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Ex-Cancerian Male Friend.........?
I posted about him (My Cancer FWB Dumped Me) a while ago. I've been keeping my distance since.
Found out he's leaving out agency a few wks. ago (we worked together).
After he "de-friended" me, INITALLY-he ignored me. Then, as the days went on, I would catch him staring at me. One day I'm walking in the hallway, and so was he. He stared at me, following my gaze as I walked by...looked to see if "people were watching", then gave me a slight head nod. I spoke, and kept walking. Seems like after that, he was feeling 'comfortable': he saw me in the halls again, this time, craking a joke about my walk ("you walk like you're on the runway"-his words). Then, as I was leaving the office, he saw me and held out his hand. I gave him a handshake without blinking an eye. Then today (which is his last day in the office), he saw me. As I was walking, I said "Bye! Best Wishes!"--he holds out his arms......like, for a hug. I don't know if I should've, but I did. Totally unexpected for him to do that.
Do they (Cancerian men) do this? Considering he's the first for me (I'm a Taurus), I don't know that much about them........was he acting like this b/c he was leaving? Why would he do it at ALL?
Any input is greatly appreciated. :))
RE: Cancer FWB...?
Thank You, AquaBubbles.
Truth be told, I was upset, because I think now he views me as nothing--and I mean, NOTHING. Not even as a platonic friend. Why deal with a person you didn't find attractive all this time, then toss them like garbage, when all they have done is nothing to you? Listened to you, etc? If it was a "challenge" thing--I didn't think it was necessary, considering the interaction (FWB).
I DO miss him (he was cool), but I wished the interaction was better (for me!)
Oh well......life goes on.
I'm putting on a brave face:
It started last year, but he became really selfish in the relationship, however, I put up with it, giving him the benefit of the doubt. Fastforward to today, and I got a call a few weeks ago with him drunk, basically telling me that his 'moods fluctuate' around me, etc. So, I sent him an email telling him what I thought about his conversation with me, that my gut feeling all along was that he wasn't attracted to me, and that I wasn't having any fun in relationship (sexually--I was NOT benefitting at ALL--it was always about HIM). No response. I texted to follow up, he said he was "speechless". Followed up again the following week to ask what's going on-he was ignoring me, but would "greet" me in person, which I thought was weird.
FINALLY, he sends me an email stating that:
"You haven't done anything wrong. I just feel like things has run its course and that I felt like this for a while. I shouldve said something to you, but I thought something like this would be best left alone."
He was going to ignore me until HE thought the 'problem' was gone. To add insult to injury, he also 'claims' that my 'constant' attitude was more for him to deal with (I disagree with him), plus, he talked about me on his Facebook.
I wasn't expecting how he handled it. Considering we're co-workers, I will be polite(when/if I see him), but honestly, I just want to hide from him forever.....=((