lol. CWB.....douche bag indeed.lol Detox good for you for saying no!

It's my understanding that they like to pop in and out of your life. So you hit the nail on the head. take it slow see where it goes and don't give yourself too much to him until he proves he's worthy of you. Good luck

Just reading the posts here and my encounter with a cancer guy, this is very typical behavior for them.

Taking astrology out of the equation for a second. I think he's not really into you. He pops up when its conveinent for him. He prob dates other women in between contacting you and when those new relationships fizzle he contacts you cause you can keep him busy until his next chick comes along.

i may be wrong but thats just my opinion.

I'll try not to let my expierence with this cancer taint my view of all them. He came back and disappeared again. So I deleted his number from my phone all email and contact I have of him. I'm not going to be available at his convienence, I deserve much more. So I've moved on dating again. But goodluck to all of you. Cancer men seem to be too much effort and I want to spend my time in an equal relationship.

WOW. I love this Captain. This really is an awesome post. I enjoyed reading it as I usually do with your other posts.

I just got done dealing with a crab with similar disappearing reappearing habits like your guy. I finally had to let it go. This behaviour will not stop. You have to understand that you'll have to keep yourself very busy to not notice when he decides to be distant and do his own thing. Bottom line is a man will do what he truly wants to do if he wants to. The phone dying sounds like a valid excuse so you can give him the benefit of the doubt but do you really want to be around someone that treats you like an after thought. If you had fall break what would you be doing in regards to him?..............................Exactly

I feel bad for you hunny because I just though this and the feeling sucks.

It nice that you realize you are the common factor in your relationships not working out instead of blamimg other people. I can't offer any insight into why but I'm offering my support. I ask that question sometimes so I know how you feel. (((((hugs)))))

Taurus I'm happy that you relationship is going great, essentially isn't that what we all want? lol My cancer really is a nice guy with great qualities. One thing that I've realized over the past few week or so is maybe the whole shell thing is driving me crazy because of me not him. It's hard to sorta explain. Throughout this I can honestly say I don't believe he's lying to me etc. It's a little difficult for me to trust men and I mostly feel that they're generally lying about everything and are complicated beyond the likes of which I care to understand. I guess the dischord is how we express our feelings differently and i kinda think my way is the only way to do it, but obviously it's not. I'm putting way more thought into this than is actually required and thus sending myself off the rocker.lol Even if my ordeal with dating this cancer man doesn't come out to anything, the lessons I'm learning now will definately help in the future.

Ok so followup to my last post......

Like I said I didn't expect a response to the message I sent him....and well I didn't get one at that time.

The next day he sent me a message telling me he missed the message and wants to hang out with me again. I just said ok. I guess he sensed my fustration with everything. I told him it seems he's not interested anymore. He says thats not it at all and he's just trying to sort things out and he wants me to be patient with him. I told him I'm trying to be but its difficult . he said he understands and he tried to reassure me he still cares etc..etc.....

So I'm going to of course attempt to be patient and relax. I'll try not to overanalyze his every move or lack thereof. I'm pretty sure I won't be able to just sit and wait for too long because its against me nature but like I said in my first post I think he just may be worth it so we'll see. If I'm still around after things smooth out with him, I'll have that "talk" and make my decsion about him at that time.

Once again thanks for your helps guys

Thank you all for your advice. I've read many threads here about the matter and needless to say I was not surprised when he went missing. He says he was hurt really badly by his ex girlfriend and I'm now thinking if this is the way you treated her well no wonder she left. I know myself pretty well and even if I do hang around for the next few months or year even and he continues this way, which we all know he will, I will break his heart. I need that attention from whoever i'm dating and once I don't have it I'll be looking elsewhere for it so, It's for the best. I don't like mind games and being selfish. This " i'll do it when I want to" concept is beyond me. There is little or no consideration for the other person. I cannot continue to stroke someones ego with reassurance and admiration for too much longer with the sentiments being returned. Lets be honest my ego is big enough for the both of us. It really is unfortunate for him. He doesn't realize how wonderful life with could be me. He admitted to me he thinks I'm the "complete package".....see folks there goes my leo ego..lol.... But it's true. I chose him and if he doesn't want me and he won't be there the way he needs to be so we both can be satisfied then it won't work. I did send him a message earlier today telling him I miss him and want to see him tomorrow. I'm sure I'll get no response and if that does happen then that'll pretty much seal the fate of this non-relationship. I'll keep you guys updated if anything happens tomorrow.

It's so nice to have people to vent this stuff out with. I understand people are people regardless of signs and stuff but damn it, it has a lot to do with it! Again thank you all sooo much for your advice to this thread and all the others that I've enjoyed reading over the past few months.