Hey pinkandmint,

In case you didn't understand the story, we were SEPARATED! He was not living w/ me! It does not matter! If he is not DIVORCED, and I mean the divorce is FINAL you will 95-99% of the time get hurt in the end! You are wrong, it is about him being married. Because all she knew was what he was telling her. As for making her feel guilty, no that is not my intention. I do feel for her very much. It hurts everyone involved. This stuff of course happens to everyone. Everyone in this world has to suffer tragedies and broken hearts and so on, it is part of our journey and our lessons we have to learn. She is already doing the things she needs to do to get back on track. It sounds as though her approach to healing is very healthy. And as for your comment about my husband cheating again, that just shows ignorance and stereotyping.

Hey.

Sorry to have to say this, but I just couldn't not post on this. NEVER mess with a married man!!! 95-99% of the time he will go back to his WIFE! It does not matter what he tells you or how much he says he loves you, he has history with her. I am coming from the other side of this. My husband and I separated for almost a year. He dated another woman and lied to me about the relationship. We were separated, yes, but do you think he stopped being involved with me? No. Not at all! Most men don't. This was a relationship that was new, so it was fun, without all the baggage of thirteen years together. So, at the time, he thought he was in love with her. Then he came clean with me and realized that it was the newness of it all that he was in love with, and the freedom from all of our issues,every day problems. We are back together now, and stronger than ever. He had his little "mid-life" crisis and realized that our love and history is deeper than anything he could have with someone else. It is very complicated to be involved with a married man, even if he is separated. My advice is to strengthen yourself from the inside out, know that you deserve better, accept nothing less than you deserve, and don't get involved with a man unless he is definately divorced! (Men lie, also, but divorce records are public) Protect yourself!