Hi star2u Ive been reading these forums for the best part of the weekend on gemini men and have gained a lot of insight - so a big thank u to everybody who contributed as I now realise and recongnise a lot of the traits are them and not me. I am also gemini woman and it helps to a degree but it does not absolved the coldness and harshness. This man told me he thinks its good to be competitive in a relationship. I dont agree or get it but have realised he has to be right about everything no amount of explaining my perspective will he not see my point. He thinks cos i read a lot and have varied interests -im influenced. I just have an open/balanced mind. Hes quietly arrogant, and has said that people find him so too. I am intelligent and very sensible and independent, which I believe he secretly respects but also doesnt like that I can match him mentally, sometime I think he needs a little weak doormant )not me for sure) but then he will be bored. He told me once that he has no trouble with women (meaning any problems with us, must be me-arrogance again!) if so why's he by himself. I know in the past when i was cool with him, he panicked now I look back and called me and had 3hrs on the phone blaming me as usual. Rather than show his true feelings and what he wants he just said there is something about me and you that works. Hes weak emotionally and selfish and wants to have a casual relationship and says he cant do 1-1. He wants everything with no commitments. He used to live with me but now I wonder if it was because it was convenient at the time. Cant ever make a point as he cant be criticised but over the last 13yrs of reconnecting with him everything is my faults also I have all the faults, Hes petty boring selfish cold and immature (yet in mid 50's) mean and evil, uncaring. Yet he will point out all the things he wants, love care and affection- you have to give to get i believe. Despite all this i do beleive he is my kind of soul mate and gemini's are very intuitive(air signs) but not willing to put up with all the mind playing games and guessing what he wants. i love affection and intimacy but find it hard especially if theres someone else in the picture. I told him once he has a problem with women, Didnt go down well with his ego, maybe he can catch them but not keep them. Still I ve decided to love and leave again-he uses me emotionally and sometimes physically in the sense we can feel each other (and we only see each 1 or twice a month cos of his work (night worker). I think that as a gemini he has to have 2 or everything but not me no more. I am proud I know Im a good catch and have other seriour admirers but I not interested just for the sake of a relationship (typical gemini) Ive been more than patient (14yrs on/off apart 8yrs)but he cant have his cake and eat it too. Hes greedy! Im too special to be so cocubine when he feels like it. You use to live with me.......we women have to become stronger and not let men get away with murder especially cold selfish gemini men.......

Hi star2u Ive been reading these forums for the best part of the weekend on gemini men and have gained a lot of insight - so a big thank u to everybody who contributed as I now realise and recongnise a lot of the traits are them and not me. I am also gemini woman and it helps to a degree but it does not absolved the coldness and harshness. This man told me he thinks its good to be competitive in a relationship. I dont agree or get it but have realised he has to be right about everything no amount of explaining my perspective will he not see my point. He thinks cos i read a lot and have varied interests -im influenced. I just have an open/balanced mind. Hes quietly arrogant, and has said that people find him so too. I am intelligent and very sensible and independent, which I believe he secretly respects but also doesnt like that I can match him mentally, sometime I think he needs a little weak doormant )not me for sure) but then he will be bored. He told me once that he has no trouble with women (meaning any problems with us, must be me-arrogance again!) if so why's he by himself. I know in the past when i was cool with him, he panicked now I look back and called me and had 3hrs on the phone blaming me as usual. Rather than show his true feelings and what he wants he just said there is something about me and you that works. Hes weak emotionally and selfish and wants to have a casual relationship and says he cant do 1-1. He wants everything with no commitments. He used to live with me but now I wonder if it was because it was convenient at the time. Cant ever make a point as he cant be criticised but over the last 13yrs of reconnecting with him everything is my faults also I have all the faults, Hes petty boring selfish cold and immature (yet in mid 50's) mean and evil, uncaring. Yet he will point out all the things he wants, love care and affection- you have to give to get i believe. Despite all this i do beleive he is my kind of soul mate and gemini's are very intuitive(air signs) but not willing to put up with all the mind playing games and guessing what he wants. i love affection and intimacy but find it hard especially if theres someone else in the picture. I told him once he has a problem with women, Didnt go down well with his ego, maybe he can catch them but not keep them. Still I ve decided to love and leave again-he uses me emotionally and sometimes physically in the sense we can feel each other (and we only see each 1 or twice a month cos of his work (night worker). I think that as a gemini he has to have 2 or everything but not me no more. I am proud I know Im a good catch and have other seriour admirers but I not interested just for the sake of a relationship (typical gemini) Ive been more than patient (14yrs on/off apart 8yrs)but he cant have his cake and eat it too. Hes greedy! Im too special to be so cocubine when he feels like it. You use to live with me.......we women have to become stronger and not let men get away with murder especially cold selfish gemini men.......