I so believe that people have more than one soul mate. I am with someone, not married, but with this person for 20 yrs. For the past 2 yrs I have worked with someone/my boss of the same age, we are friends/ he is married. We have this connection that completes us. We are happy around each other, we argue, kind of like we are married. We both have kids, but we know that without each other we are empty. I do find myself sexually attracted sometimes, I don't know what to do anymore. I know he wants more sometimes too, but then will we ruin our connection? Not so sure. I don't feel guilty about anything, because we haven't done anything.We both know though that what we have, which is unexplainable, is better than what we have with our own. Sounds terrible. Anyone reading this, read my 2 topics and comments and see if you can add to it to help me out. I appreciate it. Thanks.

I listened to you tell me that my s.o. would be devastated, well, I guess I did forget to tell you one important thing. When we were younger, I was cheated on by him. More than once. This person I have tried to block out of my mind because I was devastated, but the hard part was that I found out after we were together 16 years. Shame on me for being so blind. But then I have kids too and decided to get past it. I never will forget,but I don't think Im feeling this way out of retaliation, but I am treated fairly well by the other. My s.o. does nothing with me. For me to have a good time, and not sexually means I do it alone, whatever it ,may be.We grew apart over the years and now its like I know we still love each other, but we are not in love. The same goes for the other. He says the same thing. I am just stuck. I am sorry for seeming so insensitive, but the more I talk the more reasons I imagine why I must leave, but I don't think I ever will, I am threatened alot with words that is.maybe I need someone to vent to, because I really don't have any one else. No one I can trust with these things I am going through. I do thank you for taking the time to listen and respond. Hopefully someday, I will make some sense and decision.

charlotte123 you are funny. You made me get a new wrinkle from laughing. I mean this in a good way. here it is sept. and I am still in the same situation. Not bad, I think things are heating up a bit. we have actually had a chance to have a meaningful discussion about our feelings, and he just doesn't want to risk losing his kids. I feel mutual, but I want to wait until the time is right. He pretty much bluntly said, dont you think I want the same thing. We both have satisfying sex im sure, but what are we thinking could be better. I have never felt this way before. I feel like a school girl, just experimenting. HELP! There are so many people in this world, why this guy has a hold on me, I don't inderstand.Sorana, everything does happen for a reason, for me its going to happen in another season,lol. I have nothing else to do until then. I know his feelings are mutual, if they weren't I wonder what i would be doing. Scorpionwoman thanks for the prayers. Someone please reply back. Thanks.

thanks for the comment, here it is sept 6th and I still feel the same way. No, nothing has happened. When looking back at what I said months ago, it puts things in a different perspective. I don't think I ever told you that he is my boss at work and his wife works there too. We both know how to act around everyone. It's like we both know we are on guard and need to be careful of the things we say to each other. I don't know what we are doing, but I have to tell you this little story. One day during work, my car decided to die on the thruway. I called the office to let them know. The first person I called was my significant other, and then the boss. Do you know my boss calls me and tells me its your knight in shining armor and came and picked me up in 10 minutes. We ended up talking and I actually came out and said why is it that I can count on you for everything? He took me with him the rest of the day and I asked him why can't he just be with me? Emotionally, he already is, I guess I meant physically, i made him so nervous, like he probably really thought before we just like playing around with each other, but then he tells me, you know I want to, I feel the same way,BUT, he can't risk losing his kids. I completely feel mutual about this, and I would do anything for him. I feel such a connection, I tell myself to sit back and wait. There will be a time. I don't feel like I'm wasting my time, AM I? Well, I wanted to tell you a little more, cause i think I'm getting crazier, no just kidding. But when I go to sleep, i think about him, when i get ready for work, I can't wait to see him, funny when Im in the car, we drive by each other like wow what a coincidence. I actually had one free moment the other day with him, and looking back we were both so nervous, like little kids, my heart beating so fast, his pacing. i know what we both wanted to do, but didn't what is happening here. I appreciate your feedback, I feel like you are the one I can talk to outside of him. I feel like you are really listening. Please resond, I will check back later. Thanks

well, here is the more info. I am not married but am with the same person for 20 years who was an alcoholic. He has been sober for 1 year. i currently feel that i am at the point in my life when its time for me to worry about me. i have always been the caretaker, wifelike etc. of every aspect in my life. i never had the time to experience anything. When you say I need to know how he feels well I'm confused about this. I have had the guts to tell him how happy we are around each other and how we would have so much fun together. He says its not that easy. he is afraid of getting caught which i understand because he has alot to lose. he is not a millionaire if thats what some of you are thinkin, but thats not what im lookin for. i never had money and i know money doesnt make anyone happy, but he has told me that he will see me when he is divorced. When we talk we agree on both our lives. we are in similar situations where we do love our not so significant others to a point even for sexual satisfaction for them moments, cause everyone needs relief,:), but we are really not IN LOVE anymore. How can 2 people be so much alike in all of this. could we have really connected for the purpose to speak out about our feelings to someone we can trust. I trust him and i am almost 100% he trusts me. maybe he does just enjoy our talks. Maybe you guys will help me out here seeing i cannot speak to anyone of this. I dont know how to walk away. and am i sure he could do the same, NO. I feel his want to just burst out and say yes i want you, i wish i could force it out. Being the patient person I am, I think I am just goin to wait it out. Its not like I'm goin anywhere. I know my feelings aren't goin to change. One more thought, what can I do to get a straight answer from him. Its not like I'm going to run and look for another, but his little hints aren't cutting it anymore. They are driving me more crazy. He is like a big tease.But we both think its funny, because he knows he drives me crazy. AND I know I drive him crazy. Am I living my younger years now because I never had them. Please reply back someone.

thanks for the comments, you are right

i have a significant other of alot of years and someone has crossed my path recently, well a couple years ago, someone that i feel is a divine connection. we have talks that we call therapy for each other, i feel he feels the same, but is married. we are around each other alot and have alot in common, but arent opposites supposed to attract. i keep imaging my life with this person, or even sharing some secret moments, but am worried it could turn into something bad, but still feel this connection. i cant avoid him, but can i stop this feeling? what do you thinks gonna happen. please help.

i have a significant other of alot of years and someone has crossed my path recently, well a couple years ago, someone that i feel is a divine connection. we have talks that we call therapy for each other, i feel he feels the same, but is married. we are around each other alot and have alot in common, but arent opposites supposed to attract. i keep imaging my life with this person, or even sharing some secret moments, but am worried it could turn into something bad, but still feel this connection. i cant avoid him, but can i stop this feeling? what do you thinks gonna happen. please help.

Hi, I'm from the north east and I always dream things that happen soon after, even lottery numbers, but not the big one. I often feel connections with certain people and can read what they are thinking and when i think them, the other person will say what i was thinking or we will say it at the same time and laugh and say how the heck did we do that. well i dont know, but i like it. i wish that i had all the answers for people cause they love to talk with me because i usually have good suggestions or i just am a good listener. i just wish i could help myself. funny isnt it. well, i cant wait to see what other people have to say about some of my thoughts and questions, maybe someone on this site can help. have a great day,