Hi, my birthday is 16 July 1989, my partner who I'm engaged to was born 24 May 1973.

It is definitely not that conventional/traditional, but all judgment aside I'd really like to hear your analysis so I can understand the relationship better.

Thank you so much! This is a wonderful help to so many!!

I find it very interesting how very often synchronicity matches go along with most of my closest relationships with others.

My example:

I am Cancer sun, Capricorn moon and Aquarius Rising.

My partner is Gemini sun/Taurus cusp, Aquarius moon and Cancer Rising.

My Dad is Taurus sun/Gemini cusp, Leo moon and Cancer Rising,

My younger brother is Leo sun/Cancer cusp, Taurus moon and Virgo rising

My Aunt is Leo sun, Capricorn moon and Virgo rising

and one close friend I had is Sagittarius sun/Cancer moon/Virgo Rising.

In all cases at least one of these major positions links up with mine in some way, and even more so when other planets and their house positions are taken into account. This is about relationships as much as astrology, but it's really into all the sign/ascendant/house positions, which is why I put it here. If you are curious and know your close friends/family/companions birthdays, you can enter it for free and get all that info on a website like astro.com. I'm curious how this works for everyone else! How do you match up with those closest to you?

Please share with everyone! It's actually pretty fun!

Thank you everyone, Best wishes and peace to all of you.

Trying to answer the original question--

As others have said, this is a tough one. I think it truly depends on the situation/culture/society...a combination of your personal issue and what others in your environment as well as community think.

In my honest opinion, it can only work if EVERYONE is honest. I am even in this sort of scenario myself to a point...since I'm engaged to a man who wants marriage and family life but also wants one-night stands with others. The difference is not only that he is completely straight-forward and honest with me about it, but he also really believes that it is to fulfill the needs of these prospective 'other women' too, emotional and/or physical.

It took me a long time to understand, for at first I simply thought he was joking and then had a long period of jealous bouts because I thought his reason was purely sexual and selfish. (The stereotypical "that guy is a pig" mentality) I still feel jealous and bitter part of the time, but I've noticed it is literally diminishing for good, and I may be able to accept it.

I still question at times if my guy is confusing his actual needs/desires with fantasies. It seems like he wants everything he wishes for to be a reality--something I find to be positive, but to a point totally unrealistic. He says no other long-term relationship he's had has fulfilled all of his "needs" and he puts a lot of "esteem" in me as a result. He says if it didn't work with me he would rather pursue his interests without a partner instead.

This isn't really an ultimatum, again he's just being totally honest. It's strange, and I find it highly unusual for men to be this way...it also goes against much of what I learned/assumed growing up. But since I am flexible and open-minded concerning this I decided to give the whole situation a chance.

My point is as a person who will soon be a wife to a guy who very likely will be with other women (possibly sexually, possibly not depending on who they are) and who wishes to stay totally honest with me and with them, and even include me in it if I wish...I can't see anything inherently wrong with it unless anyone disagrees and it goes against their individual beliefs/morals. So really, if the man is straight-forward and honest, it's up to you. And if they're lying and trying to hide it, it's THEIR problem and I would say get the hell out. We all deserve the best, and if you can't live with who they are or what they do, then they don't deserve you.

I hope this is a help...best wishes to everyone!

KLS

Gemini men are great! I haven't had the longest or most experienced love life so far, but Gemini guys have certainly affected mine in a significant way...I also don't blame people based on astrology, there are awesome folks and jerks in every sign...and also my relationship with my Gemini isn't perfect either. But the positives are so overwhelming that they outweigh the negatives by a long-shot. Peace to you all as well...and Best Wishes

KLS (Cancer gal)

My little brother is a Leo, July 23 with cancer cusp, Taurus moon and Virgo rising. My dad is a Leo moon, Taurus sun with Gemini cusp and Cancer rising, and my aunt on my mom's side is a Leo, with Capricorn moon and Virgo rising. I love them all dearly, and my aunt and I are close friends. Although my Dad is a typical Taurus in many ways, he has the ego and fun-loving qualities of a Leo. My brother is always getting his way and loving every minute of it, but he is also affectionate and fun. And my aunt is the best when it comes to giving smart advice.

I also have a good friend who is a Leo moon, with Aquarius sun and Scorpio rising. She is very passionate about what she believes in, and as a friend she is loyal but a bit out there, like an Aquarius. Her Leo side shows in her creativity, fun-loving attitude and a presence that demands attention in a positive way.