@Totitoti it helped me so much go read your story with Jens.
I feel the same way like you do. I don’t think I will ever get over him. I loved him more than myself. He was cruel, never told me he moved on to keep me wondering, sadistic, lacked empathy, and is the reason I did not marry or have kids. I lost myself completely in his manipulation.
Since we broke up he married someone 10 years younger than him. He has never posted her photo online on any of his social media accounts. I wonder how that makes his wife feel. He abruptly moved on from me and I dont think he ever healed. I read something funny one day that said a Virgo man will leave you for the Starbucks barista. I believe it. You cannot ever fully trust these men. When they leave you, it’s cold. They will ghost you in the coldest way and then try to make you feel bad about yourself. They don’t do emotions so they move on to the next best thing.
I do think he regrets leaving though...he knows he was a jerk to me. I was young and innocent and that was perfect for him to manipulate me. I think that’s why he went with another young girl and I’m sure he mistreats her as well with his manipulative comments. I think she committed emotional suicide as you mentioned you said to your ex.
I’m so glad you both moved on from your Virgo exes. I hate that his memories haunt me so I told myself I have to be happy for him but like Jen, I also told myself I have no obligation to be happy for him. I never really moved on because I became ill for 10 years. I worked so hard for our future and I sit in an empty house now and I am out of time to have children. I couldn’t imagine my life without him and it has taken me a decade to try to understand and forget him.
I dated another Virgo man 18 years ago for a few years. He is married and has two kids. He tried to hit on me on social media recently and his wife found out. This is after 18 years after breaking up with him. I think he is so tacky to do that to his wife and kids. I’m sure that damage was irreparable but his wife will probably stay with him. These Virgo men become lurkers and I’m sure they are always going to stalk you to see what you are up to.
I also had another Virgo man that I worked with recently who apparently developed a crush on me. He was married. I never flirted with him or listened to people when they said he had a crush on me. I just ignored all of it because it was inappropriate. I thought about what a coward he was to have an emotional affair on his wife. I never went out to work gatherings because of him. These Virgo men pride themselves in having a job and providing for their families but they also have emotional affairs at work. They are good looking men.
I hope every woman can learn from my story. Never give a man more than a few years of your time. Never invest in the potential of a man. You never know what can happen to you in your 30’s. You may acquire an illness like me and it may take a decade to get over. What you do with your time in your early and late twenties matters. Even 10 years later, I still think of him, so feel free to realize that you may not ever get over this person but you can be in a loving respectful relationship with someone else and start a family (if that’s what you want). Please don’t ever be stupid like me and waste your life on a man who is not worth your time. Your life is special and we are only here on this earth for a very short time.
One great thing you can do is invest in becoming financially independent. Find a solid career and don’t look back even though you may always have an inner sadness about them. Life will make sense one day for all of us.
Thank you for sharing your stories. They helped me heal and move on.