Victim- I have read it and saw the movie. I completely agree with everything. That's why I'm not sweating it. He's not into me, his loss.

Leo- I am not worried about the bills. Well, I am but I'm not going to go out of my way for him to pay for it. I don't want to be in contact with him at all.

I meant to add in my earlier comment "He's going through something and I don't know him well enough to offer my shoulder...nor do I want to."

You're right, You have to give respect to get it. He hasn't given me ANY respect so he doesn't deserve mine. That's the way I've seen it for 2 weeks. I really am busy and don't have time for his nonsense. I am now pounding the pavement looking for a job because of him.

Everyone starts off with "He's embarrassed." Honestly, I don't give a s**t if he is. He should be. I went to him as an adult and he is responding to me like a child. That's what a get for giving a younger man a chance, I guess, haha.

Thanks, I appreciate that and I didn't mean to come off as defensive. Nothing you said sounded harsh so don't worry about my feelings.

Like I said, there hasn't been any sort of relationship between us. I got back from my trip and tried to make plans to meet up with him. One time he told me he couldn't because it would be cheating. I told him if the reason he's been so distant is because he's got another gal, it's no big deal. I just want to be friends, get to know eachother on that level. He said, "No, it's not that I just started dating anyone. I've just been only spending time with my friends." I still don't understand his logic of "cheating" but I don't have the time to decipher it or worry about it. I swear, sometimes I think he says things to mess with me. That could just be my typical cancerian ways over thinking the situation.

Anyway, I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks and he's made no attempt to contact me. Clearly he's going through something but I don't know him well enough to offer my shoulder.

I already know the cancer-gemini thing is an awful setup. You can say what you want, I will listen. However, I'm only sensitive about certain subjects. I know who I am and I'm not really that easily hurt.

It really was an accident. He lifted me up and I hit my head on the ceiling. If it is easier to visualize, we were standing on his bed so we were closer to the ceiling.

If he intentionally hit me, he would have been in handcuffs so fast.

I know what you're saying. I was into him at first. For the last 2 weeks I couldn't care less about him. I would like to be friends with him but I am not going out of my way to make that happen. He broke my trust. That's not an easy thing for him to get back. Now, he's cost me my job. He's an insignificant human being to me now. Not worth my time.

I have gone through a lot. A year ago I was sexually molested by 2 men. I can only NOW talk about it. I haven't told a soul in almost a year that had happened to me. I felt ashamed, dirty, like it was my fault. This Gem comes around and he seems too good to be true.

Because of what I went through a year ago, I was not ready to be emotionally invested in someone anyway. I should never have spoken to that Gem as long as I did. Though we never has s*x, it was nice to talk to someone and escape from the torment I dealt with in my mind on a daily basis. I was fooling myself. When he gave me the concussion, I accepted it was an accident and gave him the benefit of the doubt. However, that quickly turned into me not caring about him at all because he didn't check on me like a decent human being.

I can now openly say i was sexually molested because I am stronger from that situation and this Gem situation. I know what I want and what I don't want...No man is EVER going to have that power over me again...EVER!

Wise- I noticed that too. So many problems with Cancer men.

Virgal- While it is a trait of Cancer (both male and female) to be vengeful and spiteful, you don't deserve it. I gurantee after he does those horrible things to you, he goes home and knows that it wasn't right. He knows he should apologize but he can't be the bigger person. We are very emotional but that's no excuse for the things that he's done to you. I would suggest being the being person and walking away. As long as you know your actions are better (i.e. you're not acting like a toddler) then that's all that matters.

I'm a Cancer female and I hope I can help offer you some insight into a Cancer mind. Doeyedpisces is right- We do like to mess with people. Although, sometimes we really don't know we are doing it. Cancer likes to push the envelope in some social situations.

A Cancer can come off quite easily as a b*h or dk. That's because we know what we like and what we don't like. It takes Cancer a long time to open up. We have a wall up when we first meet people and it takes a lot of time and patience for that wall to come down. We are only protecting our vulnerability. Because of this wall, we come off as indifferent and uncaring/unsympathetic when in reality we care deeply about a lot of things.

When a Cancer decides to be in a relationship, they let you into their world. They are trusting you with 100% of their emotions. In sounds like you guys had a rocky beginning to your relationship. Sending a Cancer harsh texts messages is not the way to go about fixing things. He came back around because Cancer's like to give people second chances. However, don't expect this next time around for him to act the way he did before. Trust is EVERYTHING to us. You have broken his trust which is why he is acting standoffish. It may take him a very long time to get over what happened and decide to trust you again. All you can do in the meantime is keep giving him reasons why he can trust you and it will slowly build back up to where it was before. I do mean SLOWLY build. You have to decide if that's something you want to wait for. Again, there is no guarantee that things will ever be the same.

At this point, as a Cancer, I would say your best bet is that you will be friends with occassional hook ups that serve to satisfy needs as opposed to him desiring you. But, I am a Cancer female...that's what I do. A Cancer male is similar to a Cancer female but I do not know how they are in relationships because I haven't been with a Cancer male.

I don't have any bills, yet. I do have medical insurance. I have missed about 2 weeks of work because of the incident. Actually, I was fired on Friday because of it.

What have my friends and family said about what? The Gem or my health?

I had to leave it. Though he is fun to hang out with and it's not boring because he talks about crazy things, I can't hold on to a guy who not only did I never have but who causes someone trauma and then doesn't do anything to check and see how I am. He apologized but I don't want your words, I need your actions.

Healthwise I am good!! I haven't had any seizures for 13 days so I would say I am in the clear!!! Thank you for asking, that's so thoughtful.