Posts made by Leonessa

This is an excellent article and it encapsulates one of the lessons I'm learning.

Letting go of an unrequited or unavailable love frees up space in your life for real love to come in. However, we must be patient and not jump into a similar non loving relationship. So the real question is NOT - "will he ever love me?"" " or ""when will I meet my true love?" but rather

"How can I love myself?"

I used to ask for readings all the time about an unavailable man in my life. I don't anymore because it doesn't matter. If it is meant to be or if he decides to change then I will know it. But I only have control of my thoughts, feelings and actions. I'm moving forward and letting life unfold before me. I'm not even trying to meet anyone else right now. As hard as it is, its time for me to be alone right now.

Anyway, don't want to get too carried away with my reflecting. Great article Captain

Thanks!

Hi,

what happens if you keep asking the tarot the same question over and over?

Also, how long does a reading last? Most of the answers I receive only reflect the current situation but not really the future or actual advice. Does this mean the future outcome is uncertain?

For example - a recent 3 card spread

3 of cups - the hermit - 3 of swords.

this does relate to my life - I was in a relationship that was in many ways quite pleasant - represented by the 3 of cups, but I became dissatisfied and started searching and thinking about whether or not it is the relationship for me. I guess this soul searching is represented by the hermit. This has caused the temporary(?) breakup of the relationship, which is what I feel is needed but that doesn't mean it hasn't been painful or caused a lot of grief to my partner. I think this grief is represented by the 3 of swords.

So as you can this spread represents my current situation but does not offer any solution or insight into the future. Is this because no question was asked? It was just a read on me? That makes since but I thought the fhird card was the future card. does that mean I'm going to be sad about this situation into the future? Any advice from experienced Tarot readers would be appreciated.

P.S- this board is a little strange. I see very little tarot discussion here. hope I'm posting in the right place!

I think the book is called Soul Mate Secrets by Arielle Ford

I haven't tried it yet because I'm not ready to meet my soulmate yet. Have a lot of personal stuff to work through.

Have you tried using the Law of Attraction to find

your soulmate? I've read several articles about

it. Anyway the following is supposed to work:

think about the qualities you are seeking in a mate.

Write them down. Then put the list away. Some say that

you should burn the list(make a copy first) and scatter

the ashes. This symbolizes that you have sent your request to the Universe. Once you make your request, you must release your attachment to it. You must not worry about when or where you will meet your love. You just have to act and believe that you will meet him one day. There was a great

article on this subject on Oprah.com

Why do women accept married men?

Why do men accept married women?

(yes, it happens)

The answer is simple:

because we are human. The heart wants what it wants.

Because people lie to one another and themselves and they want so badly

to believe those lies.

Ms. Sunny,

don't know why you want to slap me or anyone. I just gave an alternate point of view.

You could just ignore me, like everyone else on the thread. Or you could just stop reading

the thread if it irritates you. But hey if it makes you feel good to send me psychic slaps, slap

away! Not a very good use of your gift though.

Well let me add to my post because I don't want to offend anyone

I believe psychics and mediums can tell us a lot about the past and ourselves

they can bring messages from Spirit(but I think we can all do that if we try).

I think they can advise us on issues in our lives by giving us insight into

possibilities. I'm just not sure about the future because I think our free will

changes it constantly.

Anyway, I'm not trying to hate on anyone just presenting

an alternate way for Lil Dolphin to look at her situation.

Lil Dolphin,

trust your own intuition. If you know in your heart that you will be with him, then make it happen.

Contact him when you are ready. No one on this board knows the future because the future doesn't exist yet. I believe what they are seeing or feeling are just possibilities based on

where you are today. You have a lot of doubt and uncertainty and thatvis what is being picked up on.

That's why I know longer want anyone to read me.

I will manifest my own future... You should too!

P.S- if a reader needs to know the whole situation , then it's not really

a read is it?

Lil Dolphin,

I just want to add that as a Pisces, you should really tap into your own intuitive side,

Your sign is known for that

Hi Lil Dolphin,

I actually agree with you on this thread. I haven't read your others. But wow, your situation and

your conflict have sparked a lot of controversy on this thread and others. CWB is actually going

to take a break from readings because of request like yours. Anyhow, CWB's

first response to you sounded very judgemental. If

she doesn't like cheaters, than she shouldn't have responded.

I agree, most of the responses on this thread were

more like advice. I have had readings done and have received similar

responses, basically work on yourself and you'll be fine. Oh and someone sold me a spell but

that's another story!

Anyway, I don't know if I believe psychics and mediums can read the future

I believe they have the gift of telling you what is going on right now

the present but the future doesn't exist yet. And there are so

many variables based on free will. And so many factors come into play,

such as the intent of our thoughts. What we think will be.

Don't wait for someone to tell you the future because they can't. Be the creator of the

future. Trust that God/ Universe only wants what is best for you,

if you want love you will have it perhaps with the one you want or someone better.

And to any readers who read this post, I mean you no disrespect. But

this is honestly how I feel. This is what my intuition is telling me.

I'm sorry you are going through this. I lost my mother in 2001, she spent two weeks in the hospital in a similar condition. It was heartbreaking.

My suggestion is to pray for her well being, whatever that maybe. Pray for her comfort no matter what the outcome. Pray for strength to accept God's Will no matter what it maybe. This does not mean you are giving up. It means you are putting her needs above your own.

Much love to you and your family.

Thanks Tenchie! I am discovering that there are different ways to do this.

I guess it depends in your style.

No, sorry

Thanks lilacrose - by the way, glad to hear the door knocking stopped. That story gave me the creeps!

Thanks loving silverwings

Pluto Moon,

read my post about visualization(dated Aug 7).

Their is a discussion about visualizing the perfect love for you. I haven't

tried it because I'm not ready yet.

L

Bump

Pluto Moon,

Thanks for sharing, I know you will find your soon.

I know that my guy and I will always be in each others lives, maybe not as lovers but as friends.

I also have a knowing in me that this is true. I don't want to talk to any psychics,

because I don't want to be discouraged. I need to stay positive and work on myself.

Please post about your bowling night. You know, it's possible that you may meet someone bowling but not date them right away. Take care

Tenchi,

thanks for wading through my long posts. I've come to the conclusion that I don't really want to know what's going to happen. If I am told something I don't want to hear, I get upset and depressed. That doesn't really help me. So it's best that I focus on the now

Psychic reading experience # 4(this is the last one, I promise!):

I have a friend that I used to work with about 4 years ago. Then I changed jobs and we didn't keep in touch. But I remembered that she shared with me that she had the Gift and that she was studying and training to strengthen it. She belonged to a group of Mediums that were helping each other become stronger. So after my 3 experiences(refer to my prior posts) she popped into my mind. So I called her to ask her to refer me to a good psychic or medium. She informed me that she was now doing readings. So I decided to let her do a reading for me. On the phone, she told me that she thought it had to do with relationship and she said a couple of other things that made me think that she was the real deal. Of course, they could have been good guesses.

Anyway, we met. She told me that she would need something of mine to hold. I also brought something that my guy had given me. We talked fo a bit and I did tell her my whole situation.

She is a medium and she said she was getting her info from a deceased member of my family.

I was hesitant, because I really didn't want to hear from any of my family members, living or deceased on this issue.

She gave me some specific information, two or three things in particular that were true. It would have been hard for her to know this info on her own but not impossible to guess.

The message from my guides is that I need to concentrate on me and working on my own personal issues. By worrying so much about my relationship and my guy, I was avoiding the work that I needed to do. Well, that's no fun! I want to know what the future holds. But she told me that the Guides wouldn't tell me. I had to do my work on myself before I could find out. Really, did I need a psychic to tell me this (lol)??!!! She did tell me that D was in a pattern and he may or may not change. But I couldn't worry about this, focus on me. She didn't say that I should stop seeing him. She said I could still see him but that I need to have boundaries and he can't be a priority over me. I asked her if she could see him hating me one day. She said, who knows, it doesn't matter. Thats the future and you need to worry about now.

So, I walked away not completely satisfied. Good advice for sure. The same advice my Great Aunt( I think thats who it was) would have given me if she were alive. It sounds like advice that any relationship expert would give me.

Well my friend didn't charge me, although I offered to pay her. I took her to lunch and we had a nice time. And we're going to hang out more often.

So, thats my experience. I think I'm going to take a break on psychics for now. I've been reading the works of Deepak Chopra, which emphasizes living in the present. The past is over and the future will happen as it will. All I can do positively intend each day.