KNOWS THIS ALL HURTS SO MUCH!! But do not call him, let yourself be in control! This gives him less power and I am sure he is asking himself questions. He text me on Saturday out of the blue, and stupid me text back. His comment to me was "I hope you have learned your lesson, when you have a man who loves you, don't push them away from you." He still does not get that he pushed himself away from me with the lies and deceit. He just can't get that when confronted, conflict arises and instead of handling it like a man, he runs from it and it is always someone elses fault. Cancer men do not put any fault on themselves. I would love for this to all stop, but you can not make them come back to you. If they want us, they will have to do it all by themselves.

Sorry, whisper in the wind.

Thank you Taureengirl, I really appreciate the support. I feel for you as well, it isn't easy, how long has it been for you? Are you over him or does it still bring tears to your eyes? I truly believed in my heart we were soul mates. A tarot card reader told me that we were married in a past life. I take it all with a grain of salt but this guy had everything right on the money, even the future he predicted for years later. Although, he never told me that I would be where I am today. I saw him again a few months ago. He told me that he would try to stop the divorce, but I honestly think that he was wrong on this one and besides do I really want him back after all the deceit, lies and sponging off me? Would there ever be a happy balance. The sad thing is we had so much in common and had a lot of fun together. We really enjoyed being together. We were told numerous times from strangers that we made a great couple. We had dreams, which are now a whisper in the went heading south.

I believed that before our spit, now I am not sure about that. I would not cheat on him even while going through this divorce. I need to be honest with myself and I will not put my own reputation on the line for that. Besides, I have absolutely no interest to find someone else right now. We go to court in a few weeks for the first time. I am pretty scared. I am fighting to get all of the money he took from me and it's been a hard job to prove all of this, but I am gathering and ordering paperwork for all of it. My heart has never been so broke in my entire life. How do you guys deal with this?

By the way, he will be 50 on June 29th. I am 6 months younger, people do think that we are in our late 30's early 40's. So he has time to grow up and become a man.

Thanks to all of you!!!!!! Everything you all have said is so true about male cancerians. It just hurts so much because I still am in love with him and I don't want this divorce. I do not know why I feel like this. He has done so many wrongs to me and I have forgiven him for all of them even though they hurt. The latest one when he actually left. His dog drove me crazy, not well trained on behavior. We had to actually shut all the doors in the house and put items on the furniture so she wouldn't get up on it while we were gone. Well after a year I had enough and the dog went back to his daughter's and ex. She couldn't stand the dog either. (Not the dogs fault) She moved into an apartment complex and said that they didn't take dogs. Meanwhile he was living at his mom's with the dog. He moved back in in Feb. and that lastest 3 weeks and he moved out and went to live with his two older children in the same complex that his ex lives. A week ago, I was driving down the street and saw his ex and daughter leaving their complex. I never knew where it was until then. When he picked up his daughter he would never take me. Anyway, I looked the complex up on the internet and guess what....they do accept dogs. Him and his daughter both looked me in the eyes and lied to me. What is wrong with me to still love this man who has been so deceitful? She was just tired of spending the money on this dog. And I certainly wasn't going to because I was already paying all the bills pretty much in our household. The dog also has a thyroid problem. I just received a vet bill in the mail the other day and returned it to sender. Can you believe this guy? I must just be crazy.

He always will act like you don't exist. Move on and do yourself a favor and forget about him altogether. The more you chase him, the more he backs down. And, if you have to chase him in the first place it wasn't there for him. I did not chase after my husband years ago when he would go on his two weeks on two weeks off for over a year. Then he left for four months. And then followed me and came and got me and said that he never loved anyone more in his entire life, not even his ex-wife. Well, look where that got me. I married him and now again he's gone. AND GOD DOES THIS ONE HURT BAD!!!! I have forgiven him for so many wrongs, but he doesn't see it that way. He thinks that I am in the wrong. The stress of all of his mental abuse now has given me thyroid disease and this hasn't been fun. He has told my friends that he doesn't care that I am sick. We are still married and he doesn't care. That shows you something about who the man cares about, himself!!!

It seems that all of you have issues and KNOW that these cancer guys are from another planet.

I have know mine for 24 years as friends and we dated for five, married for 2 1/2 years and he left me and filed for divorce. He from the very beginning has had issues. He was married before and divorced after almost 25 years. I have been madly in love with him for 7 years. Here's where it goes all wrong, he has lied, taken upwards of $ 60,000.00 from me before we were married. He can not tell the truth when it comes down to the nitty gritty involving his youngest daughter who is mulipative at all costs. He sees it and still did nothing about it. He has completely broke my heart, he was my best friend as well. We could have had a great life together as we promised each other. But, when it comes to a cancer man you can't trust them at all. They say "Trust me" well guess what, you can not trust them. They are very self absorbed, selfish and self centered. It makes me upset that I have to say these things about my husband but they are all true. The laughs, fun and shared interests does not get you anywhere with them unless, you sit on the side line and don't say a word about anything. DO YOURSELVES ALL A FAVOR...FIND A DIFFERENT SIGN. The stress is NOT worth it.