I agree with you greenelf, the Jeckyll and Hyde personalities are very apparent with the Gemini male that I know. You are never quite sure what exactly is going on in that head of theirs, or why the sudden coldness. Your situation sounds very soul crushing and hopefully someday he can at least give you some insight into his sudden shift in emotion toward you. I have come to accept the fact that my Gemini is more than happy to leave me hanging on a chain as long as I choose to stay there. I tell myself often, sometimes you just have to let go!

MissTrial,

I hope you get the answers you are looking for. I completely understand the infatuation thing. And the Cap tendency to want to figure everything out and have answers. I get really close to saying just F**k off, but my heart gets in the way every time. Also fear that I am walking away from something that could be so wonderful. I really believe that fear makes people do strange things. fear of being really close to someone, fear of taking a chance to tell someone how you feel. I can accept whatever the answer is, just be honest. I am not sure that my Gemini is capable of that behavior. He says a lot of things that I just can't believe he means, because his actions say otherwise.

MissTrial I won't see my Gemini again until late June, and I am not sure if that is a bad or good thing. Intimate, intense and passionate definitely describe our time together, and I am not sure I will ever know what is going on in that head of his. I sometimes have equated it to a game when communicating with him. I have even told him how much he scares me, because I have never reacted to any man like this before, and I just can't get a read on where he is at or what he is thinking. My closest friends think it is all a power game and he really loves that I would pursue him and chase after him,but when I haven't he comes back strong, calling, emailing and texting. I have tried to communicate to him that I have feelings for him with no response one way or the other. In one conversation he asked "if I was having girl feelings?" and told me he couldn't possibly be feeling the same way because he isn't a girl. At that point I was done, but a few weeks later there he was back, calling and writing and wanting to plan for me to stay with him when I visited. I opted on the visit to stay in an hotel after minimal contact during the trip, I let him know that " I got it, I understood"and once again he came back with "I am not sure what it you get, but when I stopped being angry we could talk". It seems a though he wants to have the control and call the shots, but it is only driving me further away. I trusted him for some reason, which has never been easy for me and I sometime think it was a huge mistake.

As far as seeing him in June my thoughts change from day today. Some days I would love nothing more to see him and walk the other way, and in true Cap style, protect myself. But other days I hold out for hope that we will be together and it will be as wonderful as it has been in the past. I am not sure if I am just fooling myself, and setting me up for a huge disappointment.

For MissTrial, I can relate completely, as I am also a Cap. female who has been very confused by the behavior of the Gemini male I became involved with. I have know him for almost 19 years and would only see him once a year at a conference we both attend. Never had any idea that I was even on the radar with him until 2 1/2 years ago,when he made it very obvious he was interested. He couldn't stay away from me and was very touchy and all over me, all weekend. A year went by and we had very minimal contact and when we saw each other it got pretty hot and heavy, we spent 4 very passionate days and nights together. After we both return to our respective homes( we live on opposite coast) we continued to communicate and this is were the rollercoaster of emotions on my part started. I felt as if there was really something there, which was validated and reinforced by the things he said to me on the phone and in numerous texts and emails. But as soon as I started to let him know I was becoming attached or interested in exploring the possiblities of a relationship or something more, the hot and cold,disappearing act began. Whenever I seem to get used to him not calling and being able to accept that it really isn't going to workout, he shows up again. I traveled on vacation to where he lives, with the plan of spending time together again, and we had minimal contact while I was there. He told me that a friends father passed away and he became caught up in helping that friend out, but he would have rather been spending time with me. Now I know Cap's can be cold hearted, but I just had this strange feeling that it was all an excuse, due to the fact that he never mentioned the situation until I started to pull away, and realize that he didn't really want to see me. I really think that I am just one of many women he has stationed around the world that fit very conveniently into his travel plans, and that he really has no intentions or desire to be with me, except when we might be in the same place at the same time on the road. I don't think I will ever understand what how I got the signals all wrong, but I can only assume that he beat me to the punch with the "cold heartedness" that Cap's usually get labeled with.

Gemini men or at least the one I have been involved with are just too hard to try and figure out. I don't push, don't ask for anything, but the promises and the things that he continues to say just seem like lies. I can't make heads or tails of it, but having your heart ripped out of your chest over and over is making me ill. I have to walk away because I value myself too much. While truly sad I can't continue to waste time on what might be when he feels like he has something to give. I really believe that there is a degree of mental illness with my Gemini, everything is a game and when he doesn't have the control, he wants to reel me back in. The reason I think mental illness is I can't fathom anyone doing the things he has done and just being that heartless or evil. If your wish is to hurt people when they get close to you then he is doing a great job at that task. For me getting close to people, intimately or as friends is a important part of life and development, I just don't get the need to hurt others.

ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING!!!!!

Well Kanthony86 our situations do sound very similar, you would be amazed by the similarities. I have the chance to see him in a couple of days and I am not sure if I will act on that chance. I am not really sure how I feel anymore and not sure if it is really worth it. I just don't have the energy to figure out games or what someone else is going to do. I know being true and good to yourself is important. It is a process getting to know someone intimately the guessing game just makes it even harder!

Yes RedGemini it is about the journey or the ride as you call it. The Gemini man I am involved with always seems to be testing me to see if I am overly attached to him, sometimes when he is really sweet and doing all the right things I am just not sure what is going on. I'm not confused by him but hesitant because in true Capricorn style I don't display my emotions unless I am really sure. We are currently in a off stage, and I haven't heard from him. Sometimes I feel it is a battle of sheer will, to see who will cave in and contact the other first. But I can be pretty patient, but it doesn't help that I love talking to him, laughing and doing whatever. So enjoy the ride when you can!

I would like to know if my long distance relationship with John will work out, or will I stay with my husband Tom?

For Cancermen; I don't really think of him doing these things to me, I just believe he knows no other way. I don't take his action personally, but I get confused by the Jekell/Hyde thing. As a capricorn I have a uncanny ability to turn on a dime as well, I can be a coldhearted b***h if I need to be. Its a way i protect myself. I don't easily let my guard down but for some reason I did with this Gemini, I just can't figure out if he is playing me or I have really gotten too close and he is retreating in true gemini style. For right now he seems to want to get closer, but I have only put my toe into the water to test it out.