Hi Hanswolf! Excellent news on the exhusband (3/25/75)! Thank you!
"can you help me get a handle on this? you are reacting plainly to a far away illusion.
I need insight on to put my mind at ease...when real love is arising your mind is put at ease."
Not sure if this is what you need to clarify? Trying!! I had my heart broken by the 2/2/74 individual. He seemed like a carbon copy of myself then he had made a decision to move later this year and shut down on me saying I have a life here he can't expect me to uproot (career, own a house, children). I get the logic, but I'm stuck on my feelings. It was a back and forth friendship/more/less/feelings come up he shut down/conflited thing for a few months and now he seems to be really overly into another woman who has nothing - no real job, lives with parents, no kids - can uproot (10/5/77). Still states he wants me to be friends but will not reveal actual feelings about anything. I cut all ties out of hurt and disappointment when I found out about the new relationship. Everyone around me says he is just confused and torn, but it isn't making sense. We are both very well educated, professionals who like the same things and laugh a lot together. It seemed so good and now - disaster! Did I do the right thing severing ties? Will he ever try to befriend me again? Will the new relationship last? It's very new and hurtful now, so I'm still in the looking to make sense of it all phase. I really felt a bond there and I think he did too - he started out super intense with me as well - but it got messed up with this moving thing. Can you answer these questions and also give a general impression of how you see and feel about this situation? Thanks for your time and talent. It means a lot when you feel like I do right now.