In case you didn't understand the story, we were SEPARATED! He was not living w/ me! It does not matter! If he is not DIVORCED, and I mean the divorce is FINAL you will 95-99% of the time get hurt in the end! You are wrong, it is about him being married. Because all she knew was what he was telling her. As for making her feel guilty, no that is not my intention. I do feel for her very much. It hurts everyone involved. This stuff of course happens to everyone. Everyone in this world has to suffer tragedies and broken hearts and so on, it is part of our journey and our lessons we have to learn. She is already doing the things she needs to do to get back on track. It sounds as though her approach to healing is very healthy. And as for your comment about my husband cheating again, that just shows ignorance and stereotyping.