Hi ladies,

Hello again from the UK. Sorry I've not posted for a few days but have been suffering from a bad back and also feeling a bit low. OMG - this forum has grown somewhat in the past few days. It's hard to believe just how many of us are + have been having problems with Cancerian men. Are they the most difficult sign of the zodiac I am wondering. It is certainly a great help having this forum to air our v iews on - despite me being here in the UK and most of you over there in the USA! Interesting to know that a Cancer man is the same the world over....! Lots of what has been written on here makes so much sense and yes, it does help us to hopefully understand a bit better.

AquaBubbles - your post of 31st May made a lot of sense when you said that Cancerian men can be self-destructive - I'm sure that's what is happening to my ex. He had been married twiced before and definitely disappears back into his shell when things get tough or difficult.

LibraChild - thank you for your post of 1st June - yes as you say something is definitely not right - I'm hanging onto the hope that all will, one day, be revealed - just don't know when!

Cappy2 - I'm not that far behind you as I'm 53 in August and a typical Virgo (although one that does need a little more patience!). I also use a pendalum to dowse with (although my Clairvoyant told me she was being told I should stop asking the same question all the time...) and it keeps telling me that yes I will hear from him at some point. So I guess I do need that large dose of patience.... just wish I could order some from e-bay!

Like most of us, I just wish I knew what it is about Cancerian men that keeps us all on this forum, they certainly do get inside one's head!

Wishing you all a happy and peaceful day from Shakespeare's home in Warwickshire!

londonlass54

Hi Taureengirl,

Hello from the UK, just read your post and wanted to send you a quick reply. I've already posted on one of the other 'Cancer men' posts but just wanted to say you're not alone with this problem! I've yet to work out want on earth goes on with these Cancerian men but I know one thing now, I'm through with mine! I'd been seeing mine on and off for the past 4 and half years. Last year nursed him through not only a heart attack but also losing his Dad (who was such a lovely man) and we had a reasonable Christmas given the circumstances. Then back in February he walked out of my house and out of my life - again. Yep he'd done the same thing previously after an 18mth relationship - again no reason but like an idiot I took him back 6mths later. Well not this time - he's well and truly had his chance this time. Apart from 3 phone calls the 2nd week after he'd gone, I've heard nothing more. I've tried sending a text, I've written him a long letter and even sent a small gift to try and cheer him up as we thing he'd probably had a nervous breakdown. Everything I've done has just been ignored. Apart from anything else, it is extremely bad manners! Then a few weeks ago, a close girlfriend decided she'd put a note through his door asking him out for a drink - it's amazing how, at times like this, you really do find out who your friends are! Much to my amazement he agreed to meet her. She then took great delight is e-mailing me the following Monday to say I had just put him under too much pressure back in January. Personally I don't think he know the meaning of the word pressure! I've decided he is just not worth bothering with and certainly does not deserve the love and care I gave him so I am now concentrating my energies on finding someone new who will appreciate me for who I am! Good luck to you and take care,

londonlass54

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Hello everyone,

I'm over here in the UK reading all these posts and thinking - OMG it could easily be the same guy! These Cancer men certainly do 'get inside' your head - like a lot of you, I can't help thinking about me ex Cancer partner who suddenly walked out of my life at the beginning of February (for the 2nd time). No-one seems to understand how we feel - apart from this site which is a wonderful find. My dear friends tell me to put him behind me and get on with my life - which I know is extremely good advice but it's so hard. For me the worst part is that he just won't even talk to me - obviously doesn't think he owes me an explanation or anything. Despite the fact I helped save his life but that doesn't seem to count. People tell me he is fine which hurts like hell - how can they be fine when they've just walked out of our life without a backward glance? I find the weekends the worst as that was when we'd spend time together and I find these can be black days for me. Yes I have some wonderful friends and a very busy life plus one mad dog - so why am I missing him so much? Do they miss us - I doubt it. As for the so called 'friend' who met him for a drink a few weeks ago, I've heard nothing from her since. I did think she would text or e-mail but she has been very quiet and the longer it goes without hearing from her, the more it confirms my suspicions. Why can't they just be honest? A couple of people plus my Clairvoyant tell me he will be back at some point - with a very plausible excuse but I somehow can't see that - not twice. But, then again, reading some of these posts, it seems that a Cancer man thinks he can do anything.

Wishing you all a happy and peaceful weekend from deepest Warwickshire, UK.

Hi Librachild,

Hope you've had time to read my very long post! It's nice to know there are so many of us out there (both in UK and USA) obviously going through very similar experiences with these Cancer men. My ex hubbie is a Leo and I thought they were difficult and stubborn...... My clairvoyant tells me what I really need is a nice Sagittarius. Anyway I digress...... in answer to your question, I'm originally from London - Ealing to be precise which as you know is just up the road from Chiswick - what a small world! I'm now living (thanks to the ex hubbie...) up in Warwickshire, having moved north from Hampshire some time ago. Just a quick update on my situation, no news from my ex Cancercian partner and nothing from the now ex friend who met up with him. I feel as time goes by and she doesn't get in touch, it says it all for me. Thank goodness for our girlfriends and these forums!

Dear Stevani,

Thank you for your replies. God only knows what is going through his mind. I just don't understand how you can go from what I thought we had - and that was something pretty good - especially after all we'd been through together since last October - to this. Especially after we spent Boxing Day with his sister and her family and he talked about us going on that 'once in a lifetime' trip out to Oz and New Zealand - insisting it was to be 'our' trip and not just his!

I've decided I'll never understand a Cancerian man - and to think I though Leo's were difficult (my ex husband is a Leo....)!

londonlass54

ps - should also have said apologies for the very long post above!

Hi all,

Well, what can I say - reading all these posts about Cancerian men - are any other star signs as difficult I wonder? There certainly seem to be a lot on here about the Cancer sign. From what's been said I guess most of you are out in the USA, whereas I am here in the UK but also just come out (not of my own choice) of a fairly long relationship with a Cancerian. Not sure if any of you can make any sense of what happened to me but I'd be interestd in any opinions or suggestions! I'm a typical Virgo and had been married for 26yrs. I first met my Cancer man just after his marriage ended but he said they hadn't been happy for some time (they didn't have any children) but he had been married before and has one son. When we first met he made a comment that he never meant to get married once, let alone twice. We dated for about 18mths first time round, during which time he had about 3 or 4 'funny turns' when he went off but only for a couple of days and then was very remorsefull and then things would be ok. Then out of the blue he ended it over the phone and was absolutely hateful. I was heartbroken as I had fallen head over heels in love with this chap - I should add, at this point, that he had resisted all attempts for me to meet any of his family.

Fast-forward 6mths and I got a text from him, saying he would be in the pub if I wanted to talk. To cut a very long and probably boring story short, we then got back together and dated again for 2 and half years. Last October, completely out of the blue, he had a heart attack. Lucky enough he was OK - I got the paramedics to him in 3 and half minutes and, my friends say, literally saved his life. He came to stay with me for 10 days so I could 'look after' him and things seemed ok. Unfortunately 6wks after the heart attack, we lost his father so things were quite grim. He insisted I was at his side for the funeral. We then had a reasonable Christmas but then for some reason I'm still trying to work out, our relationship took a turn for the worst from New Years Eve. 4wks later he walked out of my house one Sunday morning and out of my life - again! He had what I think was a nervous breakdown - obviously brought on by all the stress of his illness and also losing his Dad - I was there by his side every step of the way.

What I find very, very hard to understand is that he won't have any contact with me at all - won't meet up, won't respond to any text. I've also tried writing a letter and also send him a couple of very small gifts but no response at all.

I'm now very angry with him. How can you take all that from one person and then just walk away? It's been made worse now as a close girlfriend put a note through his door and then sent him a text and, low and behold, he agrees to meet up with her...... The same friend I should add whose house we were all at on New Years Eve. I might be putting two and two together and coming up with 26 but I am now very suspicous. Especially after the e-mail she sent me the following Monday after she'd met him - telling me he is fine but that I just put him under too much pressure back in January..... Personally, I don't think he knows the meaning of the word pressure - the pressure was quite welcome when I literally had to put my elbow in his groin while he was in hospital to stem the flow of blood after he'd had surgery - that was perfectly ok.

What is it about these Cancer men? Why can't they just talk to us? This one said he loved me - this one called me his partner that night in hospital when he was obviously so very scared. As for this 'friend' - well I'm still not sure what her game is, she is keeping a very low profile at present. As for me, well thank goodness I have some wonderful friends, two fantastic kids, a good job and have just finished retraining as a Reflexologist - no thanks to him! I also make jewellery so have lots to keep me busy but I can't help but miss him. My clairvoyant tells me he will be back with a very plausible excuse but it will be too late for him as I will already have met someone else - well I wish this someone else would get a move on!

Any suggestion girls?

londonlass54

Dear rnrchick, Myviewpoint + purplemaeve,

Thank you so much for your replies, advice and suggestions. Just wish I knew why it all had to be soooo difficult! I know he has always needed his space - this apparently was a major problem in his previous marriage, his ex never gave him any space. Hence why we had not moved in together and in actual fact, I only ever saw him at weekends due to the fact he works shifts. Now, I have to say, I am wondering whether this was more likely because he has been seeing somone else - either this lovely 'friend' who I am getting more suspicious of by the day, or maybe someone at work. Who knows - though how his marriage lasted 24yrs is beyond me. I forgot to mention that he'd been married twice before so I guess that should have told me something. As for putting him under this 'infamous' pressure (although whether that was his words or my 'friend's) he wouldn't even look at my wall socket that had began to spark (and he is an electrician after all) - just suggested I should get someone in! I just wish I knew why he won't even speak to me - we did manage to speak 3 times the 2nd week as he'd sent my keys back and they hadn't arrived but then that following weekend, he withdrew completely. It is all very odd and seems to be getting 'odder' as the weeks go on. Obviously not helped by this 'friend' who has her own lover and had spent 7mths moaning at him till he bought her a ring. Can people really be that devious if she has been seeing my ex? I have been told by a few people that Cancerians always come back but also that he has a jealous streak too and if I do meet someone else, thats when I'll hear from him. I'm a Virgo and am finding it all very difficult to handle. Had my tarot cards read the other week and that was very interesting as the clairvoyant saw marriage as a definite possibility!

Blessings to you all,

londonlass54

Hi girls and guys,

I'm guessing by some of your posts that most of you are in the USA whereas I am UK based but seem to be having the same problem with a Cancerian man! It's very interesting that the same traits keep on coming up. Not sure if any of you can make any sense out of whats happened with my ex but it's 'doing my head in' as they say where I live! I've known my ex partner for 5 yrs now - we dated for 18ths from July 2004 and then in February 2006 he ended it - very badly, over the phone and with no warning at all. I was devastated to say the least. However I did recover and then suddenly heard from him one Saturday, saying he would be in a local pub if I wanted to talk. I should say that he had resisted all my attempts to contact him previously to this. Anyway to cut a very long (and now quite boring!) story short, we ended up back together and it was better 2nd time around. Then last October 2008, completely out of the blue, he suffered a heart attack - a warning the doctors said. I took the call from him, rang 999 and he was taken to hospital. He then came to stay with me for 10 days afterwards (we still have our own houses) and then 6wks after the heart attack he lost his Dad. I was at his side every step of the way. We had a lovely Christmas (well as nice as it could be given the previous 2mths) and then beginning of February he walked out again. He, once again, refuses to speak to me but has recently met up with one of my 'girlfriends' who knows quite a bit about me and whom I thought I could trust. The very odd thing is, all my 'own' friends are 'spitting feathers' on my behalf whereas our 'mutual' friends seem to think it's ok for him to treat me this was after all that I done for him. I am trying very hard not to be hurt, betrayed, upset....... Not quite sure why this particular friend decided that she would met him..... A close male friend who I know I can trust smells a very large rat. Any idea's guys and girls? Is this really how Cancerian men behave? He told the 'friend' that apparently I put him under too much pressure...... I don't think he know the meaning of the word - the only pressure I did put on him was the night he could have bleed to death in the hospital and I had to put my elbow in his groin to stem the flow of blood. Would be very interested to hear any ideas, suggestions etc! Many thanks, londonlass54

Hi all, I'm grateful for my two wonderful children, both healthy and happy and making their way in the world. I'm grateful that my partner is ok after suffering a heart attack on 31st October. I'm grateful to still have a job in this current economic climate. I'm grateful for my lovely house and garden (even though it's looking like a jungle...). I'm very grateful to have some fantastic friends who have got me through some dark times. I'm very grateful for the gift of Reiki and healing in my life - I was introduced to Reiki by my best friend and I will always be forever grateful to her for that gift. I'm grateful to be happy and healthy - blessed be. As I'm off to our Christmas Reiki share later I will leave you all by sending love, light and blessings to you all and to the world. Merry Christmas