Well, what can I say - reading all these posts about Cancerian men - are any other star signs as difficult I wonder? There certainly seem to be a lot on here about the Cancer sign. From what's been said I guess most of you are out in the USA, whereas I am here in the UK but also just come out (not of my own choice) of a fairly long relationship with a Cancerian. Not sure if any of you can make any sense of what happened to me but I'd be interestd in any opinions or suggestions! I'm a typical Virgo and had been married for 26yrs. I first met my Cancer man just after his marriage ended but he said they hadn't been happy for some time (they didn't have any children) but he had been married before and has one son. When we first met he made a comment that he never meant to get married once, let alone twice. We dated for about 18mths first time round, during which time he had about 3 or 4 'funny turns' when he went off but only for a couple of days and then was very remorsefull and then things would be ok. Then out of the blue he ended it over the phone and was absolutely hateful. I was heartbroken as I had fallen head over heels in love with this chap - I should add, at this point, that he had resisted all attempts for me to meet any of his family.
Fast-forward 6mths and I got a text from him, saying he would be in the pub if I wanted to talk. To cut a very long and probably boring story short, we then got back together and dated again for 2 and half years. Last October, completely out of the blue, he had a heart attack. Lucky enough he was OK - I got the paramedics to him in 3 and half minutes and, my friends say, literally saved his life. He came to stay with me for 10 days so I could 'look after' him and things seemed ok. Unfortunately 6wks after the heart attack, we lost his father so things were quite grim. He insisted I was at his side for the funeral. We then had a reasonable Christmas but then for some reason I'm still trying to work out, our relationship took a turn for the worst from New Years Eve. 4wks later he walked out of my house one Sunday morning and out of my life - again! He had what I think was a nervous breakdown - obviously brought on by all the stress of his illness and also losing his Dad - I was there by his side every step of the way.
What I find very, very hard to understand is that he won't have any contact with me at all - won't meet up, won't respond to any text. I've also tried writing a letter and also send him a couple of very small gifts but no response at all.
I'm now very angry with him. How can you take all that from one person and then just walk away? It's been made worse now as a close girlfriend put a note through his door and then sent him a text and, low and behold, he agrees to meet up with her...... The same friend I should add whose house we were all at on New Years Eve. I might be putting two and two together and coming up with 26 but I am now very suspicous. Especially after the e-mail she sent me the following Monday after she'd met him - telling me he is fine but that I just put him under too much pressure back in January..... Personally, I don't think he knows the meaning of the word pressure - the pressure was quite welcome when I literally had to put my elbow in his groin while he was in hospital to stem the flow of blood after he'd had surgery - that was perfectly ok.
What is it about these Cancer men? Why can't they just talk to us? This one said he loved me - this one called me his partner that night in hospital when he was obviously so very scared. As for this 'friend' - well I'm still not sure what her game is, she is keeping a very low profile at present. As for me, well thank goodness I have some wonderful friends, two fantastic kids, a good job and have just finished retraining as a Reflexologist - no thanks to him! I also make jewellery so have lots to keep me busy but I can't help but miss him. My clairvoyant tells me he will be back with a very plausible excuse but it will be too late for him as I will already have met someone else - well I wish this someone else would get a move on!
Any suggestion girls?