Just updating

My Canceran guy did phone today just like he said he would after I told him I needed space as things got very stressful and tense between us and there was alot of hurt and anger. I had not spoken to him since August 3rd. I didnt know if should take the call as I had been hurting alot but i decided to take it . some one on here said to me speak to him and feel in his voice if he is sincere. the first thing he said to me was how it was nice to hear my voice again after all this time. I have to admit that was nice, he kept asking me how i was I told him everything was fine i made out that everything was perfect when in fact I have been hurting and crying because I care so much about him but I dont want him to know that i have been crying as he says to me im so emotional my response to him is that im a woman its normal. we chatted a while and i ended the call telilng him I would speak to him soon and to take care. it was a light hearted call and I avoided any attempt to discuss wth him what happend between us before our time out from each other. as its to painful for me even though he did try i avoided it as I didnt want to lose my control if he ddint feel for me like he says he does why hasnt taken the first opportunity to leave as it would have been perfect timing for anyone who says they dont feel for you the same way you do/ when you have a brkdown . but like clockwork he phoned exactly when he says he wouldl i feel he isnt tellling me the truth about his feelings for me as when i ignored his calls last week he kept phoning and phoning till i told him to give me a bit ot time leading us to today call. do I keep my distance and observe what he does then decide what is the best action to take. i really dont know what to do.

Thanks Mille

I really apreciate your advice and you are right but im now in a sitiuation where my head knows moving on is the right thing but my heart has yet to catch up its a constant conflict. I am really glad i joined this forum as you all seem like such nice people and its support and advice like this that gets you through hard times.

Squabull

I can totally relate and funny you should say that he is going to medical school as the cancerian male im talking about went to medical school after he did his PHD as it was always his life long dream but he had to quit it when he got unwell with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome which still affect his life. I was ready to take all that on his illness as I too have been ill in my life so can understand but like your man i was getting hot and cold messages. I always supported him in whatever he wanted to do and know in my heart he is a good person but what he is giving me right now Isnt enough he isnt putting in the effort i deserve. I am the one now taking space from him trying to sort out my head and he did ring me several times just i couldtnt speak to him as i was hurt and to hear his irish accent i would get sucked in and I just want to be objective for a while. sometimes i feel he is pushing me away as not to burden me with his illness so he shuts down and says things he may not be really feeling. Squabull as you are in similar situation to me im sure you head is saying must let it go but its your heart that is holding you back. I have managed to reverse that he is the one wating to talk to me instead of me waiting to talk to him so lets see what happens. if he lets go easily then i have my answer. good luck and let me know how it goes. I will update here. take care.

HI

my mind says move on too as i feel so tired. of the going round and round in circles. I know he cares for me but his indecisiveness is what i hate and I find him self absorbed at times and

from reading here i find its a normal cancerian male trait. the worry if i speak to him is that i will get sucked in it all again and nothing will ever change. I distance myself in the hope he will feel the difference from not talking to me everyday like he did as he always said i was his confidante the only person he can trust and talk too. I want his heart to feel my absence as i feel i have been to available for him because of my giving and caring nature. I have never taken time out from him so I can only waiti and see what he will do if anything. I always read Taurean women and Cancerian men are the perfect match so what is going on?

Hi all

I have just been reading whats being said about Cancer Men and felt that we are all talking about the same person. I met one almost 10 months ago. I am a taurean. He hasnt been well and lives in another city than London so I did all I could to keep things going and vist as whenever I would say try and vistit me the answer would always be im sick. I tolerated this becaue i cared and stared to fall for him . this went on for some time where he would call me everyday more than once and our chats would last hours. I wanted a relationship that is going somewhere and when i say that he always says give it a bit of time wait till i get better. this has been going on for most of our so called relationship. I always feel he is giving me mixed signals he tells me sometimes lets be friends then when i go see him and we get close that goes out the window and he says dont lisnten to me I like you alot and has told me he loved me tiwice. now he has reverted to the lets just be friends now as he is planning to go away for a year.. ti all came to head a few weeks ago and I got so upset and fed up with the situation that is going round and round in cirlcles that i lost it with him. he had to take space and contacted me again on monday. i felt i couldnt speak to him as he had said to me now he doesnt feel for me lilke i want but he likes me alot and enjoys my company and feels we have a special bond. he ended up calling me everyday and i still couldnt take his calls so i said to him i need some space. so he said he will give me a week and call again. I still dont feel i can talk to him so think i will tell him i still need space. i have done so much for him, being there, listtening to hm. being kind and generous and caring and loving and I cant keep doing this anymore. with no end in sight. then this week after he said to me he doesnt feel for me the ways iwant he says in an email but you know we are more than good friends !! This man is going to make me go crazy!! i cannot bear this. I still havent spoken to him or replied just need advice what is the best way to make him miss him and realise or just let go like i have started to do as I cant be just his friend. i hope this makes sense and sorry for the long post.