I know this is a bit late in the game for this thread, but I used to struggle with feeling a dual Taurus/Gemini 'thing' in my life. Per my birth chart, the sun falls within the final degree of Taurus - I've always felt a strong push-pull with earth and what seemed like air energy, and some days, weeks, months, even years have felt like a constant battle with myself. So many decisions felt like frustrating compromises, moods swung back and forth like nobody's business - I hole up, ignoring phone calls, getting nowhere with myself, thoroughly unaided by my reclusive and emotional Cancer moon. A few years ago, I even met a friend of my father's with the sight, and he pegged me for a Gemini right off the bat - and I was happy, hoping that maybe I could at least expect to wind up one way or the other, instead of feeling like not enough air tugged down by too much earth.
To an extent, I was right. I started scrutinizing my birth chart much more closely last year and began studying some of its less subtle aspects. I've become aware of many more nuances - and one is signs my north and south nodes fall in. In part, the nodes indiciate the balance of karma in our lives - the south nodes represents those lessons that the self comes into this life knowing well and embodying, and the north node indicates a direction for necessary growth, change, and balance. I have always felt a strong aversion to Pisces people, for one reason or another - which makes little sense as I have some very strong watery tendencies and idealize many traits this sign encompasses. But I wasn't as surprised when I realized this was my north node - in a way, part of the lessons I have to learn, something that takes me away from the energies I was born into being comfortable with. My south node is in Virgo - and now, everything makes sense. My obsession with achieving order, being disciplined, moving forward, working hard, linear progress, and patient planning came into relief - Virgo and Taurus is a real double whammy for someone with floaty tendencies. When I feel stuck, I ask myself how the energies I know I have an abundance of might be at play - really, I was blocking my own development by clinging to ways of being that felt right and safe. I was AFRAID of being artistic and would talk myself out of projects because I feared I would not have the technical skill to execute the way I wanted to. I'd talk myself out of listening to my intuition. I was kind of an idiot, really. And now, I like to meditate on the lessons embodied by the fish.... when the moon inches into Pisces I feel like a completely different person, and find my earthy tendencies enjoyable rather than restraining (balanced!).
I'm not ashamed to be a Taurus. I used to be, but now I can really embrace being the way that I am. I just need to follow my feelings and be gentle with myself when I get off of track, instead of thinking: what did I do wrong and what's the matter with me? And sometimes, I have to ask myself... now what would a fish do?
I don't know if this will be helpful for you at all, but it's really changed the way I approach my life and myself. Young life trauma has also unfortunately played a role in my self-oppressive tendency, but celebrating my ability to overcome it has helped aid me in healing.
Good luck and bright blessings on your journey.