LOL. I'm sure there are some people out there who have successful relationships with Gemini men, but as far as I'm concerned, they are the schizophrenics of the zodiac! Very much into having control over their lovers. Having a relationship with a Gemini man is not for the faint of heart. Consider that he did you a favor and when he comes creeping back to toy with you again, like a cat with a mouse (and he will) - do yourself a favor and say, "NO!"
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RE: Can there ever be a successful relationship with a gemini man?
RE: I desperately need some guidance...
This is an interesting spread, and it dovetails quite nicely with the scenario you've described. This is my take on it, for what it's worth...
There are two basic themes here: the first is logic and reason ruling over emotion, and the second is that the majority of cards in your reading are swords, which generally indicate lessons to be learned, crisis, and pain.
That being said, please keep in mind that transformation often involves changing from a negative to a positive, whether that be a state of mind, a situation, etc.
I think your foundation card signifies someone, probably your husband, who is often secretive, adept at deceiving you, is unfaithful, and a player. That doesn't mean this individual is a bad person; it's just that this person gives into his/her baser instincts more often than not, and then perhaps feels bad about it later on. But feeling bad about hurting you won't stop him from doing it - it's as though he just can't help himself because it's just in his nature to give in to temptation when it comes his way. The problem is that there's no guarantee that this individual will ever change, even if he genuinely wants to.
There is much pain in your relationship with your husband, signified by both the three and six of swords. Your heart is torn between loyalty and love for your husband, and logic that tells you it's a toxic relationship that most likely will never get better. You want to be happy, you want peace, you want a monogamous relationship where your love interest feels the same about you as you feel about him. Unfortunately, this probably isn't going to happen in your current relationship.
Your love situation signifies betrayal and pain; your challenge is to logically review your situation without letting your emotions rule. Although you feel sadness when you think of ending your relationship and maybe guilt over the thought of being disloyal and ending your marriage, your challenge is to put those emotions aside and truly think about what will make you happy and most importantly, what you really want out of life and from a love relationship, regardless of whom it is with.
Your recent past, signified by the ace of swords, again depicts circumstances in which you may have had an insight or been able to think clearly about your situation and your future. There is a warning here that may indicate that even if you decide to leave your husband for this other man, that relationship has no guarantee of succeeding, either. You could be going from the frying pan into the fire, as there is no guarantee that the grass may be greener on the other side, so to speak. Keep in mind that it always takes two; which means that you have contributed to the pain in your marriage in your own way, and so you need to really think about these things in order to make sure that your next relationship will be better - if you decide to leave your marriage. In other words, you have your own house to get in order, your own healing to undertake. Think about how you contribute to the relationship and see if there are changes that you would like to make. Just keep in mind that whether you stay or whether you leave, you will need to look inside yourself to make necessary changes in order to grow.
The ten of wands is basically an auspicious card in this placement, I think. Don't be afraid to ask for help; realizing you need help and asking for it is actually a sign of strength. You may feel the weight of the world is on your shoulders and that you will surely break under the burden of your situation, but rely on your inner strength, and if you are spiritual, rely on whatever higher power you believe in for strength and guidance. Make sure that whatever you do is for the right reason/s.
I think the handwriting really is on the wall with Death as your Near Future card. You know this means a big change, a transformation, an end to an old situation so that something new can begin. This situation may not be of your own making - it may be forced upon you, but in the greater scheme of things, it is probably for the best. Better not to hang on too tightly, and to reflect on what and who is holding you back from your true happiness and desires. It may just be you that stands in your way. It hurts to let go of our past, but we all face this at some point or another in our lives, whether it is a lost love, our youth, health, etc. We just simply have to let go and embrace the new, regardless of how painful it is to do it. I think this card in this placement means exactly that. Whether that means letting go of your husband or the new guy, I don't know. Only you know that. Listen to your inner voice. But again, I see this more as a forced situation, so you may not have a choice in the physical sense.
I see the Three of Wands as signifying that you have the strength and willpower to get through whatever is coming your way. You are more resilient than you think, and you will need to rely on this. Again, asking for help is favorable, whether that be family, friends, or professional help to see you through what is most likely to be a painful transformation or change. You will most likely find qualities in yourself that will serve you in good stead in the years to come. Also, even though things may appear difficult or impossible in the beginning, you can persevere and your success in getting through this difficult emotional time will gain for you life skills and knowledge that you can pass on to others, as well as keep for yourself.
The Nine of Cups as your Significant Other is a good card that signifies happiness in love, whether that means with your husband or this new guy or some other guy altogether. There is the potential for lasting happiness with someone who will love you as you deserve to be loved. There is a caution to be careful that you don't mistake physical attraction or sex for the whole enchilada - for a relationship to be successful, there must be a balance of physical, emotional, and spiritual energies. In other words, don't settle for great sex, but a rotten relationship in every other way. You CAN have it all, and should strive for that. Don't settle for anything less.
In conjunction with the Ten of Pentacles as your advice card, I think this means that you are a person that values the marriage relationship and are looking for something of lasting value that you can pass on, so to speak, to your children. You want a stable home life, respect, companionship, passion, financial security, etc. These are the things that make you a rich person - not just material wealth, but the richness of family and friends. This is the legacy that you value. This is the kind of life you should strive to attain, because it's what completes you and it's what you have to give to your children, grandchildren, etc. - love and family. Having a meaningful marriage and family life is important to you, and it's time you stop trying to ignore that.
Your last card is perhaps the toughest to interpret. Traditionally, the Five of Swords generally means defeat. Even if you give something your best effort, you could still be defeated. Or maybe you defeat someone in an unethical way. I think the best interpretation I could give is that regardless of what happens in your marriage or with this other guy, even if you end up leaving your husband and the other relationship comes to naught, the important thing is that you learn from the experience and don't allow yourself to feel depressed, or defeated. Just get back up and keep going. And if you do leave your relationship, whether this one or a future one, just be sure that you do it gracefully, without revenge, without shame. In other words, whatever you do, make sure it's for the right reason/s.
Also, learn from your mistakes so that you don't make the same mistake again. As I said earlier, it takes two to make a couple, so no one person is all to blame. Each of us contributes to every relationship we have. If your marriage does end, take the time to reflect on how your contributed to both the positives and the negatives of the relationship, and take that with you into your future relationship/s. Learn to pick your battles and let the rest go. That being said, it's much easier to overlook dirty socks and underwear thrown on the floor than it is to overlook an illicit affair.
Overall, I would venture to say that this reading signifies that you need to do alot of reflecting and thinking about your situation. Be truthful with yourself and make sure that you don't have an affair just because you think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Think about your relationship with your husband. You're obviously loyal to him and commitment obviously means a great deal to you; but is he really the person you need? Do you love him because of his generosity, sense of humor, and the way he loves you - or are you just used to him? Does he fulfill you? Is he your soulmate? Your best friend? Can you trust him with your life? Are his philandering days over now? Does he appreciate you? Now, flip the questions and ask the same of yourself - do you consider yourself his soulmate? Are you his best friend? Can he trust you with his life? Do you want to be all that to him, still?
Whatever you decide, your cards definitely indicate the need for careful thought and contemplation. Don't do anything in haste. Make sure of your own motives. Question your own feelings. Are you thinking of leaving because it's what YOU need to do, even if it means you'll be alone? There's a big difference in leaving a relationship because it is not satisfying, or because it's toxic or bad for you - and leaving because you want to be with someone else.
Again, it's dealing with one relationship at a time. Deal with the old before you deal with the new. Decide if you still want a relationship with your husband, but base that on just you and your husband, without the other guy. You should make a clean break before you think of starting something new, regardless of when or with whom that might be.
I'd say that if you want to see how compatible you are with either your husband or the new guy, try a compatibility reading with either astrology or numerology. If you do astrology, you'll need the birth times of the parties involved....
Good luck and stay strong!
RE: I have the numbers, what do they mean for me???
Hey Donna Rae, googled it too, and here's one site that might be interesting to you: and here's another: and this one's just for fun:
I'd say there definitely is something about the number 23 - but why do you see it, when, and where? I think the when and where might give you some insight into the why and what.
RE: New Member Welcome!
Hi Angie - I hear what you're saying! But here's the thing - I find astrology, numerology, and psychology pretty awesome tools to use on the pathway of life. If you want to understand and predict human behavior, then you have to observe human behavior and that's psychology. It has an important place in life.
Astrology can give an insight into the influences that play in a person's life, from birth on up, and I definitely think it helps give us an idea of how we should plan for and respond to certain planetary configurations, etc. Plus, I think it's a useful tool for understanding ourselves, as is psychology.
I think numerology can be quite uncanny, and sometimes I rely on it more than I do what's going on in the sky at any given time. Numbers are marvelous things, although they don't seem to like me much! I really think that pretty much everything in the universe can be defined by numbers. For example, the relationship between mathematics and music. One would think the two are totally unrelated, but apparently they are very much related. All I know is that I find numerology to be even more spot on as far as what's going on around me than even astrology usually is.
Feng shui is, to me, a lesser form of these arts, only because it doesn't really delve into the depths of personality, etc., like the others. But as far as making sure the energy is flowing unencumbered, offsetting any negative energy, and promoting positive energy, I think feng shui has its merits. I'm just not as familiar with them as I am the other three.
I'm still trying to figure out the bagua thing. Whole house versus room by room...how can it be both? Anybody?
RE: New Member Welcome!
I've been putzing around with feng shui for a few years now, and I'm still unclear about the best way to read a room. I've read where you should adjust your bagua to the actual compass, and I've heard some say that it should be adjusted from when you walk in your front door. I tend to agree with the latter, but then what about room to room? Should the bagua be overlaid for the entire house? Or by room? And then is the doorway to each room considered the starting point? I've always been curious about that, and since I'm a Virgo, I need to know!
RE: Who Here Is A Cusp?
Sacogirl, I checked three different ephemeris sites, and without knowing your son's time and place of birth, the sun was approx. 28 deg virgo on Sept. 21, 2001. Since each sign has only 30 degrees, your son was fairly close to the end of the sign. In fact, by the 24 Sept, the sun had moved to Libra. Generally, most astrologers don't pay too much attention to cusps, since a thorough planetary analysis gives a much more detailed view of a birth chart than just the sun sign, cusp or no.
I'd say the "big three" are sun sign, moon sign, and ascendant. Astrodient (astro.com) has an ephemeris, plus you can get a free astro chart by plugging in the birth info - not an interpretation or a report, but the birth chart only. At least that would tell you where your son's planets are. Time and place of birth are definitely needed for the most accurate info (as well as date, of course).
As far as different signs for different years - maybe, by a day or so, just because there really isn't a full 365 days in our calendar year, and so adjustments must be made. It's been awhile since I've calculated a chart by hand (God bless technology!), but I might also mention that there are many different systems that astrologers use, so that might make a difference in some instances.
However, according to most western systems, I think it's safe to say that your son is a bonafide Virgo - 3rd decanate, and you could say a Libra cusp. But keep in mind that the closer one is to that 30 deg/1deg changeover, the more the individual would have traits of both astrological signs.
Again, though, the moon sign and rising sign are, I think, more important overall to your son's personality than the cusp thing.
Have you ever considered having your son's chart done professionally? There are some astrologers that have specific programs just for doing kids' charts, and your son is probably old enough now that it might be worth it.
I think my son was around 9 or 10 when I first had his done. Numerology is also uncanny - sometimes I think more so than astrology, even. Check out decoz.com. They have a neat little gadget for finding lost items that really works!
RE: Who Here Is A Cusp?
Hi, I am a Leo/Virgo cusp. My sun is 1deg.35min.Virgo. I was born at 2:22 pm and, as luck would have it, I also have a 22 Life Path in Numerology.
However, I'm pretty much a mess, for all that cosmic potential. Maybe I'm still waiting for my rising star, in which case, since I'm getting close to my 6th decade, it better "git-a-gittin'" !