I get what your saying and it seems like theres isnt much hope because of that. Im a girl who believes in love and hes a guy that wont allow himself too. I dont see him having a changed mind either.. atleast not anytime soon.

I just cared so much about him. I thought for sure this time he wouldnt pull away but the commitment thing was there and he choose to run.

Like every other girl on here its too hard to keep going. Im left hurt more times I am happy. Im guessing he will be back though. I could feel his love but like you said he will be more on guard. He'll come around when time has spaced things out and we have a new start. But im not falling for that one. Not when I deserve better.

I would like to tell my story and ask real quick if this is possible. A year ago like may of 2010 I talked to 3 different psychics who at the time I thought were talking about my then bf but what they were saying didn't match up. I mean The guy they explained was not my Bf and the reasons they gave were not y we broke up. They Allllll said he was my soulmate and that right now hes is at a fork in his life because he doesnt know what he wants but he would be back in September. One of them tried to read off his name before I could and gave me the name Joel or Julian or a J name close to that. But it was no where close to my ex bf name. But the guy I'm with now has a name matching pretty darn close to what they said. Is it possible they were seeing something else in my future eventhough I had yet to meet him?

I'm a but freaked out because this is my story with my now guy:

I have been dating a Scorpio guy for about a year now. We met in class and never separated after that. He will be 23 this year and things have gotten really weird.

Our first 4 months dating were pretty rough as he pushed and pushed and pushed me as he wasn't ready for commitment because he didn't trust it. I would say since day 1 he has let me know he doesn't trust people at all. He's told me his past is the reason for that but he doesn't like to open up about it. When he would open up he would disappear for days.

Well January this year is when he started getting closer and the disappearing acts were less till about March when he was open with me and stayed open. He told his family about me and was all about us . Our sex was pure love from both ends and even after sex he didn't pull away. It was just love.

All summer he had been goin threw something's he wasn't too proud of but I stuck by his side and was there when he needed me. Till July.. His attitude towards me changed. He wasnt sweet or calling me nick names any more. He wasn't mean either he was just dull I guess you could say. I thought "he's just going threw a lot give him a break".

Well august came and all the sudden he just stopped talking to me all together. He ignored my question on when I was going to see him and never replied. A week later I asked if he's just done and not talking to me anymore and he said "No not at all, just going threw something's". I told him ok and we haven't talked since.

He hasn't returned any of my things or given me the vibe that he met someone else. He's always been able to tell me when something was wrong and he's a pretty blunt person. I don't understand what happened and although I've left him alone I'm still confused on how I should feel. I'm mad, hurt, fine, sad, confused, and everything else. Its been 2 weeks now of no talking.

My friends say he means what he says and to just back off while others say he's a dick for not explaining and I should just drop him.

I don't know what to do. It freaked me out with the psychics last year and now all this happened. Regardless I still love him.

My birthday is 1/21/1990

His birthday is 11/6/1988

Hi I was actually on here looking for some advice and saw your post.

I have been dating a Scorpio guy for about a year now. We met in class and never separated after that. He will be 23 this year and things have gotten really weird.

Our first 4 months dating were pretty rough as he pushed and pushed and pushed me as he wasn't ready for commitment because he didn't trust it. I would say since day 1 he has let me know he doesn't trust people at all. He's told me his past is the reason for that but he doesn't like to open up about it. When he would open up he would disappear for days.

Well January this year is when he started getting closer and the disappearing acts were less till about March when he was open with me and stayed open. He told his family about me and was all about us . Our sex was pure love from both ends and even after sex he didn't pull away. It was just love.

All summer he had been goin threw something's he wasn't too proud of but I stuck by his side and was there when he needed me. Till July.. His attitude towards me changed. He wasnt sweet or calling me nick names any more. He wasn't mean either he was just dull I guess you could say. I thought "he's just going threw a lot give him a break".

Well august came and all the sudden he just stopped talking to me all together. He ignored my question on when I was going to see him and never replied. A week later I asked if he's just done and not talking to me anymore and he said "No not at all, just going threw something's". I told him ok and we haven't talked since.

He hasn't returned any of my things or given me the vibe that he met someone else. He's always been able to tell me when something was wrong and he's a pretty blunt person. I don't understand what happened and although I've left him alone I'm still confused on how I should feel. I'm mad, hurt, fine, sad, confused, and everything else. Its been 2 weeks now of no talking.

My friends say he means what he says and to just back off while others say he's a dick for not explaining and I should just drop him.

I don't know what to do. Any advice on that?

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Ps. Sorry for the spelling errors! Lol. I was typing fast.

I finally stood up for myself when it came to my scorp. I was tired of the manipulating and guilt trips and feeling like I was being used by him so I finally told him no. For 5 months he's kept me at one level and that's been a casual s e x relationship. Everytime I tried to complain he would give me reason as to how he's not in it for just the s e x he just doesn't have "time" for a relationship. Yet he had plenty of time to dedicate to his guy friends and only a few hours a week for me on his time. Everytime I would leave he found a way to get me back again. Keeping me in this hold pattern.

Well I told him if he doesn't have time for a relationship thats fine but I'm no longer giving all of me i don't recive the same back. He threw a fit. He got mad because I said no to s e x and got very rude with me to the point of trying to ignore me in his own house. Instead of asking me to leave he choose to act like a child until I finally excused myself. I think he was shocked when I did that because I usually cave into his guilt trips. Not this time. I was tired of the disrespect and making me feelas though I'm not good enough for him. I care about him but not enough to keep making myself weaker.

I tried to walk out his door with out a hug or anything because I was very turned off on how he was acting but when I tried he said "what your not going to hug me". I did but I left it at that. I don't plan on calling him unless he's willing to be respectful but if all he wants is sex than I rather pass that's not who I am. It never was I just liked him so much I kept on to hope.

But your advice and reading helped a lot. I did this on my own but your encouraging words gave me a bit more confidence to do what was right for me. I feel so much better now and happy. I feel in control of my life and emotions again. I don't feel weak and I do see my self worth and what I do deserve. So thank you so much for your reading. It truly helped me in a positive way for the new year:.

You are right.. I see what you are saying now and that is true. Your help did put some rest to my over thinking. Thank you once again ... time to put my energy towards me and my happiness : ) Happy new year to you as well!

I really enjoyed the reading you had for me but there is one question thats been sitting with me these past few weeks when it comes to my scorpio. The way you explained our relationship right now was very accurate. Especially with his guilt trips and manipulation towards me. My question is, is it also in his nature to be using me? I ask this because of how you explained how loyal scorpios are. I am a thinker so I can't tell if im over thinking this or not. We had a great connection when it first began (like you mentioned) but as time went on he kept pulling further and further away. Now I feel like he's cut off all emotional aspects with me. I know scorpios are known for thier sexual being but it feels like that is all he's interested in when it comes to me. I've tried to break it off many times and sometimes he'll agree to leave me alone but than days later he's back. I know he's a lesson for me to get some back bone but is he just lying when he says he does really care for me and like me? If they are turned off by the weak than why is he still around? Its been 5 months and he's stil here.. he's changed more than I have and it confuses me everday. It hurts because he's good at making me feel like im not good enough. One day I want to drop him and forget him than the next day I get hope because of how much I really do care for him.

If you could give me any help when it comes to that question it would really helped.. after reading my last post with you it only stirred up the intensity of how I feel about him. Which is very unsure. Being me.. im always sure about things.

His birthday is 11-6-1988

M birthday is 1-21-1990 11:42pm

That is very true.. I think I can do that. Im good with humor. I can see where he is very protective with his heart as well. I do like him a lot and ive been nothing but honest with him. It's just his stings that get me down or make me feel like he doesnt want me or doesn't care. But that is true.. he wouldn't keep coming along if there wasn't something right? I just need to make it clear im not a toy.. cause im not at all. You truly are the best.. this whole reading helped a lot.

Thank you so much! I really needed that. How you explained my guy is very point on. I've wanted it to work out between us but I don't think it will unless I do toughen up my back bone. Stand up for myself. He keeps comin around but it does seem as though he is bored. That's where I get confused as to if he really likes me or not.. If he's truly interested still. But I will take your advice. Thank u so much.