What you're talking about is called "projection" and Virgos are the master of projection. He sees in you things his wife isn't . He's projected these traits upon you at an intensified level because these are the characteristics he needs in a woman at this time. Not that you do not exhibit the traits to some extent. However, he magnifies their intensity and relevance to suit his needs. For Virgos a mental affair can be as gratifying as a physical one. But is's still an affair.

Astrological signs aside. The question is, should you trust your heart to a man who cheats on his wife with whom he has three kids? If he's lying to them, what makes you think he's not lying to you! Whether he knows it or not.

Okay this is my two-cent to the original post. I know how you feel. What you need to realize is not all people are wired like you. You need communication. Cancers sometimes need isolation. They go inside their shell to brood and to heal. I know that does not give you any relief so you have to decide what's best for you. I've been with my Leo for months and she still does not get my need for communication.

What's important is the person. Are the basically sound? Is this a person you would be willing to trust your heart with? Are you compatible? Is there chemistry between you two. Most of all, can they be trusted not to betray you...

Affairs are hard. I may be about getingt a reading to see the possibilities of the furture, but the work will be up to you. I was also cheated on and the relationship ended. What I asked myself was this: Getting back together would not be hard for me. I know this person and I am comfortable with this person. The needs I have felt since they departed, I know they could fulfill. But what about keeping them! What had changed to make it work this time? Did I get enough time to heal from the first betrayal? Will I be hurt again? Will I seek retribution is some way, some form?

It's not the reading that will help you at this point. It's the healing. Are you healed?

Katie1982

Sorry to hear about your lost love. I have found, however, that the bad lover have to leave for the good ones to arrive.

Sorry CharmWitchbente, not a psychic. I will say that the issues you are looking for answers for can only be answered by you. There are many variables that make our lives happy and complete. Remember it's not the destination, it's the journey.

Ragtopcaligal

Sounds like things are on course. No pressure. Just ride the waves of love and see where it takes you. Remember there is nothing promised us in this life. Every bit of happiness we find is a treasure and we need to not have the expectation that it is our due. Take things for what they are and find solace in the moment...

Hi Katie1982

Yeah, I've been suffering from the contentment of newly found love. Spending my time fighting this cruel economy and loving her is now a full-time job. Things are good with me and I don't have any real love issues except time and distance. However, a Cancer from the past is stirring things up by acting clingy and trying to reenter her life. Poor, poor Cancers. They always bark up the wrong tree and have to lick their wounds for their poor timing and lack of control over their emotions. He is a semi-celebrity so I was worried when he blew into town in an effort to reclaim her heart. I let her handle that situation, however, and hopefully he got the message.

How are you? Are things ok in your world?

As a Cancer, I feel your pain. I too have a love (LEO) that travels for her job. We are madly in love but only get to see each other during the weekends. We have a fab time together and the time passes so quickly. The separation anxiety sets in toward the end of our visits and we both suffer mini depressions. She is dedicated to her job and has the same communication issues as your lover. We have had quarrels about her unresponsiveness. I have resolved, however, i will not try to change this woman at this late date in her life. I will love the parts of her that she is capable of giving and let time, love and passion do the rest

I have learned, however, that real love, true love has to be unselfish. As a partner, you must sometime sacrifice your needs for the needs of the relationship. Don't pit yourself against his present life with friends, family and recreation. After all, these things form the basis of your attraction to him and your love for him. His coolness is just his way of dealing with the separation you two must experience. He is afraid that he will be overwhelmed by this love and relive mistakes of the pass. Become resolute that you are going to be intelligently vulnerable. I know vulnerability seems like a bad word to lovers. We always want to guide our heart and spare it the pain of heartbreak. But the heights and depths that love can reach are dictated by our level of commitment and vulnerability. Can't have the whole experience without opening your heart and taking the risks...

Dear Ragtopcaligal

I'm just as concerned about your motives as I am about his hesitation. He is in YOUR life and you guys are developing a relationship. A Cancer needs to bond with his lover before he let's them into his family circle. How much time that takes is dependent upon a multitude of things: past relationship experiences, past pain, past mistakes, your level of commitment, the family's readiness to accept a new love in his life.

My question is, why are You in such a rush!!!

Stay clam. What the Cancer is trying to do is see if you are his girl. He thinks that your new look will attract too much competition. There are ways to handle this situation. 1. Tell him that you love him and that you desire to be your best for him and that includes looking your best. You must let him know that you will not present yourself less than what you feel is appropriate. Tell him either he loves you and accept you for who you are or he needs to move on.

2. The second way is to involve him in the process. Get made-up with him present and ask for his suggestions. Tell him you want to please him and you know that you like him but you must also like yourself.

Hi Cbinlove,

I would say that if you really think this relationship is worth saving then go for it. The way to get to a Cancer is to not to confront him. Send him a light and causal email. Or Leave a sweet message on his voicemail. Or Sent him a sentimental love card. Then sit back and wait. If he is coming back he will respond.